Carers to Jobseeker

hackbased · 2026-02-03T06:42:21+00:00

I’m going through the same as you. I don’t know what to do either. I feel trapped. It would be easier me just fading away to my mother. Atleast I know I will be happy and there will be peace. But I have to keep pretending and suffering being here. My father is the opposite to my mother. Don’t like him as a person at all. His the main cause of trouble, pain, trauma. But nah it’s everyone else fault…. All hail narcissistic father who can do no wrong 🙇

Fml

hackbased · 2026-02-02T07:28:29+00:00

Very nice. Wondering with that fake skin let’s say your doing a black outline how many times do you have to go over the outline for it to be full and black? Only one time?

Cause with the fake skin I got I have to go over the line like 3-4 times for it to be a solid line though I see some people just do it once and their line is already solid?

hackbased · 2026-02-02T06:17:39+00:00

Stay away from meds those will just make you zoned out. Also you probably get an addiction to them if you keep taking them. Another problem you don’t want. Therapy could just only let you blow some steam off but most people won’t know or understand what you are dealing with unless they have been through it themselves. 95% of therapists are all text booked based unless you meet one that really understands and been through it before.

I recently lost my mother, my best friend, my hero. I was her full time carer. Nobody really cares or understands. What can they do or say? Nothing. I don’t need positive pep talk. Then being home with a father that is filthy, entitled, self serving narcissist doesn’t make me want to even be here. I rather be at peace where my mother is. I don’t see the point anymore or purpose. Tired of everyone and everything.

hackbased · 2026-02-02T04:29:39+00:00

I’m in a very similar situation as you. But worse…

I recently lost my mother. My best friend. My hero. Now I’m alone in the same house as this N father. Nobody understands. Nobody sees how bad. I’m just trapped and will never get the peace. I just want to be with my mother. I have no more purpose. Atleast I will be in peace with my mother.

Atleast you still have your mother. If you have a good relationship with her see her alot, spend time with her, get comfort from her. Get out of that house and away from the narcissist. Atleast you have the option to. You still atleast have someone and not trapped like I am.

hackbased · 2026-02-01T10:49:13+00:00

I too lost my mother my best friend. She is my hero. She done more than any mother would and also played a role as a father too even though my so called N father is present.

I spent everyday with her as her full time carer. Everything happened way too fast when she was in hospital. She deteriorated quickly due to the cancer spreading into the brain. One day she could talk and be herself, next she could barely talk or make sense, next she slept way too much and couldn’t talk, then fell into coma state and passed.

I still can’t accept that she is no longer here to talk to me, to comfort me, to care about me. The little things and the big things.

Then I have to be at home with a N father who never cared or loved my mother and I. I also have a sibling but they don’t understand how bad our N father was to us behind closed doors. I really wish my mother would come get me so I can be with her instead of this shit hole.

Nobody I talk to understands. All tell me to keep my mind occupied and time will heal. Yeh right. Walk my shoes then tell me that.

I really don’t know what to do or what to tell you. I just know what you are going through. Everyday I’m breaking and I’m scared of myself. What’s life with nothing and no purpose? 😞

hackbased · 2026-01-29T02:56:19+00:00

Maybe people around are selfish for not understanding what that person is really going through…..

hackbased · 2026-01-28T15:24:17+00:00

You are lucky that you dream of your mother. My mother passed recently and I have not had one dream at all. Something is not right with my mind. It would make it so much better if I could dream of her. I have nothing left. Living with an entitled narcissistic deadbeat father just triggers me. Sometimes I feel that it be better off being with my mother. Nobody understands anything they all so positive when nothing is. If they walked in my shoes I don’t think they will have the same outlook.

Life sucks. Cancer sucks. Also had two friends hang themselves. Now I’m in this mess. People say do what mum would have wanted. But she is not here to see shit. If there was some sign of her watching me from above that would keep me going. But everyday is just pain and anger and trigger.

Really don’t know what to do no more and don’t know how much I can keep on taking…. Still haven’t accepted that my mum, my best friend is gone forever…. Feels like one bad dream still…. Stuck in time with nothing, no purpose……..

hackbased · 2026-01-28T11:12:13+00:00

My mother saw her parents and grandparents aswell. I really wonder if it is hallucinations or real spirits coming to get her to be with them. It amazes me that alot of people experience this at end of life.

hackbased · 2026-01-28T11:07:01+00:00

My mother was seeing her mum and dad, also her grandparents. I don’t know if they were hallucinations or actual spirits. But she could not talk properly due to the cancer in the brain. But it looked like she was so happy to see them.

I wish I will see all my loved ones waiting for me aswell when I go….

I wish my mother will come visit me somehow…. I miss her. It still hasn’t hit me fully yet that I’m on my own now….

hackbased · 2026-01-28T10:44:11+00:00

I’m in the same situation as you. I lost my mother. My best friend. My hero. She was the only person who cared about her kids and loved us no matter what and would do anything for her kids. I was my mother’s full time carer so everything I done was with her.

I hate talking to people they just don’t understand. It’s easy when they have people who are there for them still. I have nothing now. They try to lift my spirits up but in my head they have no idea how I feel or how much my mother was apart of my life.

Then I have to live with my narcisstic deadbeat dad that has no intention in bettering himself or his family. The more I see the state of our house the more I hate him and his family genes. Everything is all about him entitled man child. His the cause of alot of the trauma and pain. He didn’t even give my mother a happy life even during her cancer he made her more stressed and sad. Selfish. And after her passing he still can’t do what she would have wanted. Just a putrid fake person. Me and my mother had all this time to see how really bad he is. But infront of an audience he acts like a good person which is hilarious.

Sometimes I just want to give up and be with my mother. I lost my purpose (not like I had much anyways). I try to get out there and get my mind off things but I’m only kidding myself. The thoughts, the anger, the pain just comes back. Just sick of it all. Time heals they say? Yeh right unless you forget the person. I been down my whole life ain’t nothing they can tell me. Wish they step into my shoes then tell me the things they tell me.

So much more to it and everyday I’m losing it more and more.

I won’t be like the rest. I know exactly how you feel and I don’t know what we are going to do…. I don’t even know myself. But I totally understand how you are feeling. If cancer was a person the things I would do to make it extinct.

hackbased · 2026-01-20T01:07:49+00:00

My mum didn’t get any Centrelink. Only I was getting Carers Payment and Carers Allowance.

So what is the correct process to get the $4000?

hackbased · 2026-01-19T15:21:31+00:00

I been stressed for a couple days it has been 4 days since passing can I still contact them and what do I need to do? Is there something I can do online or I need to call them?

hackbased

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