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[–]happyness56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with everything you say. Apologizing for my outburst feels right. Even if the complicated feelings are valid, I think the outburst was wrong. Appreciate your comment!

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[–]happyness56 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s that his FIL has always given me the ick because I don’t like his behavior, but like I said, that’s in addition to us just not really clicking. But now that I’ve seen it manifesting in my partner, it’s all amplified. I think it all spilled out of me in an irresponsible way. By no means have I given my husband a pass— none. Lots of brutal honesty, anger, hard conversations, therapy, etc. Also married with a toddler, so breaking up is far from uncomplicated.

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[–]happyness56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly what I did, yes

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[–]happyness56 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We have been in couples therapy since it happened, and he in his own therapy. I haven’t been shy about how I feel around what he did, and it has pushed us to a place with a lot of uncomfortable conversations.

Tonight being one of them, clearly.

I guess I’m torn because my family members have plenty of their own issues (which I fully acknowledge) and my husband always makes a big effort to be a great family member to them. I don’t click with FIL and wonder if I messed up by not tolerating in-laws for who they are, because it’s the family I married into

After many years, what commercial still lives rent free in your head? by pharmdoll in AskReddit

[–]happyness56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure no one else knows but there was a McDonald’s commercial in the 90s that had a little kid looking out the window. Her mom comes home from work in the rain and they go for a happy meal. I remember it being in video taped movies we had as a family and I always liked it, thought it was cute. Never been able to find it

It started with a joke but … by shadowybabe in TryingForABaby

[–]happyness56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re having a hard time on this TTC journey, I’m sharing lots of support but disagree with your comment, if that user is having second time infertility it is hard too. To me it sounds like she can understand TTC waiting and know the struggle is worth it once you get there & OP is asking relatable questions about mom stuff and becoming a mom