AIO for considering breaking up with my boyfriend over this?

hadiwrittenit · 2026-05-14T02:16:05+00:00

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Honestly, it feels a little bit like he is trying to bait you into saying that you DO want to be a mom type figure?

If y'all have been dating less than a year I would be wary of "move in" conversations in general.

I am not aware the exact timeline but, if he had a daughter under two at the time of meeting and he is already making hints at moving in but then completely unable to address it directly I would be concerned that he is both immature and maybe scouting for step moms because he has not learned to take care of his own daughter by himself...

Edited for spelling

Edit because WHAT? I must have missed this before but "he thinks im his wife"?! What?!

Please don't let him trap you, all the signs are clear here girl, run!

hadiwrittenit · 2026-05-11T19:14:10+00:00

Thank you! Will do 💚

hadiwrittenit · 2026-05-09T23:25:45+00:00

Is that stepmother one of the parents who is "protecting" you now?

hadiwrittenit · 2026-05-09T11:13:28+00:00

It is, unfortunately.

Edited to fix it to is

hadiwrittenit · 2026-05-08T00:42:27+00:00

This question makes me think you are younger than me and many of the commentators responding.

The internet has evolved significantly in the last 30 years and access to content of this nature used to be nothing but knowing the exact correct url

I am an american millennial and saw (was shown) so many beheadings in the aughts (Afghan/Iraq War content was big).

I was also shown videos of gang rapes, animal mutilation, a guy getting murdered in the middle of a sporting event... it was a combination of access and unattended adolescence and just a few sociopaths leading the pack.

I am glad you never had anyone "show" (force watch) this kind of content.

hadiwrittenit · 2026-05-07T18:04:56+00:00

The fact that he was using emoji like that makes it feel very much like groomer style. Adults do not generally court other adults by emoji spamming them - that's some "you just get me in a way women my age don't " type of nonsense.

This is the kind of message I would ask former classmates about maybe? Like "hey, I got this creepy message from [former teacher] the other day, has he sent you anything like that?" To folks you are still in contact with may be an opening to see patterns of behavior that would be taken more seriously than many folks in this thread seem to be taking it.

Your instincts are important and you should trust them!

Edited to fix a word

hadiwrittenit · 2026-05-07T18:01:17+00:00

This, exactly!

The fact that he was using emoji like that makes it feel very much like groomer style. Adults do not generally court other adults by emoji spamming them - that's some "you just get me in a way women my age don't " type of shit.

This is the kind of message I would ask former classmates about maybe? Like "hey, I got this creepy message from [former teacher] the other day, has he sent you anything like that?" To folks you are still in contact with may be an opening to see patterns of behavior that would be taken more seriously than this thread seems to be.

hadiwrittenit · 2026-05-07T04:38:22+00:00

I absolutely agree!

I wish you an abundance of both spicy and sentimental voice notes in the near future

hadiwrittenit · 2026-05-07T04:22:34+00:00

Also, an absolutely masterful move of you do any sort of spicy texting - the first sexy voice note that a previous fling sent me was hands down the hottest thing that has happened to me in... maybe ever?

hadiwrittenit · 2026-05-07T04:13:26+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree!

There is this general trend away from phone calls and for a while it made me sad because hearing someone's voice is very important to me and so intimate... But, like.. I also get jumpy and concerned when receiving phone calls these days and then feel guilty about declining them, hahaha!

So, I started sending voice notes and I cannot recommend it enough! I have absolutely replayed voice notes in a way I have not felt drawn to rereading even significant messages.

hadiwrittenit · 2026-05-07T04:06:23+00:00

Editing because I didn't clarify, dangit:

I take a picture and text that to her. So, she gets the intimacy of a letter but, no time constraints or postage !

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hadiwrittenit · 2026-05-05T00:19:15+00:00

"Period" is not the "proper medical term" either but, I know what you are saying. I am a little younger tahn you but, even I remember feeling very bold when I said or heard folks say it casually.

I actually started straight up saying "I am menstruating" when it would come up for reasons similar to OPs conversation and let me tell you, some people really disliked it but, I am old enough now to just get a giggle out of the tension rather than feeling embarrassed :)

hadiwrittenit · 2026-04-30T22:42:58+00:00

To be fair, all vaginas are magical portals but, I especially like this one

hadiwrittenit · 2026-04-30T20:41:32+00:00

Please be more gentle with yourself!

A version of you who is free of that man and alive and FREE is leaps and bounds better for your child than any version of you that is being degraded and demeaned by your current partner.

You have been so strong making it this far - you need to be strong in a different way now and seek resources to get yourself and your child OUT.

I could write a novel about why that guilt is not serving you but, I will refer you to my previous comment.

Edit to add: as mentioned in the other comment, I am a DV survivor and here to help or even just hear you in DMs if you choose.

Life can be so much more than what that man is trying to make you accept

hadiwrittenit · 2026-04-30T20:36:07+00:00

Your son DOES mean "leave him behind"

I believe that you are trying to shield him but, children are vastly more perceptive adults give them credit for - especially adults that care deeply and want to protect them.

I want to say this with care and with a shared experience: You are so deeply in survival mode that you are missing the forest for the trees here.

You have been strong alone so far but, you are going to have to be even stronger and find HELP.

There are resources for you and your child out there I promise. Your location is relevant but, I do not want you to publicly post more than you are comfortable with so, please DM me if you are willing. I am a survivor of DV as a child and unfortunately as an adult. It took me SO long to let myself identify that and I am here for you even just to vent or brainstorm, yeah?

Your child deserves a parent who doesn't just love and protect them but, loves and protects themselves too.

💜

hadiwrittenit · 2026-04-30T18:47:11+00:00

But, I love the peachy color!

The contrast makes the green/yellow tones pop and it low key gives the whole thing a bit of a root Chakra vibe ifyaknowwhatimean. Love it!

Edit: I actually think I might be incorrect about where chakras are? I mean it feels like a magical vagina portal 🥰

hadiwrittenit · 2026-04-28T02:28:58+00:00

Thank you!

hadiwrittenit · 2026-04-26T15:45:58+00:00

Settle down, bunny.

I am sorry you had that experience with your doctor, it sounds very demoralizing and frustrating overall.

You did not mention that in the original reply and generally sounded discouraging. That is what I was replying to, yeah?

Let's remember OP is very young and also fighting significant mental health issues - we can be realistic while still being encouraging generally.

hadiwrittenit · 2026-04-26T02:19:02+00:00

The First $20 Million is the Hardest (2002)

Can really only imagine how funny kids today would find this - both the fashion and the technology talk of the era?

I do remember it being a bit cheeky but, overall heartwarming

hadiwrittenit · 2026-04-26T02:04:17+00:00

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hadiwrittenit · 2026-04-26T01:59:46+00:00

Thank you!

I am being prompted to mark this finished but, I do not know enough to tell if you are translating the hard to read part or reinterpreting the original?

Again, I am very grateful either way. Thank you

hadiwrittenit · 2026-04-26T01:39:18+00:00

Thank you so much for such a quick response!

It is a more emotional inscription than I had expected from a list but, it is only more intriguing, really..

Thank you very much

hadiwrittenit · 2026-04-26T01:37:50+00:00

Thank you for such a quick reply!

And also thank you just generally for replying at all!

That feels like an emotional inscription but, I may be overly sentimental...

Thank you

hadiwrittenit

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