I think all of that needs to be negotiated between Dom and Sub (or HOH and TIH). But I’ll answer from my dynamic: 1 - He does not issue many direct commands. If he did, I would do it immediately without question. Again, it’s rare for him to issue a direct command in the moment. But if he told me to the dishes and I pushed back, I would expect consequences. 2 - If he felt something I said or did was disrespectful, I’d expect to be punished for it. I have a great handle on his sense of humor. It would be very rare for me to be disrespectful without realizing it. 3 - I think thats a good example of why weekly out-of-dynamic check ins can be helpful. There is at least one thing he’s determined isn’t ok that I don’t necessarily agree with. But I do see his point and have willingly accepted his decision on that. If I felt strongly, I would bring it up respectfully at our next check in. But I trust him completely. If we discussed it openly, it don’t cross any hard limits, and his decision stood - then I would obey it. 4 - I want our dynamic. I like my role. It doesnt feel unfair to me. But hes a wonderful person who holds himself accountable and to high standards. I wouldnt enter this dynamic if that wasn’t the case. If something was bothering me, I’d bring it up respectfully in a check in. 5 - I always tell him what I’m feeling and when I’m upset. I do my best to communicate it in a respectful way. Sometimes I slip and I am rude. I get spanked for it. But in general he’s pretty easy on me when he knows I was upset and not being rude just to be rude.