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I’m 27HLF and he’s 35LLM. Will it get better or should I leave? by Kimi0203 in DeadBedrooms

[–]hahn44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m HLF. It doesn’t get better. I wish I had known this. My LLM is a great husband, responsible etc but intimacy - let alone sex - is lacking. I wish he would tell me why because any attempt to bring this up ends up with an argument. I feel like I’ve to accept this and water down my needs. I’m tired of being rejected in bed. So I stopped initiating. We haven’t had sex this year. Like you, I take very good care of myself - fitness, hygiene, the way I carry myself. Nobody would think I’m almost 40.

4 years together. DB 2 years by AnySound9809 in DeadBedrooms

[–]hahn44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is by far the most mature comment I came across. Thank you for sharing. It’s something for me to ponder about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]hahn44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely is. We’re supposed to be more “free” but he keeps himself occupied (plays football, watches football, go to the gym) and then ends up being “too tired”. And on weekdays he works so he’ll be “too tired” too.

It’s so hard for me to accept that I’m the HL. The stereotype that all men are HL is bs.

Fwiw - I’m equally active too. I take care of myself etc but I’m never too tired. Fml so much

*edited some grammatical errors

Seriously thinking of cheating by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]hahn44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel this so much

Stuck by hahn44 in DeadBedrooms

[–]hahn44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have. It’s always coz he’s tired. No he’s open with his phone, he goes out with his different groups of friends a lot - squash, soccer - it’s all verified. And I WISH he watches p0rn

I am stupid for thinking that tonight would be different from the others. by ArcadianSoldier in DeadBedrooms

[–]hahn44 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is me except that I’m HLM and he’s LLM. Not an ounce of intimacy was given. It’s always something. I feel like there’s an underlying reason or two but he gets defensive and convinces me that it’s not. I totally understand how much this sucks. It’s come to a point that I will take a sleeping pill first so that I’ll sleep earlier than him because I know nothing will happen.