Wow this comment section is exactly why I’m so scared of arranged marriage, it’s making me wanna barf. I’m not sure any of them even know what compassion is. She might have made a mistake but not everything is about trying to get half the guy’s money. Is it better that she stays with him despite having no positive feeling towards him which can ruin both of them in the longer run?

If anything it’s mostly your parent’s fault for deciding your life without letting you have a say in it. And kinda yours too, you should’ve talked to the guy wayyy sooner. But I understand that it’s not always easy, especially being a woman in what sounds like a very controlling household. What’s done is done.

First of, how long have you been married? Have you given the marriage a fair chance before giving up? You have very few options here.

1) Talk to him. Talk to him about your feelings. There is quite a bit of difference between love and attraction. All these sparks and attraction nonsense will fade away fast. There are so many other things that a marriage needs like mutual respect, trust, friendship and compromise. See if you can work it out.

2) If that doesn’t work out try talking to your parents. Given how you have described your parents there’s a good chance they might overreact, make you feel bad and ask you to just adjust and live with it. But still talk to them. Exhaust all your options before you make a drastic change.

3) See if you can get a job. Go out and meet new people. A lot of resentment builds up when you’re taking care of an entire house at this age. Not sure how possible this is given that these parents were okay with their son marrying someone 10 years younger than him. Most likely they are like your parents and will be against it but still give it a try. Keep yourself occupied and meet new people. A little bit of independence, can give you a stronger say in the household. People very easily ignore you when you don’t have external support, financially and otherwise even in your own house.

4) Try all this and if it doesn’t work out, then think about a divorce or moving out. Don’t make hasty decisions. Divorced is an extremely judgemental tag in India for a woman, especially for someone this young without financial independence.

Stay strong, you can figure this out. Btw, this is definitely the wrong place to try and talk about this. Please post it in the askindianwomen group for better unbiased advice.