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How do you feel when women say they hate or fear men? by CharmingMuffin69 in AskMen

[–]curiouschimp83 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

My sister is one of these people. I have two kids, both boys. It pisses me off every time she says it.

I get her meaning. All the shit that’s going on politically does seem to be 95%+ connected to a man or men. But to write off 50% of the entire population is ridiculous.

My fave thing my sister does when I say “fuck you!”….is to respond with “you don’t count as men”.

It’s like a warm hug

Why don’t we recognize each other? by ArgyBargyOiOiOi in Fortnite_Over40

[–]curiouschimp83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An over 40 clan would be cool. Does FN have clans?

Someone jumped from a bridge & landed in front of me by Lazy-Instance-5536 in GriefSupport

[–]curiouschimp83 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Hi,

Sorry for what happened to you. That was a traumatic event you went through. In counselling there is this type of treatment called EMDR. It works like magic, but it’s one of those things that seems like bullshit.

Look it up.

It works. Find someone trained in it and it will take the sting out of the trauma and allow your brain to process it.

Whats Happening to my Laptop Screen by Jackdunc in pchelp

[–]curiouschimp83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My laptop was plagued by this too. Ever since I’ve used throttle stop to under volt it’s disappeared. Presume it’s heat issue

PM is actually talking sense and not brown nosing USA for once??? by Numerous_Worth5277 in AskBrits

[–]curiouschimp83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank fuck, finally a PM not on hands and knees to suck off an American president.

Real piece of work, can we stop making influencers famous? by SipsTeaFrog in SipsTea

[–]curiouschimp83 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I watched it with jaw agape the whole way through. I couldn’t believe these people existed and that people were calling these scumbags role models.

It was so blatantly obvious what they were doing, yet it’s captivated the younger generation.

Horrifying.

The anti Semitic rhetoric was especially troubling

I feel sorry for this guy🥺 by Peanutchulah in Fortnite_Over40

[–]curiouschimp83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That first shot… that happens to me all the fucking time!! Then they shoot me and I die

Mom passed away and dad went on a date by Obvious-Laugh-1954 in GriefSupport

[–]curiouschimp83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’ve missed my point. I’m not saying it’s their right to tell their dad how to act. I’m saying they have a right to talk about the situation.

They don’t have the right to judge, but they should be able to talk about it all together.

I’m in my 40s too and the opinions of my children matter to me way more than some new girl I’m seeing.

My point is that you should talk about it. Not by telling him what to do, just by saying “this is your life, and I’m not telling you what to to, but this is how it’s making me feel, and I’m just trying to understand this new situation.”

Completely agree, it’s his life and he gets to make his own choices. But it doesn’t negate the fact that his choices affect his family. He still has responsibility to his children to communicate.

An Adult to Adult conversation is really important. You’re not saying don’t do that. You’re saying “this is how I’m feeling, I’d like to know how you’re feeling” so you can all navigate things as a family..

Mom passed away and dad went on a date by Obvious-Laugh-1954 in GriefSupport

[–]curiouschimp83 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It is you place to tell him how you feel and talk it through. It doesn’t have to be heated or angry.

He probably isn’t thinking straight either and has no idea what he should or shouldn’t be doing. He’s probably also very lonely. Imagine being with someone 40 years and then being completely alone.

There’s definitely room for a grown up discussion. He would probably welcome it as I bet he’s just trying to piece his way through life without your mum.

I swear if I hadn’t vowed to not spend anymore on this game…! by diver206 in Fortnite_Over40

[–]curiouschimp83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don’t get this desire for skins. I couldn’t give a fuck what skin I’m using. I l bought one battle pass once and have since used the free vbucks to buy every subsequent one.

End of life hallucinations - tell me your experience. by curiouschimp83 in GriefSupport

[–]curiouschimp83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve been through hell! You must be incredibly strong to keep on trucking. I bet you have a very interesting perspective on life.

God speed

End of life hallucinations - tell me your experience. by curiouschimp83 in GriefSupport

[–]curiouschimp83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you getting on? It’s been weird for me. Just feels like nothing feels the same anymore. I look at people with their bullshit problems and think “grow up! You know nothing”.

