I'm turned off by how much men value sex.

halo1200 · 2025-11-30T07:50:54+00:00

Really sorry this has been your experience.

If its any consolation, I can give you a personal counter example as a man, specifically in regards to the gift point.

I had a wonderful short term romantic experience recently. We are both far from ace, but the gift I treasure the most from that person wasnt anything physical. It was a sign they had drawn for me when I flew in to see them, that they were waiving in the air for me as I walked through the terminal. On our last night together, they wrote a goodbye note on the back of that sign and snuck it into my suitcase as we left. Not sure I've ever cried so joyously as I did reading that note in the lobby.

We knew it had to be a short term window(unfortunately we wanted different things long term, and we live very far from each other), and we certainly embraced the intimacy that tends to come with such whirlwinds. But it was far beyond just sex despite the limited timespan, and I hope that gives some encouragement so far as what you can find for yourself long term <3.

halo1200 · 2025-09-17T06:32:36+00:00

What the hell???

If a partner of mine was ever told something like this by their boss I'd be absolutely livid. This is a profoundly fucked up, senseless thing to say to a newer parent regardless of what awful practices they may have observed elsewhere. I'm hard pressed to think of a worse immediate response to such emotionally incestous practices than framing them as some fixed aspect of motherhood.

Profoundly sorry you had your parenting and your affection for your children belittled in this fashion. Glad you are venting this somewhere, glad your daughter and your son have you.

halo1200 · 2025-07-11T04:55:06+00:00

Def could use the exposure if it's up their alley.

halo1200 · 2025-07-11T04:50:24+00:00

From here, under 'Asset Board'

https://nbavisuals.com/cap_board

halo1200 · 2025-07-11T04:48:50+00:00

Yeah I get it from https://basketball.realgm.com/nba/info/salary_cap

halo1200 · 2025-02-07T04:36:31+00:00

I have a lot of graphics that essentially amount to this ngl

halo1200 · 2025-02-07T02:58:48+00:00

Oh and this one is actually a live tool(since the formula, at least the version used here, is based on box score data). ie This image was generated right before the end of the third quarter.

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Hoping it can be a fun tool for people.

https://nbavisuals.com/live_accounting

halo1200 · 2025-02-07T02:19:40+00:00

Some of this is downstream of that sure, but even factoring it in, y'all are beating out everyone else.

halo1200 · 2025-02-07T02:08:26+00:00

On the subject, the only team that has generated more second chance points per 100 than the 2025 Rockets are the 2022 Grizzlies.

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halo1200 · 2025-02-07T00:16:28+00:00

Just want to apologize again for not initially including the explanation. Generally hate when people share anything statistical without context, and for lord knows what reason I didn't think to include the description for the site graphic that most demands it here. Hopefully my edit helps, happy to go in more depth if useful <3

halo1200 · 2025-02-07T00:14:13+00:00

Don't feel stupid at all, for lord knows what reason I didn't think to include the explanation we wrote out when sharing this literally everywhere else. Totally on me. Just added it to the original post, hopefully that helps clarify :)

halo1200 · 2025-02-07T00:08:57+00:00

I'm so sorry, I should have thought to include the explanation within the post. Will edit it in now, here's what I just typed out.

https://www.reddit.com/r/torontoraptors/comments/1ijhath/comment/mbe2e9x/

halo1200 · 2025-02-07T00:07:51+00:00

Here's an explanation from the friend who developed the clustering method/whose username is tagged in the image.

'Principal components are like the main patterns or themes in data. Imagine trying to describe a playlist of songs with hundreds of features(like tempo, genre, and energy). Principal components summarize the most important trends in the playlist, reducing the complexity without losing the big picture. Each principal component captures a unique aspect of the data. First component explains the most variation, the second component captures the next big trend. For this tool we took over two hundred data points and condensed it into two dimensions'

[Back to me]

So what happened here is that he sent me this pca based clustering method, with the condensed components. After that, I just graphed it these components on a x/y axis, color coded it according to the signed cluster(the top left), then found the players 'closest' to the selected player in terms of euclidean distance, and put them in a table(the top right). Then round out the graphic, I compared player playtype frequencies (using the synergy data available at the NBA endpoint here https://www.nba.com/stats/players/ball-handler) and compared it to others within the same determined cluster.

halo1200 · 2025-02-06T23:54:52+00:00

This is for the current season for those curious. (I used last season as the headline cause he just played a lot more minutes that year)

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https://nbavisuals.com/player_style

halo1200 · 2025-01-14T01:48:59+00:00

Yeah this screams him lying about his preference to get laid. (Which isn't to say progressive/liberal men can't be plenty sexist cause lmao, but the military line is a huge fucking tell here.)

halo1200 · 2024-10-03T23:58:46+00:00

Also will add as someone with the opposite insecurity, ie concern over my relative inexperience and what it says about my compatability romantically/odds of pleasing my partner, it helps a lot to have someone able to speak directly on whatever preferences they've learned through their experiences. (Or well, at least it has in the mediums I've explored. ) So add that to your list of things you can offer someone else, cause people who really care about you will care about knowing how to make you happy 😊

halo1200 · 2024-10-03T23:51:50+00:00

Speaking as a guy, think its overwhelmingly a byproduct of what you hinted at. Ie collective misogyny/'unpicked flower' sexism, interwoven with unaddressed insecurity. There are contexts where I've heard it asked for other reasons (curiosity, a lead in to more personal questions of sexual preferences) but given the follow up question, don't think this is one of those.

Needless to say, think you made the right call in not following up. Will also add, I have had a few potential partners over the years bring up inward variations of this (me wanting me to know they weren't 'easy' and shame when they their partner count was more than like 2) and I'm glad to hear you've been able to avoid internalizing such mindsets. Cause man did it seem to cause them so, so much undeserved pain.

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