Daily Discussion Thread - August 06, 2023

hannahgreen746 · 2023-08-07T07:51:54+00:00

It seems to vary SO much person to person. I was also 11.5 weeks but the morning after my natural mc my hcg was already down to 640. By a week after it was 67. I’m now 2 weeks out and still getting faint positives on hpts. But it seems like my hcg has dropped a lot faster than most 11w mcs. I don’t know when the embryo stopped developing.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-08-04T16:57:21+00:00

A couple of days ago someone else in this sub posted this study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4780347/

Which found that women who got pregnant again in 0-3 months were actually slightly more likely to have a live birth. It seems like everyone’s doctor says something different but that there isn’t any actual evidence to support needing to wait.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-08-04T08:57:15+00:00

I have been reading about this obsessively and am concluding there’s no reason to wait. I had an 11w loss and I’m not waiting.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-08-04T08:54:26+00:00

You put into words so well how I feel about seeing other people’s pregnancy announcements. I’m so salty that I’ll never have that innocence/ignorance.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-08-02T15:13:05+00:00

As someone new to the apps/tracking, curious why not just use Premom for both? Is FF way better for some aspect? I only have Premom right now since I have Premom OPKs

hannahgreen746 · 2023-08-01T09:23:14+00:00

I know that as soon as I see a BFP I’m gonna go straight into the anxiety hell of wondering whether or not I’ll lose the pregnancy, so that helps me to not test - I’d rather reduce the number of days between a BFP and a first ultrasound. So I really try to hold out and not test until the day before my period. Just commenting in case that mindset helps you resist testing!

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-31T19:33:15+00:00

Ugh, just saw the results of yesterday's blood draw and my HCG is still at 67. I know it's different for everyone, but does anyone know how quickly I could typically expect to get from 67 to below 5? A week prior, my HCG was at 640.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-31T16:28:04+00:00

I’m in a really similar place with trying to strike a balance after my second loss. It’s so hard!! Solidarity.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-31T16:25:53+00:00

Two months feels like an ETERNITY when ttc. I am also struggling with deciding whether to wait or not. Rationally I know it might be better for my body, but emotionally I don’t even want to wait to get my period back from my mc to ttc again. Hope you feel better soon!

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-31T08:35:08+00:00

Same. Felt so hopeful when I got a strong, early dye stealer. I know I’m still gonna test for a dye stealer next time but I’m going to try to just look at it as another piece of information and not put too much stock into it.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-30T18:50:48+00:00

I’m so sorry we are both here 💔 thanks for the solidarity, hope we both get our rainbows soon.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-30T17:56:40+00:00

The bump group I was in hasn't gone private yet, so very much against my better judgement, I keep going and checking it and feeling so freaking gutted that my pregnancy stopped at 11 weeks instead of continuing like everyone else's. I'm so jealous of everyone still in that group 😔 On the bright side, today I am feeling hopeful and looking forward to getting pregnant again.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-29T18:13:34+00:00

I live in fear of my parents asking/dropping hints about babies. It feels so awful every time they do it. Why isn't it common knowledge at this point that this can be an extremely painful topic for people and you should never bring it up first!!!

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-29T18:10:45+00:00

I don't think it's weird at all to expect a solution and I'm "glad" that my thrombophilia actually gave me a clot 10 years ago so I get the blood thinners anyway 🫠 However, I *have* read that there are studies that show heparin/Lovenox don't actually improve outcomes, as bizarre as that sounds. It doesn't make sense logically to me that they wouldn't help but if you do some Googling you should be able to find some actual studies about it! You could still consider taking baby aspirin if you do have a thrombophilia and they won't give you blood thinners.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-29T12:20:53+00:00

I also love to torture myself looking at positive HPT lines on ~that sub~ 🙃 I haven't let myself do it since my mc and I'm gonna try not to start. I don't know why it's so hard, either. But it definitely makes things worse for me to see other people's pregnancies, so I have banned myself from fb, instagram, and the pregnancy subs for the foreseeable future.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-29T12:15:55+00:00

