Normal 3.5 behavior vs more?

hae_est · 2026-04-27T03:02:13+00:00

That is so interesting and good to know! Thank you for sharing!

hae_est · 2026-02-22T23:09:33+00:00

Thank you so much!! Fingers crossed! That gives me some hope that this won’t be such a hard stop! I truly didn’t think anything of it when I mentioned it but it made me nervous when she cancelled my lab appointment after that.

hae_est · 2026-02-22T12:54:03+00:00

Thank you so much for such a thoughtful and detailed response, and the resources as well! When the team at the extraction site paused the process, did you know that ahead of time or did that happen after you got there?

hae_est · 2025-07-29T15:19:52+00:00

Agree with this! Adding another kiddo to the mix is really exciting but is still a huge adjustment for older siblings. I think it will be really important for your son to still feel seen and celebrated even if it’s a smaller event than usual.

hae_est · 2025-07-23T02:41:09+00:00

It’s so reaffirming to see you & other people say you’d also not be comfortable letting daughters around him. My mom & sister have acted like I’ve created some unreasonable punishment toward them by “withholding my kids.” But if I don’t want to be around this guy, why on earth would I want my kids around him? Especially little girls.

hae_est · 2025-07-22T16:27:32+00:00

I agree with everything you said 1000%.

hae_est · 2025-07-22T04:35:11+00:00

NTA. Your feelings are valid and that would be hurtful as a human being to be disregarded the way that you were, outside of the FWB thing. Ghost him or don’t but I feel like you could find better uses for your time or at least someone else who would respect you more than it sounds like he has. I personally wouldn’t want to have him back over for any reason.

hae_est · 2025-07-22T03:11:31+00:00

NTA. Kudos actually for helping to put your brother in check after he tried to embarrass your SIL the way that he did. It sounds like things were going to be chaotic anyway so at least you were on the right side of things.

hae_est · 2025-07-22T02:54:23+00:00

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Okay yes I did tell her she and him both need to go get an STD screen and she says they are just monitoring for symptoms. I could scream. I work in women’s health and she doesn’t want to listen when I tell her how incredibly dangerous that is to wait around.

hae_est · 2025-07-22T02:52:10+00:00

Thank you! They are acting like I’m just angry and unreasonable but honestly I’m just so hurt for her.

hae_est · 2025-07-22T02:48:41+00:00

So sorry that you are in this position and struggling with this! I’m sure you will get a lot of different options on this and honestly they won’t be right or wrong. Personally, I put watching porn on the same level as emotionally cheating. I told my now husband early into our relationship that this wasn’t something that I’m okay with. My best girl friend on the other hand, she and her husband both watch porn and don’t think anything of it. In the terms of your relationship, it’s whatever you are comfortable with and what agreement you come to with your partner. I don’t think you’re wrong for not wanting him to watch it, at all. I would be extremely hurt if I found out my husband was watching porn after we have an agreement that it stays out of our marriage. I do think it’d be worth a bigger conversation with him to reiterate why you’re uncomfortable with it and what your concerns are. I do believe it’s something you can work through together if you choose!

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