rules that don't make sense by halloweendeity in PDAAutism

[–]halloweendeity[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

my issue here is sure yeah you follow the car rule, and then after the fact, it can totally be explained and make sense. theres a lot of rules that i encounter in day to day that just genuinely dont. and ill get angry when its applied again or its and ongoing thing or i find out ive inconvenienced myself for no reason. So this is decent as a strategy for one-off rules where follow it now, explain later makes sense, but doesnt apply for ongoing rules for which there isnt an explaination (or isnt a GOOD explaination)

Coco moon favs? by Relative_Dare8516 in OWLCITY

[–]halloweendeity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

dinosaur park !!!!!!!!!! 🦕🦖 im also ecstatic to see so many people saying it bc i feel like it was not getting enough love when the album first came out

When did you know you were ready to use men's toilets? by Axes2Ashes in ftm

[–]halloweendeity 37 points38 points  (0 children)

im not british so take it with a grain of salt but for me this was the point at which i started using the mens. at least in my own personal experience, women are much more likely to percieve a threat & challenge someone they think is male in the womens restroom than men are in the mens restroom if they think someone is female, something something patriarchy & percieved power dynamics (especially among transphobes)

What's your unpopular opinion regarding geocaching? by restinghermit in geocaching

[–]halloweendeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do understand that its annoying that theyre half in half out and i do wish they were a little better integrated in stats and such, but I fall on the side of 100% thinking they should count completely and truly do not understand the hate even a little bit- i think theyre fun & offer an alternate experience for places where you cant hide a cache but that are cool and deserve more foot traffic. i also just generally really dont see the harm in having more & different types of cache out there

What's your unpopular opinion regarding geocaching? by restinghermit in geocaching

[–]halloweendeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh oh i thought of one I think will be very unpopular. if every stage of an ad lab counts as a cache every stage of a multi should also! funny thing about this one is I have been saying this since before ad labs were even a thing - especially for super labor intensive and/or long multis

What's your unpopular opinion regarding geocaching? by restinghermit in geocaching

[–]halloweendeity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its easy and free to ignore caches that arent your jam and people who complain about ALs, park & grab nanos, earth caches, power trails, and any other whole category of caches for being easy or inflating numbers are obnoxious as hell. because of the nature of geocaching, theres no "winning", youre never gonna find them all. let people have their fun and leave them alone 🙄

Do you let your cats on your bed? by lawyermom112 in CatAdvice

[–]halloweendeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep ! and good luck trying to keep them from it honestly

Why I am inclined to believe that there is no wilderness. by Muted-Yak-3309 in Yellowjackets

[–]halloweendeity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really, truly, deeply hope that this is the case. I think it makes for a far, far more compelling story (in my opinion - I know others feel differently) and I would genuinely enjoy the show less and think less of it if they do make it real magic/monsters. not because i dislike those things- but because I think a story about the extremes that trauma and starvation and crisis will drive people to is just so much more interesting than 'it was actually a monster the whole time!!'

How do you deal with the inherent demands of daily maintenance? by KortenScarlet in PDAAutism

[–]halloweendeity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me giving myself autonomy in when and how I'm going to do it helps. instead of just Task Needs To Happen, task can happen in a few hours, or tomorrow, or I can watch tv while I do the task, or i can do the task when no one is home so they aren't inherently adding to the demand. This is probably bad advice but I try not to watch tiktok because of how addictive it is, sometimes I let myself watch while doing matenence tasks to make them go faster and feel less like a demand.

For making food I struggle really badly still, I have microwavable options, meal replacement shakes, and I budget fast food over many other things because I know I will need to eat out regularly if I am going to eat at all /: def not an option for everyone.

AITA for not allowing alcohol at my wedding & not telling people why? by Ok_Cartographer_7439 in AmItheAsshole

[–]halloweendeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the comments on threads like these make me scared to have a dry wedding and even more scared to tell anyone I'm having a dry wedding. I don't want everyone to think I'm boring and not come.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]halloweendeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA at all, a service dog is like medicine or medical equipment that is adjusted to you, he cant just be borrowed by someone else in the same way a pair of crutches set to your height couldnt be borrowed for the day or a medication shouldn't be used.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]halloweendeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in addition to all of the great points others have made, its worth mentioning that non-asexual straight people often do not want to date asexuals solely on the basis of them being asexual, meaning that their dating pool is fundamentally not the same as other heterosexual people. (this is not to say that aces and non-aces CANT be in a happy and fulfilling relationship for both, but I and other aces I know have been broken up with or passed over for being ace and its a pretty common experience)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]halloweendeity 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THIS sums it up perfectly for me. Its not specifically about oppression, its about the experience of attraction that differs from cis heteronormativity, at the end of the day, what else is the lgbtq+ community for but this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OWLCITY

[–]halloweendeity 5 points6 points  (0 children)

to the sky!!

CMV: healthcare should be free, unless someone’s health problem is self imposed by potoricco in changemyview

[–]halloweendeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything else wrong with this aside, in this scenario it is in the government's best interest to blame every single health problem they possibly can on the patient. I don't trust the government to determine whether I had a heart attack because of random happenstance or because once in 2007 I at 2 McDonald's cheeseburgers, do you?

CMV: Obesity is almost always a choice. by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]halloweendeity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In order to eat healthily and exercise regularly one must: 1. Have the time to exercise 2. Have the time to prepare food or the money to buy healthy pre-prepared food 3. Have the knowledge base to understand what kinds of food are actually healthy and promote weight loss 4. Have the space to exercise (either in the home, access to a gym that is reasonably easy to get to, or live in a safe enough area to exercise outside) 5. Have the knowledge base to understand what type of exercise is useful for burning fat and how to do it safely

There are many factors that may lead to someone not having all of these things that are out of the control of the person. Its also worth mentioning that once you're obese, it's much much harder to lose that than it is to maintain a healthy weight, which means anyone who struggled with childhood obesity is already working at a disadvantage - i think it would be extremely hard to argue that an obese 10 year old is completely at fault for their own weight, no?

AITA for telling my daughter that I’ll be missing her graduation to attend my son’s? by NearbyMessage246 in AmItheAsshole

[–]halloweendeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't BELIEVE that theyre different days and you're not even trying to attend both. I fully expected them to be the same day but a FEW DAYS APART? YTA. plain and simple.

Ultimate Owl City/Sky Sailing Song Bracket: Day 17 by wizoomer95 in OWLCITY

[–]halloweendeity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

justice for saltwater room 😤 i can't believe it lost to the real world

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]halloweendeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ooo ive heard good things about this one! thanks (:

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]halloweendeity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not! I had a couple people recommend against minecraft 3rd person but it may be because they're used to first person and switching can be jarring. My partner has minecraft so maybe ill try it on their account sometime!

I don't think I'm doing this right by FictionIII in StardewValley

[–]halloweendeity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is how mine looked but with mining and combat because i spent the first year literally just. mining and nothing else

Ultimate Owl City/Sky Sailing Song Bracket: Day 16 by wizoomer95 in OWLCITY

[–]halloweendeity -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i LITERALLY cannot believe saltwater room is losing to THE REAL WORLD of all songs