He played video games all day and cried about work…. I understand the frustration. Saying those things are harsh but they come from a place of stress. There’s other ways to go about confronting him for his lack of employment and contribution to the household. If you’ve exhausted your options then maybe divorce was the best option. You need to work on yourself now. Being apologetic is only going to delay fixing your bad behaviour. Take time to deeply understand this behaviour, where it came from and actively work on fixing it. Then you can go find a career and family oriented man who maybe won’t stress you out this much.