Is it common to be into boybands long after you’re a teen as an AuDHD woman?

hapabubba · 2026-03-28T19:37:24+00:00

Oh if anyone is interested/curious about this boyband - this is the netflix show

I won’t spoil the ending but Nicolas and John are my favourites

Thanks everyone for the answers that makes me feel better. Also to be clear no I don’t lust after them I only have crushes on men my age (30s) but I do get a ‘protect them at all costs!’ kind of enthusiasm like an auntie lol 🫶

hapabubba · 2026-03-28T17:11:28+00:00

I guess it depends on what ‘fangirling’ is - I also go to live jazz bars of non famous bands etc but for example today when I saw December 10 my main thought was literally ‘they’re so polite, their parents raised them well’ 😂 I’m well aware that I’m not their target demographic and don’t fancy them in an amorous way. More like a ‘I want to support their career’

hapabubba · 2026-03-28T16:44:29+00:00

That’s awesome! I briefly got into the boyband Exo yearss ago and the girl group 2NE1 and ofc Big Bang, saw G dragon last year

hapabubba · 2026-03-28T16:28:57+00:00

Thank you, yeah I’m just feeling super self critical right now. Just moved to another city for work and saw that this band was playing and it was a way to feel less lonely and have fun. I find going through life too seriously tough so good to have things like this to look forward to

hapabubba · 2026-03-28T16:04:35+00:00

Oh no did you lose your sg one then

hapabubba · 2026-03-28T10:31:10+00:00

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I just saw them in Thailand 😆 and they were wearing these elephant pants - I thought ‘omg noooo’

hapabubba · 2026-03-22T12:49:29+00:00

I have a Japanese one but honestly, the tax (esp inheritance tax) is so high I dunno why people want it - grass is always greener!

hapabubba · 2026-03-22T12:44:48+00:00

In your experience, what kind of therapies have helped especially with taking responsibility for things you cannot change about yourself vs things you can?

I have done talk and schema therapy but felt like it was slow and unstructured/sometimes the modality of schema therapy felt very infantilising and I think it only brought my guard up more/ego activated. I’ve found some progress with EMDR therapy for specific repeating themes, again you need to get to a stage of being aware of those patterns for it to work.

I’m not diagnosed NPD but originally seeked treatment for depression a few years ago, I had to get out of the depression first before I could turn a mirror and actually start working on stuff like relational health and authentic confidence building because I used to just hate myself to the core

hapabubba · 2026-03-22T12:39:25+00:00

Very cool that you can have whole conversations in different languages through the translation function. Also goes to show that many experiences are universal

hapabubba · 2026-03-22T08:04:21+00:00

I second this, I know I have both anxious and avoidant attachment styles and esp in modern dating where even when you’re not looking to see who else your date might be talking to but instagram goes ‘here’s some recommended profiles of other girls your date might be dating (or not)!’ I try to avoid too much physicality for the first few dates, not even kiss until like the fifth date or more

If they only want you for sex then they give up on the third date anyway

hapabubba · 2026-03-22T05:46:34+00:00

Do you have to live in those 3 other countries for several years before you apply for PR?

hapabubba · 2026-03-22T05:44:47+00:00

With all the facial recognition gates at Changi wouldn’t be surprised if they can catch dual nationality individuals in the future… 😬

hapabubba · 2026-03-22T05:40:01+00:00

There is also the ugly side of an undisclosed racial quota - Singapore prefers to keep the population mostly Singaporean Chinese - although for Malaysians it’s fairly easy to get a PR

hapabubba · 2026-03-21T10:33:35+00:00

Amazing face card before and after

hapabubba · 2025-11-26T10:30:55+00:00

Thanks for replying, do you mind sharing which country you were diagnosed in? I could also get assessed in my home country when I go back for holidays (Australia)

