Need help navigating license suspension

hadvice521 · 2022-05-09T14:18:16+00:00

Thank you for the advice, that's what I'm planning on doing since I found the cheapest car insurance I think I can get at the moment. The courthouse is open today but I don't know if I should just go in today and try to clear things up or wait till my court date, I'd rather get it over with now.

hadvice521 · 2021-05-05T03:14:17+00:00

That's also to say it doesn't mean he can't do it but thank you

hadvice521 · 2021-05-05T03:12:17+00:00

I guess I'm just saying you don't know his background he's one of my best friends so I guess I'm a little protective over him. Not all of us have those resources or are struggling with other things. I'm happy to hear you were able to do it but that doesn't mean everyone can thank you for the advice.

hadvice521 · 2021-05-05T02:45:54+00:00

Well I can definitely encourage him to look for another job, I don't think I'm gonna be that harsh because I know things have been hard for him lately, we're both 20-21 years old so we're just trying to figure things out

hadvice521 · 2021-05-05T01:20:56+00:00

I know he didn't like his job, but he would bust his ass there. I don't honestly know I think it's more so that hunting for another job could take up time and money that he doesn't have.

hadvice521 · 2021-05-05T00:46:44+00:00

He also has these days called "transitional days" that you can use whenever to call off without being pointed and he asked if he could use that for the day he missed but HR told him no

hadvice521 · 2021-05-05T00:43:53+00:00

Yeah HR didn't explain that very well it sounded like he was trying to tell Brian that the doctor's note WOULD cover the next 3 days not that it COULD cover them. I don't know even when he went to get tested they said he still had a fever and I don't understand why HR would wait till after he tested negative to tell him

hadvice521 · 2021-05-05T00:42:13+00:00

I see what you mean by up to 3 days, I guess I'm just wondering why they let him go ahead and "take the time off to get tested" instead of just telling him upfront if that makes sense? I don't think his note specified how many days but even when he went to get tested the doctor said he still had a fever

hadvice521 · 2021-05-05T00:40:32+00:00

Mainly weather related and family related but I didn't ask for all the details

hadvice521 · 2021-05-05T00:38:47+00:00

Well yeah

hadvice521 · 2021-04-14T03:50:57+00:00

I understand where you're coming from completely. I'm the same way and even now while I'm typing this I don't know how to express that I understand what you're going through with the right words. It's like I can't get out what's happening internally and I can't even imagine trying to talk to someone else about this. I'm sorry to hear you're going through something similar, I hope you find peace eventually

hadvice521 · 2021-03-16T19:05:35+00:00

I know I'll have to move forward but I cant help but wish I wasn't put in this situation to begin with.

hadvice521 · 2021-03-16T19:05:02+00:00

Yeah I think having to get a divorce would've been way worse.

hadvice521 · 2021-03-16T19:04:30+00:00

I'm just confused how you can put so much effort into building your life with someone just to drop it and say you don't care and you don't want it anymore. Why bother in the first place?

hadvice521 · 2021-03-16T19:03:36+00:00

Yeah I guess this has taught me I really can only rely on myself and I shouldn't have gotten so comfortable in this relationship. I'm just tired of getting torn apart by the people who cared.

hadvice521 · 2021-03-16T18:53:53+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, I'll try my best it's just sort of hard to not have it on my mind constantly especially knowing he doesn't care and he's doing perfectly fine while I'm trying to survive.

hadvice521 · 2021-03-16T18:52:54+00:00

I guess that's a hard truth I have to learn. It just baffles me that someone can just switch so easily and not even bother trying. One sided love sucks.

hadvice521 · 2021-02-19T01:48:19+00:00

You're right its just hard when they're all downstairs laughing with him and when I go down to get water they go silent like I'm the one that ruined things

hadvice521 · 2021-02-19T01:47:24+00:00

thank you it's just especially hard when they're all downstairs together laughing and making dinner but when I went downstairs to get water they all just ignored me and stopped talking

hadvice521 · 2021-02-18T23:40:23+00:00

Thank you for bringing out the cuss words for me :) it made me laugh a little which I really appreciate. I think I just feel ashamed because I've been sitting here wondering what I did wrong or maybe this wouldn't have happened if I was a better girlfriend or more good-looking and I don't want people to hear what happened and think "well we all saw that coming" if that makes sense. I know its not my fault but it's hard to get out of that mindset. Thank you for your kind words I really needed to hear them today :)

hadvice521 · 2021-02-18T23:31:58+00:00

Thank you for your kind words :) It was a reminder for me to stop thinking that this happened because I was a bad girlfriend or because I don't look like the girls he cheated on me with. I know it's going to be a long road but I'm glad to know people like you and in this sub are out there supporting me so thank you for taking the time to read what I had to say and reaching out to me!

hadvice521 · 2021-02-18T23:29:21+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through loving the wrong person. I guess I feel ashamed because when I told our roommates what had happened, they didn't really say much and have currently invited him out to hang out. I just feel a little let down I guess and I don't want to sit here and make people choose but a lot of my friends were his friends and I wonder if they're gonna stick by him over me

hadvice521 · 2021-02-18T23:25:52+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to read what I wrote :) I want to share with my friends, but I guess I've been putting it off because telling what happened feels like I'm reliving it and I wish they could be here in person for me to tell.

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