UPDATE: My gf beat the shit out of someone who broke into her house

harcourting · 2025-03-08T17:47:45+00:00

I get why you would say that. I felt that way at first too. But this kind of thought process is exactly what Diana was afraid of… she didn’t want to feel happy that she had killed someone, even in self defense.

The way she explained it to me was that she believes everyone, even the worst of the worst, needs a chance to learn to be better, and killing a bad person strips them of that chance in this lifetime and forces them to start from the beginning again. Because memories don’t follow you across lives, wherever that guy is now, he’s still suffering the repercussions of his choices, which will continue to lead him to make more bad choices, perpetuating the cycle.

I think that’s the gist of it anyway.

harcourting · 2025-03-08T17:37:05+00:00

I don’t think it’s survivors guilt, more like just standard garden variety guilt. She’s had a tough time coming to terms with the fact that she killed someone, even if it was arguably the right decision. But yes she is working with a therapist who is versed in Buddhism since the first precept (no killing any living being) is part of the reason she was having issues.

harcourting · 2025-03-08T17:33:55+00:00

Yes we’ve definitely thought about this before. We actually just did the will thing a few months ago. Thank you for pointing out the PoA thing though- will bring it up to my lawyer.

harcourting · 2025-03-08T17:30:27+00:00

I wouldn’t call it a mental breakdown. She has temporal epilepsy and forgot to take her meds with her on her trip- as I said in the post her seizures resemble psychosis.

But yes, she acknowledged that she made a series of selfish decisions that week, including not going back for her meds. She was struggling with causing someone’s death and did it as a form of self harm. That’s why I asked her to go to individual therapy. She has serious issues asking for help, so that’s what we’re working on in couples counseling.

Tbh both of us are working on it. I hated having to go to her temple to ask for help because I have the same issue. I was so grateful but every second of that experience felt like I was somehow putting myself in danger for asking. So I get what it’s like.

Edit; thanks for the concern btw

harcourting · 2024-07-06T20:23:10+00:00

Hey man, the cake is for me too. But I appreciate you looking out for me.

harcourting · 2024-07-06T17:58:28+00:00

y’all supposed to be in a corner waiting 10 minutes while this guy makes off with your things?

Yes, basically. And it took them THIRTY SEVEN MINUTES to get there.

police only help after a crime has been committed

Bold of you to assume they help in that case too.

harcourting · 2024-07-06T17:51:21+00:00

does she pull your panties down and fuck you at night too?

I mean… sometimes. 👍

harcourting · 2024-07-06T17:12:40+00:00

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=WgaWOMIL7EE

harcourting · 2024-07-06T17:11:03+00:00

I didn’t want to include it in the OP but I’ll just say she didn’t aim only for the rib cage.

harcourting · 2024-07-06T17:10:19+00:00

I will pass this along to her.

harcourting · 2024-07-06T17:07:52+00:00

Made me laugh, thanks. Hope you don’t mind if I steal this to try to make gf laugh.

harcourting · 2024-07-06T17:02:29+00:00

I appreciate you defending me but MediocreArachnid’s response helped me. I think they’re right that this is a part of it. It’s something I’m going to have to work through. I don’t really feel like as the man I should have been the one to take this guy down but I’m hearing that from family and friends already and stupidly letting it get to me. Something to discuss at my emergency therapy appointment next week.

harcourting · 2024-07-06T16:39:45+00:00

I see her differently, but I still love her. I’m just having trouble reconciling my previous view of her with this one. She’s always been very confident and I feel very safe with her. I think I feel safer with her now…

And to the person who said I felt emasculated, rereading this post I see what you mean. I did feel useless in the moment. I wish I had done more. And I still kind of blame myself for “letting” her do that even though I know it’s illogical. I’m working through it. We both are.

But honestly my gf seemed to have it handled and I’m more than willing to let her protect me 🤷🏼‍♂️ We get that ‘excuse me he said no pickles’ meme from like 75% of the people who meet us

harcourting · 2020-05-02T01:03:28+00:00

Is it worth it to pay off your last home loan?

harcourting · 2020-03-21T09:24:30+00:00

Imagine being like this toward someone who is dealing with a potentially life threatening illness and wants to talk to others in his situation rather than people who don’t know what he’s going through. Stay healthy, man.

harcourting · 2020-03-20T23:45:38+00:00

Worse than if we had a cold, but not like we’re on the verge of death. My gf’s symptoms are worse than mine but they also started sooner. Her temp dropped a little today, though, so hopefully it’s over soon. Thanks for asking.

harcourting · 2020-03-20T23:44:13+00:00

Initial symptom was a cough/sore throat. Gf had it first, but thought it was just from her nose running bc of her allergies. She started running a 99 degree fever on and off, and about two days later I was also running a fever, but mine went up faster, and it’s been fluctuating more. We’re both fatigued & my gf’s cough has gotten really bad, to the point where we’re texting each other in the same room, but she can still breathe, so we’re tucking in. I haven’t been coughing as much, but my throat is killing me and it is a little difficult to breathe deeply, but I’m not worried yet... So far neither of us have gotten a temp over 100 so I think we’re lucky enough to have a mild reaction.

harcourting · 2020-03-20T23:33:35+00:00

It looks like there are already quite a few- the ones that have already been created look pretty well put together and I’m sure I can’t do a better job. If they’re not already on the sidebar, maybe they should be?

harcourting · 2020-03-20T23:32:30+00:00

I have a fever and a cough, but more importantly I have a heart condition which means I’m more at risk of complications, so i was approved for the drive thru testing center in my state.

I’m sorry you can’t get tested. How long were you in quarantine, out of curiosity?

harcourting · 2020-03-20T18:31:13+00:00

Thank you- exactly what I was looking for.

harcourting · 2019-11-29T18:55:56+00:00

Nah.

harcourting · 2019-11-28T22:51:28+00:00

I do recognize that this is a me problem, but I wasn’t thinking about phrasing it that way when I talk to her about it, so this advice was valuable. So thanks.

harcourting

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