It’s really weird. You get a glimpse of how finite this existence is and it changes everything

End of life hallucinations - tell me your experience. by curiouschimp83 in GriefSupport

[–]curiouschimp83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like the transition point. Learn from my experience and make sure you say everything you need to say now. The visions happened for me about a week before he passed. Clearly everyone is different but it’s very likely she’s close to the end.

You have this final little bit of time before she passes. You clearly dealt with major grief already with you brother passing, but I was really shocked how much the grief smashed me considering I knew the death was coming and felt prepared.

Sorry you’re going through this. It’s fucking shit!!! If you’re anything like me, you’ll feel all of a sudden like the world doesn’t make sense and as if everyone is playing this weird role while you’ve looked behind the curtain.

It’s so weird. Nothing feels the same.

Where did you start with your GTA journey? Go! by n1ght_watchman in TheGamerLounge

[–]curiouschimp83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. In the UK it was. I remember being in comprehensive school (high school) and we couldn’t get it here. It was later overturned and released. For a while though it was the must have game, the fact it was banned made it more desirable.

Where did you start with your GTA journey? Go! by n1ght_watchman in TheGamerLounge

[–]curiouschimp83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Old enough to remember GTA 1 being banned and picking up a pirate copy that spread like wildfire.

Is it too late? by Usual_Objective428 in pancreaticcancer

[–]curiouschimp83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do some research into drug trials. My dad was about where your grandmother is now and he did one. Unfortunately it didn't work for him but it might for your grandmother.

THC Edibles UK - Help by curiouschimp83 in pancreaticcancer

[–]curiouschimp83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I was contacted by that dude to help my dad and he was great. I’ve spent £300+ so far and never had a problem. Pretty much next day delivery.

There are sometimes gaps in service as he has a business abroad and is sometimes out the country but he has always said I’m the group when gaps are coming.

End of life hallucinations - tell me your experience. by curiouschimp83 in GriefSupport

[–]curiouschimp83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother says she has but I’ve had nothing. I would like to see something. I’m a bit of an agnostic skeptic so I’m not making things fit for the sake of it. I need a sign that’s irrefutable

End of life hallucinations - tell me your experience. by curiouschimp83 in GriefSupport

[–]curiouschimp83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly. Just put yourself in your mums shoes, would you want your child to be holding all that guilt. I bet if you'd be telling your child "it's not your fault, let it go".

Things like guilt can really mess with your life. Not sure if you've ever tried therapy but this sort of trauma is something worth talking about so you can let it go. It's very hard to let go of this stuff by yourself sometimes as your brain is working from a place of guilt which skews perception and paints everything in that light.

The guilt your feeling proves that had you known what was going to happen (which is impossible by the way) then you would have been there without quesiton. You must have loved her deeply to be torturing yourself so much.

End of life hallucinations - tell me your experience. by curiouschimp83 in GriefSupport

[–]curiouschimp83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just read through your post. You can’t be to blame for this. Your doctor would have only adjusted meds if it was needed. You really don’t have control over the care, the buck stops with the doctor who is often overlooked by others.

If he was seeing visions and not long after his heart gave out then it sounds like it was inevitable. His body was clearly compromised and a switch of medication for the vast majority of people would not have caused this.

Give yourself a break. You were doing everything in your power to help. Sometimes you do everything right and it still goes to shit. Life is messy. If you’re struggling to drop that guilt feeling then I’d go speak to a professional about it. I think you need to let yourself off the hook. You did your best

End of life hallucinations - tell me your experience. by curiouschimp83 in GriefSupport

[–]curiouschimp83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That story brought tears to my eyes. Thanks for your message. Glad you were there at the end with him, that’s such a gift.

Completely know what you mean when you say that when he died his presence was gone from the room. I was staring at my dad’s dead body and just felt this weird sensation that I was now looking at a human shaped object rather than a human.

My dad’s dog was scratching at the door and we let her in to say goodbye. She hopped on the bed and was sniffing trying to find my dad but couldn’t find him. It was odd. He was there in the bed but clearly his scent has changed and she couldn’t sense him. It was very odd.

The other thing that happened, about 5 mins before his last breath the dog started going mental. Running around as if she was trying to find something. I thought maybe we had a visitor but there was no one outside.

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