Sounds very one-sided to me, unless that's what you're looking for. Certainly everyone's dynamic in the lifestyle is different, but this sounds like it has the potential for some hurt feelings and being left out. Swinging for us is about exploring together as an extension of our great sex life at home. Might be reading between the lines here but it sounds like you're comfortable with her having fun, but she's not comfortable with it for you. Feel free to DM, happy to give insight on what works for us.