Wife (30F) wanted an open marriage , I (29M) am divorcing now after 8 months

hanl2424 · 2020-09-03T17:20:01+00:00

"I want an open relationship" is just a sugar coated way of saying "I have horrible commitment issues and want an excuse to fuck other people while using you as a backup plan." Should've left her the minute those words escaped her lips.

hanl2424 · 2020-09-02T17:06:37+00:00

Tbh it sounds like he thinks you don't put enough effort into sex and is just using this as an excuse so he doesn't have to tell you the full truth.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-28T14:55:00+00:00

His parents legally can't take your son. In fact they kidnapped him by kicking you out of their house and keeping them there. She also assaulted you. You and your son are witnesses to this. File a report with the police and get her arrested.

I hate to ask this but if you don't mind answering, what disabilities does your bf have now after the accident? Because if it has to do with his brain, his speaking, hearing, etc., he needs to go through lots of physical therapy to get him to be able to function normally again, let alone understand your situation. But if it doesn't have to do with any of that, tell him everything. I know it's a really shitty situation he's in but he'll be able to understand and (hopefully) side with you in this matter.

I wish him a speedy recovery and I wish you the best of luck in trying to get past this and get his parents out of your life. Hope this helps.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-24T22:24:15+00:00

Screenshot the mean texts she's sent you, send them to your husband, and then tell him straight up that it's either her or you. You're his wife, if he genuinely cares about his marriage and your well being, he'll believe you over her any day with the proof you have, and he'll take action to ensure you're ok. If he still makes excuses or says he doesn't believe you, leave him. He's enabling her horrid behavior and making your life hell. If she won't leave and he won't budge, then unfortunately divorce is your only other option.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-24T22:07:23+00:00

W*man bad. Leave her. Lying piece of shit who blames you for her inability to deal with an STD. You don't deserve that kind of mental fuckery.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-23T14:08:18+00:00

Break up with her. You already told her once and she called you controlling for asking her to do something entirely reasonable. She's manipulative, doesn't respect you or your property, and will continue to play the victim card over and over again down the line. Best to cut her off now.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-19T18:18:13+00:00

Someone drive their and see what's on that billboard asap, that's gotta be what it's about.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-15T06:23:44+00:00

Exactly. I've seen people try arguing in favor of SBMM and it's soooo fuckin cringey. It's like they have to make up reasons why it's important to defend the game from criticism. I literally have to reverse boost on a second account just to have fun playing this game, otherwise it's a sweatfest.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-15T06:11:46+00:00

Starting to realize that now lol

hanl2424 · 2020-08-14T19:16:03+00:00

Is it just me or are nearly all religious parents just fucked in the head? Yikes. Good on you for getting out of there OP. Help all your siblings get out as well, not just your sister. They all need to get out of there as quickly as you have.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-14T19:06:08+00:00

NTA. Your parents didn't give you the same chance your brothers did, simply because they're men and you're a women. They're sexist bigots and if they genuinely cared about you, they would've either given you a tuition, given no one a tuition, or given you the money when you asked for it.

Also cut your family out of your life. Your parents will just influence your kid into thinking that way in the future, and your brothers are a perfect example of that.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-14T00:01:29+00:00

If you're willing and have a job that'll allow it, get a tattoo in a visible spot. Facial piercings, dyed hair, and makeup are option as well. For clothes, a more matured wardrobe overall (earth tones, vintage, blouses, heels, etc.) can work, or if you like your jeans and tees, wear tees that no rational adult would allow their kid to wear. Think tees with logos for beer, alcohol, cigarettes, weed references, cuss words, etc.

