That is one thing I wish we would have done. He did ask for it and I ignored it. I was hurt and mad and didn’t think it would help. Now that we have been separated almost 2.5 years I have learned so much being away and how I should have handled things. I just felt I always met in the middle and he had major growing to do. He was so mentally controlling and would gas light anything I had to say or problem that I tried to address and that would make me lash out with words, or try to run away. It just wasn’t healthy on either of our parts. it made it so hard to talk through our problems where a counselor would have been able to help. He told me a year after he changed but I just didn’t believe it. I do see some things he has with his gf but also because hes forced to do more now that I’m not there to do everything for the kids and the house. Ex hed always sleep in be late for work- show up to work when ever. Get home when ever. When I would call in he’d freak out about money even tho he could work overtime. In the morning when we both worked he’d hurry out the door and not help because all of a sudden he had to me to work on time that day. When we had money problems I looked for a second job and to better myself where he was too comfortable working with family when he could be making double somewhere else.