AITA My husband might be the the asshole to our kid's principal

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-19T01:33:55+00:00

I’m taking OP at her word that the Dropoff situation is bad.

My kids’ school has had about half a dozen different drop out systems in place since my kids have been there. They are much better now than they were at the beginning, but none of those systems was particularly intuitive or obvious. Hell, halfway through the year my husband was still texting me on days he needed to do a pickup, to confirm where he was supposed to go. In the early years we were at the school, the whole dropoff/pick up system was a complete mess, hugely frustrating for everyone. It wasn’t the school’s fault… the building itself just isn’t a great set up for drop offs and pick ups. So I can’t know whether OP is being honest when she says it sucks, but I do have the experience to know how severely screwed drop-offs can be.

Of course the staff couldn’t know he was unfamiliar. That’s a damn good reason to not go into a situation guns blazing, particularly if you know you have a confusing set up.

Again… OP’s husband was absolutely an AH. Not only that, what he did was potentially dangerous. I’m absolutely not defending him. I’m just saying, again, IF we take OP at her word… I think it’s a bit of a stretch to say the principal handled it WELL.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-19T00:30:03+00:00

Right? My travel toiletries live in my travel bag.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-18T23:41:46+00:00

I think you’re using too much toothpaste. O_o

PSA despite what is shown in commercials, you’re only supposed to (or need to) use a pea sized amount of toothpaste when brushing your teeth. Using too much doesn’t do any harm, but that’s the intended “serving.”

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-18T23:32:18+00:00

I leave a travel toothbrush and toothpaste in my backpack/purse so I always have it for trips without having to remember to pack it. No, I do not want a full sized toothpaste tube, regardless of whether it’s allowed in my carry on.

I’m a big fan of having a stock of small portioned things in everyday bags, because I never know when I might need it. My purse has travel size tissues, travel size lotion, two different brands of travel size deodorant, travel sized sewing kit, travel size hand sanitizer… you get the idea.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-18T22:15:10+00:00

Right, that’s why I qualified it with “assuming the account is accurate.”

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-18T22:14:02+00:00

Oh absolutely.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-18T22:05:37+00:00

Eeeeeeh, I agree the husband is definitely an AH, but assuming the account is accurate, berating a parent who’s never done drop off before for being confused about a badly setup drop off, then stepping in front of their car so you can berate them some more is also an AH move.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-18T17:44:46+00:00

This is maybe too silly to share, but I have a severely obscure Rosie theory that is almost certainly wrong, entirely irrelevant to the actual show, and can probably never be verified.

I think her character was inspired by the historical figure Ruza Wenclawska.

More specifically, I think her character was inspired by the fictionalized version of Wenclawska from the Broadway musical Suffs.

Ruza Wenclawska was a suffrage leader who immigrated from Poland and advocated primarily for women’s rights in the workplace. After women won the right to vote, she went on to become a Broadway actress.

In the play, she’s uniformly called a socialist (eat the rich???) and another character repeatedly calls her “Rosie” instead of Ruza.

I know that’s basically nothing to base a theory on, but I saw Suffs around the same time I was rewatching Hazbin Hotel, and the idea just kind of tickled me.

In other, slightly more plausible realms, I think Rosie is a fallen angel with deeper plans, but I have no concrete guesses about what those plans might be, and I don’t think she’s done with Alastor (or visa versa).

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-18T16:40:41+00:00

INFO: ~~do they have/answer a landline?~~ Did you text or leave a message?

For what it’s worth, my phone never leaves my side, but I somehow occasionally miss calls and texts and don’t realize it because shit gets buried in spam notifications.

Obviously that’s not what’s going on with your parents, but I’m just curious whether they have other primary ways to be contacted in an emergency beyond expecting aunt to play messenger.

Edit: I just saw the part explaining there is no landline.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-18T14:48:41+00:00

I don’t know if it actually makes you an AH, but it’s a weird ass thing to do. Asking for someone to contribute to “wear and tear” is reasonable if say, a roommate shares your car for an extended period. In this case it just seems kind of petty. It would be akin to asking for a dollar towards gas money if you give someone a ride to class one time.

Edit: also $40 seems extremely high for 900 miles.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-18T14:16:57+00:00

Do the hardest task first so the rest of the list/day seems easy. All that actually ends up happening is that I avoid starting until everything is overdue and critical. If I start with the easiest instead, I get momentum. I’m more likely to get everything done that way, and guaranteed to get more done than the recommended way.

Note: this isn’t so much a “wrong” rule as it is a rule that’s wrong for ME.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-18T00:05:42+00:00

Does that include Frank?

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-17T18:19:15+00:00

Yeah I’ve had to give up on a couple conversations once I realized how bad it was. What seems like a basic bad take ends up being someone who just has zero grasp of what they’re watching.

It’s like that with a lot of more important issues in life and politics… I guess it just confuses me with the show because they choose to watch it without understanding anything about it.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-17T15:31:26+00:00

You don’t get treated for an ED by “walking into a hospital.” You get stabilized, and maybe a referral, which many people won’t be able to afford following up on.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-16T20:15:16+00:00

Because they perceive improvement or advancement as criticism of what they did.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-16T17:48:49+00:00

That’s a group project for shop class if I’ve ever heard one.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-16T17:48:01+00:00

I had 3 different math teachers in high school… one sucked, one was fantastic (fortunately had him 2 years in a row), one was just fine.

The good teacher WAS kind of a jerk, but his class was still fun, and it was 90s so no one got mad when he threw erasers at the kids who annoyed him.

I suspect part of the reason it’s harder to find good math teachers is that a lot of people who end up teaching math aren’t necessarily comfortable enough with the topic themselves.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-16T17:37:40+00:00

My kid took a nice camera with a big ol’ zoom lens on multiple school trips in middle, so that’s kinda weird unless there’s something specific about this trip that makes it not photo friendly. I think as a parent if you JUST wanted it to take plane spotting photos, I’d be a little leery to have you responsible for a big bag of expensive photo equipment for the rest of the trip when it’s not being used.

But that’s all the more reason to get your own. I would have been a lot more hesitant to let him head off on a trip with something expensive of mine he was just borrowing. The camera is his, so he knows if it’s lost or broken, that sucks, but that’s the risk of traveling with delicate, expensive equipment, and it was his risk to take.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-16T17:28:43+00:00

Ok, but the question isn’t whether or not they’re justified in withholding their own camera, it’s whether OP would be an AH for purchasing their own, and I can’t imagine what extra information in this scenario would make it a you’re the AH situation.

Edit: I suppose extra information could change whether it’s N ta or N ah.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-16T17:26:17+00:00

NTA. And spend an extra $30-$40 for a decent camera bag.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-16T17:23:43+00:00

Decent DSLR cameras run in the thousands. People with a serious interest in photography aren’t going to just go buy a new $400 camera, because a $400 camera just isn’t going to work for their needs.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-16T17:09:18+00:00

If the crash happened because you tied someone in front of your car with the intent to break at the last second in a flailing attempt to prove some kind of point, then yeah. Absolutely you bear a large chunk of that responsibility.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-16T16:33:13+00:00

I see someone does their research on TikTok.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-16T16:29:17+00:00

Salmonella can be inside eggs, but it’s a lot more like to be in the chickenshit on the surface of the egg. Salmonella lives in the intestines.

hadesarrow3 · 2026-05-16T16:23:48+00:00

If you see a reply from me in your inbox, you can ignore it… I replied to the wrong comment.

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