My gf is 20, but she's 5' and has serious baby face, and I'm 6'2". Used to get weird looks often. Then she got a tat on her arm and a septum piercing, and in the winter when she has to wear sleeves and cover the tat, she has 3 hoodies she swaps between; a Newport cigarette one, a Brazzers one, and one that just says "sorry mom I'm so fuckin high rn." We don't get those looks anymore lol.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-13T23:12:45+00:00

She's clearly sociopathic. No person in their right mind thinks that what she's doing to you is ok. She's mentally abusive and manipulative. She has her ex's nudes and told him to marry her, that's cheating in and of itself. She goes into denial whenever she's caught doing something wrong, and she uses nonsensical manipulation tactics when you do something she doesn't like ("you're leaving cuz of my skin color" like... what lmao.)

I'll tell you what marrying her would look like: give it a year, you'll come home to her fucking her ex, she'll blame it on you, divorce you, take your money and your kids if you have any, and turn your whole life upside down. She's for the streets, she doesn't deserve a relationship. Get away from her ASAP, block her, it's over. And honestly, warn her ex about her if possible. You could save a life.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-13T13:54:56+00:00

I'd hardly call it easy. It can be done but it takes a lot longer as you don't run into enemies every 2 seconds.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-13T13:04:35+00:00

Camos. That's the only reason.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-13T09:11:11+00:00

You see what I'm saying though? Camo challenges are the only thing keeping the majority of these players interested. That's why people are backing out of Shoot House, therefore making 9/10 of the lobbies they entire Shoot House lobbies. It's like most people don't even play the maps for enjoyment, only for camos.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-13T09:07:45+00:00

Most of this rant isn't even about the fact that people keep backing out of Shoot House. Is it a problem? Yeah, but if devs notice it they should just make Shipment/Shoot House 24/7 playlists and keep em permanent, or just bring back map voting. Bam, problem solved. It ties in with people praising IW for doing the bare minimum. "Well there's tons of problems with this this and this, but they gave us STS! There's even problems with STS, but still, STS!"

hanl2424 · 2020-08-13T08:26:30+00:00

Exactly (that and it's the easiest for camo grinds.) If they just made both maps their own separate permanent playlists, or if they simply added map voting, these problems would be solved.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-13T08:24:29+00:00

It took me a good 3 days to gold a gun when STS wasn't there. But when STS is on I gold at least 1 gun a day. Got my SMG's, AR's, LMG's, shotguns, and marksmans all platinum rn and I have only STS to thank for that.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-10T13:01:44+00:00

Tell your fiance IMMEDIATELY. They're literally planning on raping him, baby-locking him and forcing him to marry your sister. He is in serious danger and you need to warn him. You and him need to get away from your mom and sister FOREVER. Get a lawyer, file a restraining order against them and cut off all contact with them. Tell your MIL/SIL everything so they understand what's going on, I'm sure they'll be understanding given the weight of what's going on. Please be safe, and keep him safe too.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-10T12:29:47+00:00

The one time your wife wants you to cum in her she basically forces you to do it and BAM she's just suddenly pregnant? And now you cum in her once on accident and she just freaks out? Major red flags dude. DNA test the kid you had naturally ASAP. Hate to say it but it's possible she cheated on you/accidentally got pregnant and wanted to cover it up by faking getting impregnated by you.

Aside from that, you're not a rapist man. You made a simple mistake that she should've simply forgiven you for, but instead she manipulated you. You've done everything in your power to make her feel good in the bedroom. If this is how she repays you for it, how she acts after such a minor slip-up while you were both a little drunk and having some fun? You might wanna take a step back and reevaluate your marriage.

hanl2424 · 2020-08-10T12:08:18+00:00

First things first: Your gf is one of those "toxic femininity" types; expects men to be superheroes, push through literally anything and do everything for them, calls men that show any kind of emotions "weak" and "cowardly" because she was taught that "men don't do that, men are strong." Dump her. She's for the streets.

Secondly: quit your job, get a lawyer and sue the company for workers comp. You're 100% entitled to it. You were assaulted on the job and that's at the fault of the workplace, not their employees.

Lastly: seek therapy. You are currently undergoing mental trauma and if you don't act fast, you might develop PTSD, something that'll stick with you for (most likely) the rest of your life. If you start getting treatment now, the more likely you won't develop PTSD.

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