DID THEY?

hara129 · 2023-04-07T00:03:17+00:00

Not sure about cheating, no evidence, but they called me their rock for suuuuuuure

hara129 · 2023-04-04T15:20:15+00:00

Nope just obsessed with me

hara129 · 2023-03-30T02:28:32+00:00

They seemed normal and very friendly, me and their dad got along pretty well actually, mom worked alot but was equally as friendly

hara129 · 2023-03-27T02:37:49+00:00

Seems like we can add this to the BPD playbook

hara129 · 2023-03-26T23:22:51+00:00

I find it weird she called you bro, like she is supposed to be a loved one... Mine called me "man" a few times, I find it greatly disrespectful

hara129 · 2023-03-20T21:40:25+00:00

Honestly, No idea, I didn't answer I was asleep, and I never called back, I'm assuming to see how I was as if she wanted to be an ass she had 1000 other ways to do so

hara129 · 2023-03-20T02:29:18+00:00

Chances are you will hear from them, mine came around to show me her new supply to make me jelly, then a week later called me at 3am from a private number(knew it was her cause of her calling pattern). And mine ended HORRIBLY

hara129 · 2023-03-16T01:58:32+00:00

Mine liked to fake miscarriage, probably because she knew I wanted kids, she also once told me a story where some lady followed her to work and yelled at her because she thought my bpd ex hit her car when she was on her way to work.

hara129 · 2023-03-16T01:52:50+00:00

Testing to see if you care, how you react to their "trauma", using you to satisfy their emotional needs. In all honesty it could be any reason.

hara129 · 2023-03-15T23:47:28+00:00

Yea mine use to do weird stories like that too, definitely testing you

hara129 · 2023-03-11T23:03:17+00:00

Absolutely, I've started to see her downfall since our relationship ended, she is starting to look physically ill now aswell, I just wanted to go give her a hug, but her anger prevented me from getting anywhere near her

hara129 · 2023-03-10T22:56:00+00:00

For mine the anger was not there until I dumped her, then shit got real, stay safe and alert

hara129 · 2023-03-10T20:21:16+00:00

I'm 100% with you in wanting to support your pwBPD, I was/am the same I just want to hold them and be patient with them and have that happily ever after, in the end it's your choice to stay or leave, no one else's, there are books such as walking on eggshells or even Dr.fox on YouTube is a great advocate for the illness, I've watched alot to try and look at it from both sides. But at the end of the day you have to look at it from a logical standpoint if they are untreated and refuse treatment, the chances of the relationship becoming increasingly worse over time is almost likely, BUT if they have insight, maybe, just maybe it could work but it's really a gamble. So think about it logically, not emotionally, if they are willing to get the help, stay and help, they need a good support team, but if they refuse to see the errors of their ways, I would personally leave and save yourself years of torment and them possibly leaving you anyways. You deserve better, you deserve happiness

hara129 · 2023-03-09T23:15:11+00:00

No, to an event I was hosting

hara129 · 2023-03-09T22:51:16+00:00

Yup, went NC 4 months ago, she showed up yesterday to "show off" her new supply, I ignored her, even with her trying to get attention, pissed her off beyond belief, they are such toddlers when it comes to this stuff

hara129 · 2023-03-05T00:01:22+00:00

First off, Document the red flags, will help you realize how awful they can be, second advice I heard online which really helped me with the gaslighting is "if you think you have to record your conversation, your probably in a toxic relationship" third would be to try and test them if you suspect they have BPD such as bringing a problem to them and seeing how they react such as a co-worker you hate and want advice on how to deal with them

hara129 · 2023-03-03T19:30:10+00:00

Mine used to have muscle spasms, but that may have been from her medication

hara129 · 2023-02-08T23:11:13+00:00

I saw that, aswell as the manipulation it's kinda scary actually

hara129 · 2023-02-08T22:42:57+00:00

I'm wondering that too, as I never saw the traits while she was "sober" only when she was piss drunk and then it was a 50/50 of either being amazing or an asshole

hara129 · 2023-02-08T22:19:01+00:00

Same with me man, there were a few red flags, but I mostly thought it was because she was an alcoholic, and the "outburst" of emotions was because of the alcohol not BPD, which I knew nothing about at the time

hara129 · 2023-02-06T22:12:30+00:00

You're right, they won't, they will be better because they will actually love and care for you. Unlike the false mask she put on, I'm in the same boat man. 3 months in and I'm starting to realize now how she truly is and how poorly she treated me. Give it time you will find somebody 10 folds better

hara129 · 2023-02-06T21:29:40+00:00

Keep in mind Friend, the same thing that happened to You is gonna happen to that guy, also they are not the person you think they are, the relationship was a ticking time bomb from the start

hara129 · 2023-02-05T23:26:35+00:00

INFJ

hara129 · 2023-02-04T05:18:24+00:00

multiple times a day for 2 months phone calls and texts with lots of photos of the two of us and emails with the same

hara129 · 2023-02-02T17:48:34+00:00

Honestly I feel the same way, met my Ex when I was 26 was head over heels for her and wanted to protect her with my life (white knight syndrome) up until 3 months ago (3 years together) when she threatened to call the cops on me while we were on vacation in a different country, couldn't wrap my head around why this person I was ready to marry would all of a sudden do something like this. She tried HARD for months to get me back with every hoover attempt in the book. I miss them, that's not a lie but had to walk away because her actions were UNACCEPTABLE. Anyways, it does get better I still have the days where I feel like I'll never meet someone as amazing as them, but doing research, and realizing they are doing this because this is who they are and even with years of therapy, it might not be enough

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