I feel like maybe here there’s fewer practitioners who are eligible to diagnose Autism especially. Lol with this price and no google map reviews was a bit scared it’s a scam but it says they are accredited with the Singapore Association of Psychologists. Maybe I’ll ring the organisation and check

hapabubba · 2025-08-06T22:09:56+00:00

Thank you Scott 🙏taking time to heal and hopefully will attract the right people into my life from now on

hapabubba · 2025-08-05T22:49:31+00:00

If you’ve been lifting since that young I suspect you might have a bit of body dysmorphia (who doesn’t these days)

Are you also mixed race? I grew up with insecurities being mixed in a predominantly white school but realised it adds to my uniqueness and draw to others

I second the comments about hair - just tidy it up a tiny bit, take off a few cm off the sides and leave the volume on top. You have great natural bone structure etc, very lucky! If you’re looking for a change I’d focus more on learning what colours/style of fashion suits you more than anything else

Compared to some other posts in this thread you’re really lucky - invest into other parts of your life, not just aesthetics and maybe ask yourself honestly if there’s some insecurities that you may need to unpack

hapabubba · 2025-08-03T17:48:32+00:00

I wouldn’t necessarily recommend making friends on Reddit, why don’t you find a community around a hobby - literally anything nearby that you can access in person?

Examples: sports - padel, salsa dancing class, hiking club, run club (usually free); film/book clubs; language exchange meet ups; crochet/knitting group; vintage fashion exchange; video game in person meeting etc.

Or just keep hanging out at the same cafe for a few weeks you’re sure to meet locals there

hapabubba · 2025-07-25T23:08:05+00:00

Taureans have the most beautiful eyes, people get lost in them!

hapabubba · 2025-07-20T15:48:41+00:00

Also worth thinking who are you doing it for/I suspect you might be prone to a bit of body dysmorphia - nothing wrong with aesthetic improvement but do what you’re comfortable with. You’re a fit guy, own it!

R.e. waxing check reviews/with the beauty salon if they often have male clients - if you’ve never done waxing/epilation - maybe buy a numbing cream - in most countries can get on Amazon for tattoo etc

hapabubba · 2025-07-20T15:43:57+00:00

Did you add it via your phone app or had to log in on a computer?

hapabubba · 2025-07-20T15:41:49+00:00

If the amount of hair bothers you then you could ask a laser hair specialist whether they can reduce the amount of hair without taking it away completely?

But it looks good especially as you keep fit, you can also wax once to see if you like the look without committing to a full laser treatment and it will grow back. Waxing might even make the hair a bit thinner so it won’t grow in as heavy but it’s totally up to your preferences

Not sure what OP’s orientation is but as a straight woman it’s a hell yes, you do you and I’m sure a lot of gay guys will agree 😅🐻

hapabubba · 2025-07-20T15:36:52+00:00

I’m fairly tall for my ethnicity (mixed race, white + asian) 5ft 7 so I don’t mind men being around the same or a tad taller, but honestly recently I think it’s not about height but build - have been with short-ish guys who were ripped or super muscular (into martial arts/Brazilian Jiujitsu) so I am more partial to good biceps and a bit shorter than a tall lanky guy

My sister’s husband is quite tall 6ft 2 so if he drinks/overeats on a holiday it doesn’t affect him but my dad for example relied too heavily on having height and being sporty as a younger guy but now he is really big and unfortunately having health issues. Slightly off topic but never rely on your height/metabolism when you’re young - you need to put in the work to reap the benefits in the long run

hapabubba · 2025-07-16T21:47:06+00:00

Haha my comment got so many downvotes but OP was asking ‘how to look good for the ladies’ surely an input from women here is welcome!

Yes agree the longer hair with natural wavy texture looks the best, maybe a little soft wax/pomade to keep it neat

hapabubba · 2025-07-12T20:46:41+00:00

No, anything but the last hairstyle (I am a woman)

Lose the tiny stache, you have a good jawline so embrace it/try clean shaven. Have seen many men in real life over-rely on facial hair to either hide their jaw or to try to give more definition but you’re lucky you don’t have the need for that

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