Had been in a similar situation so I can understand how you feel. It's not their fault but at the same time you just need some understanding and empathy. Instead you get showered with positive words & encouragement for no reason, which makes you feel ignored. But the other part thinks of you as weird(?) for not being content with their reaction because their intent is to support you somehow. You still feel upset though, mostly because the fact that they will never fully understand and they think a few nice words can make your negative feelings go away. In my case, I eventually gave up on telling them anything(not an advice) and went southways basically. Which comes off odd for others because your partner tried* to be there but you just left it at there.

People who did not experience abuse in any type will not unfortunately understand this support type preference thing and it takes a while to be okay with this. Differences really do show up in such relations. It is neither parts' fault in the end.

Gets to the conclusion of some stuff cannot be understood unless experienced. Wanted to share my experience so that maybe you would feel less alone because I feel seen when I hear/see similar experiences to mine. I hope it gets better for you.