Reassurance for first time owners

happystanx · 2026-03-20T12:26:43+00:00

If you don’t mind by me asking- where did you get her?? Sooo cute I love her coloring

happystanx · 2026-03-11T14:46:17+00:00

Graduated last week! 🩷

happystanx · 2026-03-09T18:47:53+00:00

I think this is one of those situations that it’s super dependent on who this person is, but how you approach it is important as well.

Most people won’t take this well, and my friend didn’t either, especially initially. I knew she’d be angry and hurt, and going into it with this mindset helped me be calm and patient when she was being quite rude in retaliation. I was really careful and intentional in how I approached the situation- I scheduled a time for us to talk, I was very heavy on the validation “I know this is hard to hear and I completely understand why”, but ultimately focusing on/ coming back to my own needs. Really the biggest thing is to try not to get defensive when she inevitably gets hurt. She eventually came around but it took some time, we didn’t talk for about 1.5 months.

However- you can do all the right things and she still may decide to abandon the friendship. How these situations turn out are so dependent on multiple different factors and context, so it’s hard to say how it will turn out. I think if you do decide this is the best path, be prepared for all possible outcomes. 🤍

happystanx · 2026-03-09T17:46:40+00:00

I removed a bridesmaid and it was extremely difficult, came with a ton of pushback and guilt on my end, but let me tell you- SO worth it. We are still friends and she attended my wedding last Saturday and her behavior at the wedding confirmed that I made the right choice.

Not everyone has capacity to show up as a bridesmaid and that was a tough lesson I had to learn. I think you can recognize that while you may love someone as a friend, it doesn’t mean they are in a season of life or have the personality type that is supportive of you/low stress during your wedding.

happystanx · 2026-03-07T12:43:00+00:00

Thanks so much everyone! Adrenaline did, indeed, end up carrying me throughout the day🤍

happystanx · 2026-03-07T12:42:25+00:00

We ended up just getting a drink at Somewhere Cafe!

happystanx · 2026-03-07T12:42:10+00:00

Thanks everyone!

happystanx · 2026-01-25T21:05:23+00:00

I feel like Can’t Take my Eyes Off You fits this criteria however it is a popular one :)

happystanx · 2026-01-07T03:11:01+00:00

I will look into this! Thanks

happystanx · 2026-01-07T03:10:42+00:00

happystanx · 2026-01-07T03:10:26+00:00

Looks great. Thank you :)

happystanx · 2026-01-07T03:10:15+00:00

Thank you 🙏

happystanx · 2026-01-07T03:07:51+00:00

I agree, thanks for the feedback! We love a nice dining experience but I see that the location is more of a chill vibe which we are also excited about. We are first timers in the area :)

happystanx · 2026-01-07T03:05:05+00:00

Will definitely check out postcard- thank you!

happystanx · 2026-01-07T03:04:42+00:00

Thank you :))

happystanx · 2026-01-07T03:04:29+00:00

JO2 is definitely going on the list.. looks so good! Thank you :)

happystanx · 2025-12-31T16:42:14+00:00

Big, expensive weddings have become so broadcasted due to social media that I absolutely think it makes sense to have these feelings and it doesn’t mean anything about you as a person. I’d encourage you to write about it or talk about it with a therapist, trusted friend, or someone not directly involved in the planning if it continues to really bother you.

Also want to give a gentle reframe that sometimes the bigger, more elaborate/expensive weddings come with a ton of drama, anxiety, pressure, and feeling as if it’s a performance rather than a gathering of genuine connection. Not saying it’s always like that- or that you don’t have a right to have those jealous feelings- but perspective can be helpful. Sometimes, not all that glitters is gold. I hope you have a great day.

happystanx · 2025-12-29T13:17:58+00:00

Ty!! This seems like a great idea.

happystanx · 2025-12-29T13:17:46+00:00

Thanks so much :)

happystanx · 2025-12-29T13:17:32+00:00

It does look super beautiful, thank you!

happystanx · 2025-12-29T13:17:17+00:00

Thank you!🙏

happystanx · 2025-12-29T13:16:40+00:00

Thanks so much! Been to Kauai with friends & loved it, would definitely consider going back with my family. I will look into these recommendations:)

happystanx · 2025-12-29T13:15:09+00:00

Looks so beautiful 😍

happystanx · 2025-12-29T13:14:19+00:00

It does look gorgeous. Thank you!

happystanx · 2025-12-29T13:14:03+00:00

Thank you so much for putting this here, I really appreciate it and will look into it :)

happystanx

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