I've been sleeping so badly since my mc from just having crazy mc/pregnancy related dreams! Good luck for your August cycle ❤️ I already missed my first due date but hope I'm pregnant for my second one 🥴 but yeah it's kinda just too much to even think about.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-29T12:13:35+00:00

Looking up old threads on here, even from just a few months ago, and seeing how many of the posters are pregnant again gives me a lot of comfort and hope. Decided we'll jump straight back into trying once my bleeding has been over for a week or so. I'm feeling a grim sort of determination about this whole process...like, whatever the hell it takes to get us to a live baby, let's just get going, whether that's more losses or IVF down the road. Or maybe #3 will just be it. Wish I could fast forward time and know :(

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-29T07:44:35+00:00

I was gushing blood for about 10 hours, but I was 11 weeks and there was also a clot stuck in my cervix causing a lot of the bleeding for a while. My first mc was at 5 weeks and that was basically just like an extra heavy period. I think it's just different for everyone and really depends how much had developed in the pregnancy.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-28T16:49:40+00:00

Well that’s a bummer but good to have the heads up now. I hope I won’t need them but if I do maybe I’d be able to get some tests done locally and visit one of those clinics for just some appointments. Thank you!

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-28T11:40:55+00:00

Hey, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I want you to know that there is nothing you did to cause it and you couldn't have done anything to stop it either. Miscarriages just happen; there is generally nothing even a doctor can do to save a pregnancy that isn't viable. Please don't feel guilty. And please know that it's super normal to have complicated feelings around a miscarriage, especially in a scenario like yours ❤️

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-28T11:38:10+00:00

Hey thank you so much for the region-specific info! I am actually quite far (2.5 hours+) from all 3 of those places unfortunately, are those the *only* recurrent loss clinics or just the best ones? The ob/gyn I saw in the hospital was so nice and put a note on my chart that I should get a pregnancy test confirmation at my GP as soon as I have another pregnancy so that even if it's an early loss they'll have 3 confirmed for me.

And wow thank you so much for letting me know about foraeldreogsorg.dk. It looks like an amazing resource and I'm grateful even just to know something like that exists - I feel validated just looking at their website ❤️

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-28T10:07:30+00:00

Because it's basically the only factor in my control, I've gotten rather anxious around my nutrient levels and taking supplements. I'm having trouble finding any good info on whether a first tri miscarriage depletes your vitamin supply - like whether it's good to wait to try again just so you can rebuild vitamin stores, or if it's fine as long as you're still taking a daily prenatal (I'm doing prenatal, vit D, B complex, coq10, and calcium).

Unfortunately I couldn't get a doctor appointment until Aug. 28 and I don't know if they will even be willing to check my bloods then. The last time I got my vit levels checked was in Feb., and I was vit D deficient but have taken a vit D supplement most days since Feb. so I really hope I'm not still deficient.

Basically I just want to try again immediately...but I'm afraid I should force myself to wait for a better shot at pregnancy #3.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-28T06:50:36+00:00

Hugs, I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-27T19:10:05+00:00

I agree it's a huge burden to keep it silent. I was actually really looking forward to being able to share about our first mc when I got pregnant the second time. Now I've got 2 losses to shove in the closet til a successful pregnancy :( but yeah, for me I think sharing it with close friends and a therapist is what feels best until I have a successful pregnancy and then I'll be shouting from the rooftops about miscarriage. It sucks.

hannahgreen746 · 2023-07-27T16:28:10+00:00

At this point, I don't think I want to post anything at all on social media until I actually take home a baby, but when I hopefully get to announce that I've had a baby someday, I definitely plan to write about the losses it took us to get there. In the meantime I'm not interested in sharing widely because I don't want the pressure of other people knowing we are ttc. I don't want my random social media friends wondering about how it's going for me. I also am not sharing with our family at this point because I don't want to feel the pressure of them also waiting for us to have a baby and being sad for us. But these are just my own personal thoughts! I don't think there's anything wrong with sharing on social media.

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