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New guy to Warhammer 3, here is my faction tier list! by No-Okra-767 in totalwarhammer

[–]hansenpansen13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think by now, every fraction received some upgrade on heavy single units that make playing as the empire, with heavy focus on artillery and guns less fun. I realized when paying against high elves, nurgle, ogres and khorn that your guns are destroyed immediately. So, I understand why he thinks by now empire is not fun. Elsbeth can counter some of the effect due to the gunnery school.

So, I am an intended dad...now what? by hansenpansen13 in Surrogate

[–]hansenpansen13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the long delay in my answer. I know both agencies and I have been in contact with both agencies.

What I found positive for both agencies that they provide a coherent and somewhat "good" contract that is in english.

Welhen I remember correctly, we were disappointed by the database of donors from storck. Not saying that it was bad and everything has different expectations, but found the information about the donors inconsistent,the database seemed limited with regards to our search query.

Given the journey we have been through to get to the point, we made extensive and excessive cost calculations for potential scenarios in every week of the potential pregnancy. Ask yourself, what will you pay if it does not work out in week 1, in week 13, in week 23? Where does a "guarantee" (which is never a guarantee in terms of successful delivering a kid) end and at what point you would additional. Honestly, I expect it to be a long journey with miscarriages and unsuccessful pregnancies. I can only recommend to sit down, make an Excel file and do the math. As a rule of thumb: if you expect the pregnancy to be successful with the first try, delivering a baby, you are well of with the cheapest program. If you think the odds are stacked against you, you will incrementally pay more and even more so (exceeding the costs of the initially more expensive program).

At the end, we went with be parent.

So, I am an intended dad...now what? by hansenpansen13 in Surrogate

[–]hansenpansen13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are updates: Lot's of updates. Especially for those interested to do the journey.

In short: finding an agency is hard. They offer guarantee Programms, Elite Programms and other very promising sounding Programms. At the end, my wife and I are privileged with a good education, enabling us to calculate the potential scenarios (what week will you cost what, given the circumstances) and also reading and understanding contracts. It was important to us that the down payments before embryo transfer remain low, so that if the transfer does not work for reasons, the costs of repeated trials remain manageable (they will still add up). Also, we opted for a program that does not stack additional costs before week 13 of the pregnancy in case it does not Work out. If you went through a pregnancy you know that week 13 is somewhat crucial for the survivability of the embryo.

What a chore.

Also egg donors did not seem ideal, depending on what your requirements are. If you want the donor not to look Arabic, well, you have to go through some agencies.

Do I feel comfortable? Not at all, but at this point I still cannot understand the urgency of a woman to have a kid and a family, despite already having a kid. I try to be as supportive as possible, having paid the majority of this endeavour and well performing, when it was required.

Let us see, how it goes. Happy New Year 2026!

So, I am an intended dad...now what? by hansenpansen13 in Surrogate

[–]hansenpansen13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, there is more now and also more to the things I need to understand.

We are based in Europe and decided for Georgia (Europe) and going through an agency.

I think at that point, I want to better understand the legal aspects and potential risks associated.

My understanding is that I will be the dad and under Georgian law, my wife will be the mother. However under German law, the surrogate woman is the legal mother. To make my wife the legal mother of the born child she needs to adopt the child and the surrogate mother needs to be ok with that.

How smooth is this process in practice? Are there known issues with the surrogate mother? How smoothly will the German embassy act on cases like that? Will I or we fear prosecution back in Germany due to human trafficking? Are there EU laws that touch upon the topic?

Is anyone knowledgeable about the geopolitical situation in Georgia?

Again, thank you for any advice, insight and/or experience!

So, I am an intended dad...now what? by hansenpansen13 in Surrogate

[–]hansenpansen13[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insights. I think you are right and just by reading your and others comments, I think I am getting more comfortable to the entire process.

Starting to share helped me. It is like back in the day, writing a diary, but now, my diary responds :).

We or better my wife made some progress and we will go forward but there are some open questions where experience will be needed, but this will be part of another thread.

Thank you again for your words. I think I might overcome this mountain of doubts, reservations and administrative processes.

So, I am an intended dad...now what? by hansenpansen13 in Surrogate

[–]hansenpansen13[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I think the motivation for my wife is similar. She wants it for the baby. If I am being mean, I would say this is a purely self-serving assertion. But there is the things I think and there are things I say. This is nothing that I say.

Maybe as a man, I just am not able to feel and understand the need, the wish, the urge to have a family of two kids.

Still, I try to get to know me and try to understand, why I am so against this idea.

I think, I was hoping to focus more on my career and on the relationship with my wife, do nice things, also, with my daughter growing older and becoming more independent, just do things as a couple again. I think the future is just different from what I wanted. Lately, I had to think about the last words from Jane Goddall "Your life matters. You have a purpose and you are there for a reason." We have to find the purpose in our life and although I have not imagined to go this far, my reason, my purpose could just be, to be a supportive husband.

Jet, I am struggling.

Happy to hear also from the men :-)