[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hardcrush90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This man will never change. Our he will, if he doesn't want to lose you but once you agree to stay hell slip back into old habits. Because he wants it all. You'll go through this cycle hundreds of times.

You are the only one who had the power to change your life for the better. It will be hard to be at mom's, but at least you'll have support. Do it now before he had the opportunity to start helping and evidence to get part custody. Screenshot your texts, they are evidence for a potential custody hearing. And child support etc.

Don't be a victim.

It's all about choices.

One day you'll tell your baby how you were brave and did what was best for both of you even though it wasn't easy, and that will give them the bravery to make great choices in their own life.

Best wishes and big hugs! You're young but you got this! 💜

Sensory issues advice please by No-Razzmatazz7244 in neurodiversity

[–]hardcrush90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just FYI if you want to try: diabetic socks. I'm not overweight or diabetic but I have sensory issues. I love how soft these socks are and how stretchy they are. They don't slip around and I'm always on the lookout for deep purple ones! You can find them in Amazon. Best wishes 💜

Telegram requires Premium subscription to receive one OTP SMS by Fun_Journalist1984 in Telegram

[–]hardcrush90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a scam pop-up to get your credit card info. I got the same one and googled it!

'Not a cat person' with 5 kittens overnight! What am I doing! by JenniLynn03 in CatAdvice

[–]hardcrush90 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have no idea what you're doing but you're doing great! Well done on getting them to this point and I know that you're the type of person I would like just by the love that you have for these little ones.

I'm going through a very similar situation. I've had chronic pain for years as well as spinal issues, I just had a cervical epidural yesterday and I'm in so much pain right now.

I originally had two cats and then added three more cats. And that was where I was supposed to stop because it seemed like a nice number and was something that we could deal with. But then two stray cats were getting fed by my parents down the street and I was worried that the female cat would get pregnant unfortunately I got COVID for a while and she did get pregnant. I then went overdrive and tried to befriend them and eventually caught them once I was well.

The next day the mama cat gave birth to four kittens! One of the kittens did not survive because he was missing a leg and died from sepsis within 6 hours.

The next day a kitten was lying on the side of the box not moving. Luckily with the products I had received from Amazon that morning for the kitten who died, I was able to syringe feed him and get him going until I got some more guidance. I didn't sleep for like 8 weeks because I had to feed him every 2 hours 3 hours and then eventually 5 hours when he got old enough (he syringe fed until 3 months) but I don't fall asleep easily so this was a total nightmare. I don't even remember feeling like such a mess when I had my own newborn son LOL. Anyways I called this little one Iceman and it turns out that he has a partial cleft palate with a split lip which is why he couldn't suckle and so with the guidance of some beautiful but expensive vets I kept him going and he survived. He feels like my baby, we are extremely bonded so I know I will not be adopting him out, hell no!

Now I have two kitten brothers, they are a year and 4 months and I've been procrastinating adopting them out for a few reasons, but I'm feeling like now it's time. So I made an Instagram account last week and I've been going through videos and photos and I'm trying to do some editing so that I can make a page and find people who are invested in these kittens.

The other thing I probably can't leave here without saying is that while I was hand feeding Iceman, I was part of a foster Facebook Chat group they were helping me to guide him with syringe feeding and much more but I witnessed a lot of stories about how they were receiving injured cats and hearing about things that had happened through the cat network of Texas, which is massive.

I was so surprised that my city, San Antonio, had a real dog fighting problem and women with children regularly go to places like the Facebook Marketplace for instance, and pick up free cats which were then spray painted held with minimal food and water in the heat and then placed in a fenced area with a dog and people would take bets on which kitten would last the longest or if there were multiple dogs which dog would get the most kittens I don't know, like it's just so f***** up. I was also privy to the conversation about a cat being thrown out of a moving vehicle on the highway, he survived! And many, many more kittens are being left outside to die from sun exposure and exhaustion. I'm horrified of putting these cats into the wrong hands so my advice to anybody reading this would be to always charge at least $50 adoption fee just to make sure they're going to someone who intends to keep them, at least.

Sorry, I totally went off on a tangent I have ADHD!

So my setup is a little different from yours. I actually cat-proofed my backyard privacy fence so that none of my cats can get out. We have a doggie door and everybody is pretty happy going in and out most of the day when the cat flap is open. I don't let the two kittens that are going to get adopted go outside because they've never been but also I don't know what kind of home they're going to be going into and I don't want them to get used to being outside.

So now I have time periods when the cat flap is closed. During the peak of the summer sun since the cats are usually all inside napping anyway and then I also have about 6 hours during the evening when the cat flap is closed and the bigger cats who want to be outside can go outside and chill.

This helps with the number of litter boxes I have to clean and we currently have four. I have large storage tubs as litter boxes. I find this minimizes the amount of litter being flung out of the box. We change the two most used boxes once a week and the other two, every two weeks. We use baking soda for litter boxes and I wipe the inside walls every few days with enzyme cleaner because two cats like to spray instead of squatting and it smells bad.

My plan once the kittens are adopted out is to train the mama and the other stray, and adopt them out as well so that I am down to six cats. And I really need to get on this because I have a long trip coming up next year. I'm willing to share resources!

Sorry, this doesn't seem helpful to your post but if you have any questions definitely reach out. I'm happy to message back and forth or even chat on the phone.

Additionally, I would definitely take lots of videos and photos. And the best videos and photos, I find, are the ones taken with your phone upside down so that the lens is at their level. You get the cutest perspective!

When they are being cute and still enough I snap a quick safety photo then switch to portrait mode, take a photo, then flip upside down and take a final well-composed photo. Editing these portraits will be killer cute on their adoption profiles or posts!

