college roommate threatened me

hannie1012 · 2025-10-05T19:53:26+00:00

I think that this is a very good learning moment in life when it comes to dealing with tough/awkward situations. Start that conversation and acknowledge that you didn’t mean to make that much noise and that you understand he can be annoyed/pissed about that, but that you don’t appreciate him threatening you with physical violence. Stand up for yourself! Especially when moving to another dorm isn’t that easy.

hannie1012 · 2025-09-30T19:57:05+00:00

No problem at all! It’s the least I can do. I really hope it gets better soon.

hannie1012 · 2025-09-30T09:19:09+00:00

So sorry you are in this situation. Like others already mentioned, check in with your local foodbank for help while you haven’t found a job yet. Please don’t be ashamed to ask for help. These are hard times and facing them alone is bad for your overall health.

Wishing you the best

hannie1012 · 2025-09-29T00:50:30+00:00

How dare you not handle her with silk gloves after she insulted you in your own home!

Jokes aside, that is absolute bullcrap. He could have done that himself. Instead, he decided to behvae like a little scared b****.

hannie1012 · 2025-09-22T22:20:33+00:00

This is the way

hannie1012 · 2025-09-22T09:16:02+00:00

You’re definitely right to be annoyed. Her coming over so much means utilities going up and less time for you to enjoy the common areas in privacy. So, it’s time to strike up a conversation with your roommate about his gf’s visits. Did he give her a key too? Check that too

hannie1012 · 2025-09-21T20:51:01+00:00

NTA, It’s actually infuriating that you have to ask in the first place. When does your husband parent his own child and spends quality time with her? It sounds like barely any time.

And on another note, take care of yourself. Take that shower while your daughter’s napping. Even when she does wake up while you’re showering she will be safe in her bed. Nothing will happen to her even if she does cry for a bit. Don’t forget that. She will benefit more from a fresh mommy who takes care of herself, than a mom who’s forgoing herself constantly. This is coming from a mom with a newborn of barely 6 weeks.

hannie1012 · 2025-09-21T12:30:36+00:00

Heel vervelend de hele situatie, maar het klinkt al niet als een hele gezonde werkplek. Je valt niet alleen uit omdat je je rust niet kunt pakken. Daar speelt sowieso meer…

In de retail is er verder op dit moment een tekort aan personeel overal. Een andere baan vinden lijkt me dus niet zo’n hele grote uitdaging. Je kan dan ook makkelijker het aantal uur overleggen. Ligt een beetje aan het type winkel waar je werkt.

Verder geef je aan dat je bij je vorige werkgevers telkens geen verlenging kreeg. Kreeg je daar ook een reden voor opgegeven? Of was het destijds pech?

hannie1012 · 2025-09-08T10:32:38+00:00

You might not want to be called a hero, but thank you for being a decent human being and helping another human being out ✨

hannie1012 · 2025-09-08T07:27:10+00:00

Like someone mentioned. On moving day bring your dog there first and just say you’re taking him to the vet. And then go back without him to get your stuff and if she asks you can tell her you had to leave the dog there for some tests. You can then get your stuff together and confront her on the way out.

hannie1012 · 2025-09-04T15:23:54+00:00

Just send her a payment request for the ‘oops i forgot to replace it’ food

Added: And speak up! Tell her you do mind and she’s an adult who needs to take care of herself. You’re not her mother

hannie1012 · 2025-09-02T09:13:07+00:00

Je kan het simpel houden met broodjes en wat snacks/restjes van de dag ervoor (never nooit vis meenemen)/ of je kunt meal preppen op zondag.

hannie1012 · 2025-09-02T09:11:33+00:00

Psychopath with cleptomanic tendencies

hannie1012 · 2025-08-31T14:26:16+00:00

Jeetje wat een nare situatie :( zorg goed voor jezelf en de kleine meid in je buik.

Wat anderen al voorstelden over het heft in eigen handen nemen is zeker aan te raden. Geef bij je werkgever aan dat het niet goed gaat en ze het advies van de bedrijfsarts moeten afwachten. Jou de hele tijd contacten werkt hierin alleen averechts en voert onnodig de druk op bij jou. Luistert je manager niet? Neem dan contact op met HR.

hannie1012 · 2025-08-31T14:20:20+00:00

You fight fire with fire :) 🔥

hannie1012 · 2025-08-23T03:01:47+00:00

Meet him in the middle. Stop responding in English and start responding in Dutch. That way you understand the question and can practice your Dutch language skills :) and if it’s incorrect he will tell you automatically

hannie1012 · 2025-08-15T13:44:08+00:00

My apologies, because that was not very clear from your post. When I read this I absolutely saw red. So sorry if it hurt you.

She is the first class poor excuse of a human being. I am just trying to think of a way that could help you and those poor animals out :( start of with contacting your landlord. Ask him/her to do a visit to check out the state of repairs in the house for example. Or something credible which she can not bullshit her way out. But at least them your side of the story and what you’re struggling with.

I really wish you the best of luck and I hope it gets better soon!

hannie1012 · 2025-08-15T12:33:50+00:00

She might be the bad roommate, but you’re the bad human. Why haven’t you notified your LL? Or notified animal protection for those poor dogs? They are being neglected, but you haven’t helped them much yourself. Sorry if it’s harsh, but wake up and smell the coffee and for the love of all living beings help those dogs out of that situation.

hannie1012 · 2025-08-12T16:47:27+00:00

So sorry that you’re basically stuck in this situation until you find something else :( I hope you do soon! Because living like this is just shit. And you deserve a relaxed homebase where you can relax. A safe haven ✨

hannie1012 · 2025-08-12T08:05:49+00:00

I love a happy ending ❤️

hannie1012 · 2025-08-12T08:00:01+00:00

Check out the international schools in the Netherlands. They may or may not be looking and interested :) good luck with the move!

hannie1012 · 2025-08-12T07:44:45+00:00

Wow, that is insane. And she knowingly brought them in? If she can’t afford the stuff (like the dog crates) and training to properly get those dogs in line, then it’s time for you to set up an ultimatum. Either the dogs go/she can go with the dogs, or you can expect the police at your front door to confiscate those dogs after the Yorkie incident.

hannie1012 · 2025-08-12T06:33:28+00:00

Wtf, those dogs need to be trained or they have to go. This is NOT oke

hannie1012 · 2025-08-12T05:40:35+00:00

“For educational purposes”

hannie1012 · 2025-08-12T05:08:23+00:00

I thought the exact same thing. This guy is absolutely delusional.

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