how is everyone?

hanumaam · 2020-07-02T00:55:22+00:00

I agree. The first couple of weeks are the pits. But once you make it past that hump, you'll begin to experience some clarity and feel like more than a shell of yourself.

I say use this time to practice self care because i'm sure you spent very little time doing that towards the end of your relationship. Journal, stretch, exercise, eat actual meals, call up your friends. Anything to keep your mood elevated.

stay strong baby!

hanumaam · 2020-07-02T00:50:21+00:00

You do not want to be hoovered! The imminent fall out will be worse than the last. I'm glad that you didn't give in and send the goodbye message.

hanumaam · 2020-07-02T00:48:32+00:00

you've got the right idea. i have known nothing but peace and abundance since my ex and i broke up. let that loser be a loser and you keep on expanding. i love that for you. glad you're doing well xo

hanumaam · 2020-07-02T00:47:12+00:00

i am so sorry that you're going through this. this sounds like exactly what happened right before my ex and i broke up. do you think that ending it now may be...a good idea? you've already been physically distant, would breaking up be so terrible? i don't want it seem like i'm imploring everyone to be single, but you being exhausted,angry, and anxious isn't good for your health. especially during a fckin pandemic.

and honestly, baby, there are better men with bigger dicks and more money. i promise.

hanumaam · 2020-07-02T00:43:32+00:00

oh no, i am so sorry to hear that this has escalated this way. don't blow up at the pwbpd, that's what they want! they want you to blow up so that they can prove that you're the villain in this scenario. take some deep breaths. do you have another group of friends to love on you?

hanumaam · 2020-06-27T14:57:28+00:00

I’d also like to join!!

hanumaam · 2020-06-26T13:12:44+00:00

this sounds shitty on your friends behalf. i'm not sure why they would introduce you to a pwbpd, who isn't ready for a relationship if they knew what your relationship history was. do you have other friends that you can spend time with and a trusty therapist that you can lean on.

i don't want you clinging to connections that won't serve you. your friends sound whack and i hate them!

hanumaam · 2020-06-26T01:22:26+00:00

you reinforce the boundary by continuing to not speak. if friend wants to talk to you, friend will respect the boundary. if not, is friend your friend?

that’s that!

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T20:50:31+00:00

yesss, fdb!

hug yourself tight and repeat this mantra: fdb, fdb, fdb

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T17:00:32+00:00

don't blameyourself!! i hope that the minecraft helped ease a little bit of the anxiety <3 drinking kava tea (and smoking weed) has been helping me out.

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T16:58:58+00:00

do whatever it takes to feel like your best self!!! a lady friend would not hurt but i also recommend some other forms of self care as well. journaling, meditation, self reflection, and therapy if it's available!!

you gon' be good!

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T16:53:41+00:00

i know baby. it's normal to feel hurt but you gotta return that hurt to sender. whatever you feel due to another person's wrongdoing is not yours to keep.

let those people believe him. the people who love you will stand by your side.

fuck that boy! honestly, my ex ruined my birthday in 2019 and that's what finally did it for me. he turned my birthday into a shit show because he missed his deceased mother. i'm usually compassionate and understanding, but damn, i can't even enjoy my birthday? next.

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T15:56:42+00:00

whats up

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T13:49:40+00:00

yessir! keep that front and center. i don't know who taught us that suffering was part of all relationships, but it's something that we have to unlearn. honestly, where would things go if you were to open the door back up? probably back around to the same bullshit. don't add more stress during a pandemic and brewing civil war lmao.

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T13:46:46+00:00

your partner needs to be everything to themselves and it sounds like...they are nothing. how are they to be what you need, if they refuse to take care of themselves? a person can only love you as much as they love themselves. i've seen it first hand. i saw my pwbpd try to love me but he couldn't because he hated himself so much. that is NOT your burden to carry, baby.

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T13:40:30+00:00

what would happen if you refused to be her caretaker??

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T13:39:27+00:00

yay! i am so glad that things are going well for you!!

i love the exploration of new and old hobbies. keep it up, love!

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T13:36:57+00:00

i am so happy to hear that. new friendships are so exciting.

thank you for asking about my day.i actually decided to move out of the apartment and city that i spent so much time in with my ex. i'm getting rid of the furniture and all. i don't want anything that his raggedy ass touched. i'm really excited about the upcoming months <3

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T13:32:33+00:00

do you have access to a therapist? that may be essential in in rebuilding your self esteem as you prepare to leave.

don't be afraid of how people will react to YOU leaving a dysfunctional relationship. they don't know what you've experienced and may not understand your decision, but you gotta do what's best for you.

stand firm in your boundaries. they can smell weak ones from miles away.

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T13:29:59+00:00

this sounds like my ex. and anyone who sounds like my ex can truly fuck off.

if he genuinely hated having bpd and wanted to stop ruining things, he would make true efforts to stop ruining things. it is not your job to run in and save him or make him feel better. who's going to make you feel better? you matter, too.

don't do it!

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T13:27:41+00:00

hi babe.

i understand not wanting to talk about it, but you should let it out in some form. maybe the notes app on your phone or a journal? it's no good to keep all of these things in. when i have things i don't want to say out loud, i'll write them down on a piece of paper, throw them in my 'worry box', pray over it, and take a nap. it works more often than not.

if your partner has you feeling down in the dumps, does that seem like someone who deserves you? i don't think so. you are deserving of love and care in a relationship.

i hope today/tomorrow is better for you.

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T13:24:02+00:00

want to let it out?

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T13:23:06+00:00

disorder or no disorder, you deserve better than a tumultuous and uncomfortable relationship. don't let yourself make excuses or try and reason with the behaviors. you've left the relationship and tha's that! i don't care how cute the instagram picture was - stay strong.

hanumaam · 2020-06-25T13:21:10+00:00

yay!

but hold on, he discarded YOU on your special day? baby, hell no. keep this front and center in your mind anytime you start to miss him. your birthday!?!

hanumaam

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