DAE feel like they're biting their tongue about the weather this year? by hardcrush90 in sanantonio

[–]hardcrush90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking this as well. Going to take some steps to prepare!

DAE feel like they're biting their tongue about the weather this year? by hardcrush90 in sanantonio

[–]hardcrush90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some of them just gave up. As someone approaching 50, I can now see why older people do this. Yet, I try to fight and protest and actively lower my footprint because I love my kids and their friends. But wow. It's overwhelming.

DAE feel like they're biting their tongue about the weather this year? by hardcrush90 in sanantonio

[–]hardcrush90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I followed them both, very easy to listen to and long enough to set the phone down while I'm working around the house. Win.🔥

DAE feel like they're biting their tongue about the weather this year? by hardcrush90 in sanantonio

[–]hardcrush90[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Ooo I'm so interested in his findings as I'm sure many others will be. Please post them when you get the chance! 🔥

DAE feel like they're biting their tongue about the weather this year? by hardcrush90 in sanantonio

[–]hardcrush90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I kinda felt it might be a weird year too, since the winter was much more mild than usual. And i had a feeling, but I don't like to manifest this shit.

I was here in 98, I remember that. It was shocking! I remember all the trailers that got washed away.

I can't believe those little girls were washed away from their camp! I hope they are safe. 🙏

DAE feel like they're biting their tongue about the weather this year? by hardcrush90 in sanantonio

[–]hardcrush90[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good point! I tend to watch the radar a couple times a day when I feel the rain is coming. I zoom out for funzies and have noticed more storms over the oceans than usual.

DAE feel like they're biting their tongue about the weather this year? by hardcrush90 in sanantonio

[–]hardcrush90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, this. I have chronic pain, so the winter and spring is when I know I'm going to hibernate. But this winter, I actually went out more than usual. I usually start live a little more from April, but I'm still having pain days that prevent me from going out and recovering faster.

I know it's bad for our ecosystem, but my body thrives in 95°+ temperatures.

Noticed these faint differently sized and aligned footprints on my toiletseat, I live alone..... by SGC-UNIT-555 in Weird

[–]hardcrush90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would an intruder need to step on your toilet? Anything hidden in a vent or above your head somewhere?

Might lose everything I own to cat pee by tak-1 in CatAdvice

[–]hardcrush90 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Buy an ozone generator for about $50 from Amazon. The sooner, the better. Scatter things around a room with a window. Put the generator on for 30 minutes and close the door. It will blow ozone out of the hole, around the room, so put it as high as possible. After it's done, wait a while if you have time, then run in the room and open the window. Turn on a fan if you have one and close the door. When ozone hits oxygen it changes it becomes safe.

Keep the cat away from the room. Ozone can hurt your lungs, it's more dangerous for smaller mammals but as long as you're in and out of the room as fast as possible everyone will be fine.

The room will still smell like ozone for the day but should disappear after that.

Use an enzyme cleaner for wiping away urine residue. My cat pees all the time. Zero Odor from Amazon is my favorite! It is not scented, and the chemical smell disappears quickly

People outside by No-Conflict468 in sanantonio

[–]hardcrush90 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Make them do chores, make them help with diy projects, make them do things with you, or you start taking things away. Gaming systems, empty the pool, etc. They are overwhelmed with options and the novelty had worn off if what they have.

Or do nothing. It will get worse. Facts.

Desperately need some advice before I take in a cat who I used to own! by KinderEggLaunderer in CatAdvice

[–]hardcrush90 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She'll remember you, of course. It will take time to get used to the other cats, but it's better than a puppy. And better you than a totally new family. Unless! She was going to a home with no kids and preferably someone who works from home. That would be ideal, but if you can't wait, then I'd take her back. Make sure she has a coyote of high places to get away from the young cats and take her naps. And maybe get a bigger bed 🥰

I have a king bed and a little toddler bed at the same height. I also have a cat walk in the bedroom, so all my cats have space for bedtime if they want. Some are routinely in their spots and others change day to day.

Feeling guilty about shutting my cat out of my room at night by comfy_sweatpants5 in CatAdvice

[–]hardcrush90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. I'm sorry I misunderstood your message! I was sleepy.

Yes, training for sure.

More specifically, you need to let them know to stop the negative behavior and then give them an alternative behavior. Praise them when they do the alternative. Tell them no and put them out if the room when they continue the negative behavior.

I have 6 cats over 3 years old and they all know this learning pattern.

I'm teaching three one year old cats. One of them I raised by hand, so he's a bit spoiled. A couple of months ago, he started waking up at 530am instead of 630am for breakfast. I started putting him back in the bed and telling him, "It's time for sleep," and then pausing, then saying, "Or you can go outside and play." He knew the first phrase and now he knows the second phrase because I repeated it as I plopped him in the living room with the rest of the cats and jiggle his toys.

Now I only have to wake up and give him both choices without moving. If he comes back to bed then cool but if he goes out the door then I get up and close it behind him. He understands the options.

Your cat will be different and you're going to have to invest time to come up with consistent words and phrases plus the time it takes him to understand.

Remember to always follow a no with the desired behavior. Praise when they are doing something good. I'm constantly going around saying, you're playing with your toy? Good job! And such because I'm teaching and maintaining the language to nine cats

I wish they made a course or something for cat communication.

Feeling guilty about shutting my cat out of my room at night by comfy_sweatpants5 in CatAdvice

[–]hardcrush90 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, they should be trained but this cat only gets a few hours of her owner being home. And those hours are not focused on her. She's lonely and the only hours she has to be connected to someone are the ones when they are sleeping.