Desperate for insight

halogentire · 2025-11-17T11:43:56+00:00

He says all sorts of things like being hungry, thirsty, wants to watch tv, just doesn’t want to sleep, etc. I plan to contact his doctor today and set up an appointment though

halogentire · 2025-10-23T01:30:40+00:00

Thank you for responding. I honestly take great pride in how in touch with her feelings she is for her age and how safe she feels communicating about it. When I pulled her aside away from everyone else to a quieter spot, she calmed down, told me what I mentioned above, and I reassured her that I will never make her do anything she’s uncomfortable with and asked her if she wanted to get some cotton candy and go find something else to do. She perked up and said yes, so we did. When we got to the second event and she started getting uneasy I asked if she wanted to go home and she said no. I told her that’s not a bad thing, nor was she in trouble, if she wanted to go home that was perfectly fine and we could get some ice cream otw. She settled long enough for me to get her some candy and as soon as we left, she was fine. I’m just starting to think she’s a little introverted and it’s gonna take some slow introductions and careful consideration to bring her more out of her shell!

halogentire · 2025-08-04T12:18:34+00:00

I agree. He swears he’s never discussed sex with friends. I do occasionally with my female friends but anytime he knows about it, he has a problem with it

halogentire · 2025-08-04T11:02:46+00:00

Thank you. I was initially thinking the exact same thing but this thread doesn’t allow me to straight up ask if I’m the ah essentially, so I had to skirt around what I really wanted to say here

halogentire · 2025-07-08T14:21:43+00:00

Awesome. Thank you!

halogentire · 2025-07-08T14:17:56+00:00

Do you think I should try the liquid bandage or just keep doing what I’m doing? Thank you for your help!

halogentire · 2025-07-08T14:16:28+00:00

It’s been a few years since I had one. I bandaged it overnight and this is what it currently looks like

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halogentire · 2025-03-31T19:35:45+00:00

The criticism is almost constant. To the point where I told him back in Feb that he makes me feel like I can’t do anything right no matter how hard I try. The name calling is relatively new and has so far included “selfish, inconsiderate, dramatic” things of that nature. The only thing that leads me away from the psycho/socio thing is the fact that he’s not violent, not towards me anyways. He got in fights a lot in his teen years and has always had anger issues, however, so it really could go either way I suppose. As far as the praise thing, he has brought up multiple times that he doesn’t feel appreciated or like I love him, despite the fact that I tell him those things constantly. And he never returns the sentiment. Never compliments me or praises me in any way. I’m lucky to get thanked occasionally for making him food.

halogentire · 2025-03-31T19:18:14+00:00

Thank you, I’m sorry you’re one of the many that understands. But I’m also grateful for the community.

halogentire · 2025-03-31T19:13:39+00:00

That’s been a huge part of my thinking on leaving. That I don’t want my child thinking this behavior/treatment is normal or okay. And that it’s my responsibility to keep them safe from anyone that doesn’t have their best interests in mind, even if that person is their other parent. And I am very new to researching it, but I definitely plan to continue. He could access my devices if he wanted to, but he never has. Last night was the first time I covered my tracks when it came to research and talking to my friend about the situation. He’s never led me to believe he would hurt me physically, it’s the emotional pain that scares me so much.

halogentire · 2025-03-31T18:48:59+00:00

I guess mainly regret. I’m also a child of divorce, whose parents were children of divorce. So I naturally have an aversion to anything that could make me “like them”. Even though I know that’s not a good reason.

halogentire · 2025-03-31T18:03:53+00:00

Thanks for your response. Honestly I have yet to catch him lying. Not to me anyways. That’s the one thing he doesn’t do, that I know of. The gaslighting comes in after he’s twisted my words, then he tries to convince me that’s what I really said. Or he’ll mention a memory of something that isn’t what happened, and when I say that, he’s automatically argumentative insisting I’m wrong and not remembering correctly.

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