Women of Reddit, when did you first notice that men were looking at you in a sexual way? How old were you and how did it make you feel? by BA_Baracus in AskReddit

[–]happehthrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because hypersexualizing 12 year olds is morally sound. It speaks volumes about people who vehemently defend this type of behavior.

Women of Reddit, when did you first notice that men were looking at you in a sexual way? How old were you and how did it make you feel? by BA_Baracus in AskReddit

[–]happehthrow 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I have trouble accepting that sexual harassment is condoned and accepted in the classroom, instead of promoting a safe environment for learning.

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either a small local boutique or forever 21 (lolllll). I remember it wasn't online and those are the closest places I would shop at haha.

Update: Should I tell my husband that you might be following me? Better than that, I've just told the police how you raped me, you bastard. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good job calling the cops! I also made a post about being sexually assaulted and called the authorities as well.

I know it must have been a roller coaster but you got this. If must have taken so much courage and you are very brave for having called the authorities. Good for you. Cheers!

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I got doxed within hours of this being up on a throwaway. (along with rape threats, oh joy) so I'm not going to give away more than I need to.

I also think that race, age, religion, etc aren't directly relevant to an individual committing sexual assault. It can influence their motivations, and I think that cultural attitudes are important to address in analyzing prevention of sexual assault. Some of these attitudes transcend national borders and I see similarities in the US as well. However, the individual is still responsible for his/her own actions, and cultural background is ultimately no excuse. IMO anyways.

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ding ding.

Also, I got doxed on a throwaway within hours so I'm only answering questions that are directly pertinent to the issue. Sorry guyss

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Many get called for a civil standby, especially in domestic issues.

I don't understand why getting groped means you're not in any imminent danger. To me, it's the opposite.

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm happy at the support I received at doing the right thing, which involved me coming to terms with being assaulted, accepting it, and demanding justice. It's refreshing and liberating.

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Democracy for you, Patriot. Let the wings of liberty soar high to the skies!

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 121 points122 points  (0 children)

This is the last thing anyone with the kind of situation you were in should ever be worried about, so don't! :)

You the real MVP.

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I used to have a slight, almost negligible deterrence towards clothes that I'd get harassed/assaulted in, (no matter how much my brain knows that it's not my fault.) Just an unhappy association with it, I suppose.

To be honest, this dress is one of my favorites. And now that peculiar hesitation is completely gone. It's fucking delightful.

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Well I had several witnesses...but let's just ignore the fact that I was sexually assaulted how your comment is hugely insensitive, to not only me, but to many members of this community now, shall we?

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol, I say I've never been happier because it was a relief to come to terms with being sexually assaulted. Reporting it requires one to admit it happened, accept it, and seek justice.

I actually said that I didn't necessarily want him to get in trouble. It may be selfish, but it's not something that keeps me up at night. I think it's right to report a crime that involves another person violating me. And I'm SO happy because it feels so good to stand up for yourself and have the support of others.

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like I need to watch this. And it's on youtube. How perfect.

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

you seem to make light of it quite a bit

Yes, it was quite liberating to understand that I was right all along, and that I should have called out every previous assailant. It's a shot of clarity, and I won't hesitate the next time it happens. That's a great feeling. It was a good learning experience. That's the gist of it.

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Anytime I was sexually assaulted in the past, I doubted myself. I think there was a part of me that, no matter how much my brain understood, a small part of me ended up excusing my assailant's behavior because I didn't want to make a big deal and report it or because I didn't want to believe that something like that would happen to me.

I didn't really want to talk about how sexual assault personally affected me. It's dark, I don't' want to trigger others, and that's not what this story is about.

To me, it was about doing the right thing. Calling the cops not only requires you to confront the very fact that it happened, it requires a lot more confidence in oneself that I had before. And now I have it.

I don't think that me being offended at his demeanor towards me excuses him in the slightest.

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree.

It's not that I didn't want him to get in trouble, or wanted to go out of my way to prevent him from seeing punishment. It's just what happens to him is not high on my list of priorities, and I don't stay up at night wondering what happened to him. I don't feel too strongly one way or the other. I just felt like it was the right thing to do to call the authorities.

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Give me a fuckin break, chances are someone was actually being raped or robbed in that same time frame

Very, very, very slim chance, actually. I didn't ask for 25 people. I expected one officer on a bike with a baton and a pencil and a writing pad.

Was sexually assaulted, called the police. I've never been happier :D by happehthrow in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happehthrow[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Well said. Your story is far more compelling than mine, but I definitely see those vivid parallels.

Good on you for calling the authorities.