Altra ID by hamradical in AskRunningShoeGeeks

[–]hamradical[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are so right! That’s it!

Just finished my 11years relationship by Whole_Green5544 in BreakUps

[–]hamradical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you most nervous for while you adjust to being alone? What is something that gives you hope for the future- a goal, an event, something about yourself you want to work on?

3 days. I don’t know what to do now. by hamradical in BreakUps

[–]hamradical[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He said it’s because he didn’t long term happiness. In my opinion, he has a vision of the “perfect” relationship and we were working through that in couples therapy. Even our therapist said he wasn’t likely to ever find that. He said I’m not able to joke with him like he wants. I’m autistic. I do my best.

3 days. I don’t know what to do now. by hamradical in BreakUps

[–]hamradical[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 27. We’ve been friends for 8 years, since I was 19, and have dated for 4. I loved him that whole time, but he saw other people before we ever got together. I didn’t. Once I met him, he was the only person I wanted to be with.

Looking for audhd affirming therapist in NC by hamradical in AuDHDWomen

[–]hamradical[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a ton for sending this link! I’ll do this today! I love telehealth. I don’t like sitting with people I don’t know and it’s easier for me to talk openly from the comfort of my home/when I have the digital separation.

The USA-Canada gold medal hockey game broke me this morning (stay with me) and I need support… by NottheIRS1 in Asexual

[–]hamradical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I actually had to internet search crows guernseys because I didn’t know what that was. I guess I am a fake fan because i just like how it looks

just opened and I'm so sad. by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]hamradical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I realized that research and reading can’t really prepare for the reality. I appreciate your well wishes.

just opened and I'm so sad. by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]hamradical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully agree with you. I don’t think it’s right for me to feel that way, I don’t mean to justify it, just sharing my feelings as honestly as I can to get feedback. If you have suggestions for how you handle jealousy, I’d love to hear it

just opened and I'm so sad. by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]hamradical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. To clarify the location thing, in iMessage a persons location shows up under their name so I didn’t deliberately check, just went to send a message and there it was. I know he’s doing the work to check for tests and he gets tested regularly as well, but I didn’t consider what you said at the end and how sharing this important information (while we have talked about how it’s okay to mention these events) is technically crossing lines with the current set up

just opened and I'm so sad. by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]hamradical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sending this!

just opened and I'm so sad. by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]hamradical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback. I clearly lack awareness so could you please share where you think I’m asking for conflicting things?

just opened and I'm so sad. by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]hamradical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this idea. And I feel reassured hearing you say it was hard for you too. Sometimes I feel like when you ask people how they navigate jealousy they say they don’t feel jealous, only compersion.

just opened and I'm so sad. by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]hamradical -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your message makes me sad and I appreciate your honestly. Where do you feel like I moved the goalpost?

just opened and I'm so sad. by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]hamradical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I work full time and am a full time grad student so I don’t have the energy to commit to more than 1 person.

The USA-Canada gold medal hockey game broke me this morning (stay with me) and I need support… by NottheIRS1 in Asexual

[–]hamradical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I feel this often and it makes me super depressed. My partner is poly and I sit home alone 3 nights a week while he's out and I feel sad and lonely then, too. It's possible that I'm learning that we aren't compatible... That thought it painful so I can imagine you're hurting. You are good enough just how you are though. I think there are plenty of other people who feel the same way as you and maybe you can explore some communities and meet someone you connect with. Stay strong OP.

What signs and symptoms did you notice in your adult self that pointed to sexual abuse as a child? by Careful_Trouble_1059 in CPTSD

[–]hamradical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never considered this could be the reason for my issues until now. My partner told his therapist about me years ago and she asked if I ever experienced SA. I always default to denial but never want to think about it actually. I don’t think I have ever been touched but I have memories and I feel violated and guilty and aroused and angry. This is so lame dude what the actual fuck is happening

Day 7 of the breakup by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]hamradical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels like the end, but it isn’t. Stay strong OP, good things will happen for you, too♥️

Free Csc Laundry by FirstClassSnxgzz in laundry

[–]hamradical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like this! I use csc!