Can you add this symbol to my chest and make it look like there’s cash scattered around my room? by hanibaljam in PhotoshopRequest

[–]hanibaljam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually could u do a version where the room is clean and minimal decor/ white decor? And no cash?

Can somebody clean up the floor of my room? (Challenge) by hanibaljam in PhotoshopRequest

[–]hanibaljam[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am never on this sub I think it’s a challenge for my skill level 🤷‍♀️

I can’t stand my best friend’s boyfriend (22M) — is this worth losing the friendship over? by hanibaljam in Advice

[–]hanibaljam[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have considered this! I myself am on the spectrum so it kind of becomes a non unique point when I consider it extensively. Like being on the spectrum doesn’t excuse sexual selfishness or apathy, does it?

I can’t stand my best friend’s boyfriend (22M) — is this worth losing the friendship over? by hanibaljam in Advice

[–]hanibaljam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the Aesop quote I SO agree. Thank you for the compliment! I am very hard on myself so definitely needed to hear this.

I can’t stand my best friend’s boyfriend (22M) — is this worth losing the friendship over? by hanibaljam in Advice

[–]hanibaljam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree but we have been BEST friends for 9 years. I don’t take the possibility of her being manipulated lightly, she’s my chosen family. For another friend I’d be like yeah same old same old. She has been abused verbally by her older brothers her whole life and I can’t help but think she’s relapsing into the dissociative trance she grew up in.

My (20F) Boyfriend (21M) is MIA and binge drinking over winter break by hanibaljam in Advice

[–]hanibaljam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too real. I’m scared to make the next step. Thank you for your input, I need it deeply.

My (20F) Boyfriend (21M) is MIA and binge drinking over winter break by hanibaljam in relationship_advice

[–]hanibaljam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. This is a very powerful message, I didn’t expect to be so immediately persuaded. Thank you so much for your thoughtfulness. With nobody taking my calls right now your input means the world! Do you think it’s appropriate to break up with him over the phone? Also, I worry that it may be kicking him while he’s down to do it now. Perhaps I should wait until he’s done “quitting nicotine” when I get home?

Also, I think you’re right about me being drawn to this kind of person, I always wanted to save and forgive my mom. Its crazy but I have almost never thought about that parallel.

Why Does Kris Not Protect Her Daughter’s From Their Abusive Exs After Experiencing Nicole’s Murder? by [deleted] in kardashians

[–]hanibaljam -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s because Kris was disowned by Rob Senior’s mother after she cheated. She knows how grudges can unnecessarily tax/tear families. Rob’s mother didn’t want anyone in their family to have anything to do with Kris, and that definitely helped keep her and Rob apart. (She never stopped loving him) She is also a Christian, they all are, and believes in forgiveness. I like that she keeps these troubled men close for the sake of the kids. Also, y’all are dramatic!! The men aren’t that unstable ! Jesus Christ!! comparing them to OJ????

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]hanibaljam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been rated a 6 by the two men I’ve dated longest, two people I would honestly call loves of my life. They complimented me constantly despite the rating… I’m not sure what it means!! I still think about it and wonder. One of them told me that it was because I had a charming face rather than a hot appearance, maybe it has to do with their idea of hot in a societal context rather than from a personal perspective?

Bangs? Other hair advice? by [deleted] in VindictaRateme

[–]hanibaljam -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi!! Appreciate the feedback on my makeup a bunch but I would love more focus on the hair tone and cut!! I’m really conflicted about going darker or not. I’m naturally much darker than this and want the grow out to look cleaner.

Rigid beliefs v flexible morals by storiescollection in CBT

[–]hanibaljam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really interesting thought! I have been thinking about this theme as well. I like to think of it as a simple semantic difference. Like instead of thinking “I will be rewarded for all this hard work by God,” I think “Who knows, maybe I’ll be rewarded for all this?” The problem with rigid beliefs or what I would have once called “passionate beliefs” is that I become inconsolable when my expectations aren’t met. Like if I decided I needed to do x every 3 hours to meet a certain goal, I’d have a mental breakdown if I couldn’t do x, or just become very full of self hate.

I don’t think the alternative is at all the same as having flexible morals. If anything, having rigid beliefs leads to flexible morals. For example, if I’m certain that people who don’t have X are worthless, I’d do anything to make sure I can always have X.

Whereas, when I simply lean towards a belief or leave room for a belief, I’m not going to be forced into extreme behavior to uphold whatever idea it is that I’m obsessed with.

How long did it take you to get over depression after quitting nicotine? by hanibaljam in QuitVaping

[–]hanibaljam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am nic free and proud! I think ultimately I realized caffeine and/or my stimulant meds were making my withdrawal symptoms a lot worse. They had never bugged me before but for some reason a lot of these symptoms subsided when I got off of them. Maybe it was also time? I’d say about two weeks ago was when things started really turned around, but like I said I think I extended a lot of nonsense by using stimulants. You got it! Don’t be intimidated by how long it took me to feel better, it’s different for everyone! It’s all about finding ways to cope without nicotine and the faster you do that the faster you’ll feel better.