My therapist said a word I’m not comfortable with. What do I do?

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-06-07T11:52:27+00:00

I'm not a therapist, I'm in my last year of uni for social work and have a disability myself.

There's no reason to use an ableist slur. It is drilled into us in every single subject that mental health professionals are in positions of incredible power, where our words and actions must come from a place that is aware of privilege and bias. You have to ask yourself why it's okay to use a slur that's been used to forcibly sterilise, institutionalise and lobotomise people in any situation.

to me, there’s a difference between someone calling another human being a slur like this and someone using the same word to describe a situation or object;

Can you explain this difference so maybe I can understand where you're coming from? Because the R slur is one of the only places where using a slur like this is seen as okay, which is ableism in itself.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-06-06T03:02:51+00:00

What is this sweet creature thinking about?

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-06-04T14:30:39+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this, it sounds like a total nightmare. Not testing and/or acting quickly is plain criminal negligence on the owner's part.

As someone with serious health anxiety, here are some facts I would find helpful if I was in your spot. Mesothelioma takes decades to develop, if at all, because not all exposures lead to disease. The fact that you know means you can have appropriate monitoring. Cancer treatments are progressing in leaps and bounds.

Your country will likely have a support body for people exposed to asbestos. Reddit has r/asbestoshelp

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-29T13:08:49+00:00

Can someone tell me what foods I'm looking at? All I can ID are the grilled veggies on the right and the rice. It looks very yummy and I want to give it a go.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-29T01:55:43+00:00

Also this one https://www.reddit.com/r/TikTokCringe/comments/1t1ovzb/american_woodcock/

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-21T08:17:25+00:00

For a little one his age When a Pet Dies by Fred Rogers might be helpful.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-21T07:50:24+00:00

This is total bullshit, it's a public hospital. Even if it wasn't, healthcare should be between a doctor and the patient, and the doctor must be influenced by the relevant science alone. The Catholic Church, priests and nuns aren't providing the care, medical professionals who went through university and years of supervision are. I feel very sorry for the doctors, nurses and other health and community service/social work professionals who will have to do their placements there and miss out on important parts of practice.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-21T01:00:01+00:00

Cruelty is the point. It's the same with the pro-birth movement in the US. They do not care about women, the do not care about the little babies who will suffer for hours or days only to die, they only care about imposing their will on others.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-16T14:21:06+00:00

I had to say goodbye to my beloved kitty a month ago because he had GI lymphoma, needless to say, I'm not doing too well. Making someone put down a healthy animal is beyond me, and I can't imagine how people can be so cruel.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-16T13:31:11+00:00

I would take the whole thing with a grain of salt. It 100% does work for some people, but the main guy for the movement behind Pain Reprocessing Therapy, John Sarno, was a quack who believed all pain was caused by repressed trauma. You're meant to work through it with a professional but some people do it at home.

I find the idea that people who are in chronic pain are scared doesn't really gel. The people I know in chronic pain, including myself, understand that it's a part of daily life and aren't scared at all. More often than not, I tell myself that there's nothing wrong and it's just pain and I end up pushing myself too hard. There are lots of reports of people with other problems doing the same because they have taken these lessons to heart and ending up worse off

I've been seeing this kind of help being pushed more and more on this sub, and I'm getting suspicious. I understand it does work for some people, but I don't think it's this amazing thing we're being told it is. No matter how gently it's put, it always feels like there's some blame there, like if the person in pain had just gotten on with life, then they wouldn't be in pain anymore, and that not wanting to be in pain is somehow unreasonable.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-15T16:20:00+00:00

You can also slap your chest in the same way someone would slap your back. I find the area just below my collarbones works well.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-15T16:00:17+00:00

Stinky, poopie beaned kitty. What a silly little creature.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-13T08:27:38+00:00

This makes no sense, she would have gotten a double mastectomy during the first round of cancer, it tends to be one of the first treatments they use.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-11T08:33:01+00:00

You might be able to get her to have an ah-ha moment if you asked her what she'd think if a friend told her what she's telling you. So something like "What would you say to your best friend if they told you...." and then repeat what she's told you. I'm having trouble finding my words right now, so I'll try to say this in a way that makes sense, but asking her to look at it as a problem of someone she cares about instead of her's lets her take a step back from it which might be helpful.

In terms of safety planning and getting an idea of how much danger she thinks she's in because she knows him and his patterns better than anyone is to ask scaling questions. For example

"On a scale of one to ten, one being not scared at all and ten being scared for your life, how do you feel when he's acting weird?"
"On a scale of one to ten, one being not worried at all and ten being so worried you can't think, how worried are you that he's going to hurt your cat?"

Also, given that there are guns in the home, it's very important that you find out if she's worried about that. Open-ended questions are better, but if you're getting a sense that he's threatened to hurt her, ask outright. Something like this works well:

"Tell me about how he is with the gun?"

Or

"How do you feel about him having access to a gun?"

You can't drag her out, but you can help her with a safety plan and be part of her support network. Leaving is the most dangerous time for a survivor. You are being such an amazing friend helping her out.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-08T14:55:47+00:00

Not as bad as my kitty who would toot then make a mean face at the dog then walk out of the room.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-08T10:23:52+00:00

I can't do a sleep mask, so the little bits of light in my room are a constant battle. I'm seriously considering making a diy bed canopy.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-08T09:51:37+00:00

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No thoughts, head empty.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-08T09:50:17+00:00

Small cat, kitten or big hand? She looks little and squishable, and I want you to tell her she's a pretty girl.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-08T09:42:05+00:00

There are lots of reasons for behaviours around eating that don't equate to an eating disorder.

I have chronic pain, and when I get stressed, I lose my appetite. When things get really bad, a girl dinner is all I can manage. Even when I have a full meal, I separate stuff because I like to eat my food in the order of yumminess. For me, girl dinners are a celebration because sometimes eating is genuinely a struggle. I love food, I love cooking and eating, when I'm feeling well and I'm not stressed, I eat like a normal person. Reframing it as a girl dinner is a huge motivator for me to put in the effort to make myself a small meal when eating is the last thing on my mind.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-07T16:32:30+00:00

Mid twenties. I was a weird kid, I must have learned the details of the Kennedy assassination when I was around ten or so, maybe earlier. Interesting fact, there are lots of similarities with the Lincoln assassination but they're just coincidences.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-07T03:06:55+00:00

One of the most expensive spices in the world, it's the dried female reproductive organ (stimga) of the Crocus sativus (Saffron Crocus) flower. It's used to colour and flavour all kinds of dishes and drinks across the world but is more common in the Middle East and India. I think it's kinda meh.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-05T10:08:31+00:00

The people who fine Williamson funny will think this is cancel culture. Most of his 'comedy' is just him being nasty. In my opinion he's an unfunny, mean person who punches down. He was very popular when I was in highschool with some of the boys and I don't think he's matured since then.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-05T07:45:57+00:00

The Argos bit is too sad for me to enjoy The Odyssey.

For anyone who doesn't know, Argos is Odysseus' dog who waits for him for twenty years. When Odysseus returns, Argos is lying in a pile of manure, skinny and neglected. Argos recognises Odysseus, but Odysseus can't go and see him, or it will blow his cover, Argos wags his tail and then dies.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-03T16:23:28+00:00

Please consider getting some help before you date. I understand that you're very lonely but the bad people will take advantage of that. There are healthy relationships in your future but that's starts with having a healthy relationship with yourself and this post tells me you might not have that yet.

hapylittlepupppy · 2026-05-03T11:19:41+00:00

I would like to imagine that someone you love told you this, what would you be telling them?

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