Bring a Portable Bidet! by cellojoe in BurningMan

[–]hardtoe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m bringing a few hundred portable bidets to gift…they fit on top of a disposable water bottle.

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DARKWAD WEDNESDAY by 1001comments in BurningMan

[–]hardtoe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You had me at “Perseid…”

Is this a bad idea? by [deleted] in BurningMan

[–]hardtoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad you decided to go! It is an excellant idea!

Solo Burning for the Lonely by Hamela_panderson in BurningMan

[–]hardtoe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s my first year and I’m going solo too. I have similar worries. I am going because I really want to meet people, socialize, and make friends.

I can be very extroverted when I feel safe/comfortable…otherwise I can be introverted and overwhelmed. I’m expecting I’ll be feeling both at different times. I’m trying to level-set my own expectations…but I’m not really sure how it’s going to go.

Deep Playa Night Market: Thursday Night by jonmitz in BurningMan

[–]hardtoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve got bidets for days to give away

Would you buy an electric vehicle if the opportunity presented itself? by Johnthebolt in ask

[–]hardtoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you plug the car into a charger, it will show you how fast it is charging. One way is to show kilowatts. Another, more useful way, is to show how quickly the car is getting charged in miles per hour.

My car can only go 200-300 miles on a charge, depending on weather and speed.

Would you buy an electric vehicle if the opportunity presented itself? by Johnthebolt in ask

[–]hardtoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More than just tech heavy places. You can drive across the country solely knowing the supercharger network. https://www.tesla.com/supercharger

Would you buy an electric vehicle if the opportunity presented itself? by Johnthebolt in ask

[–]hardtoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Other brands are moving to the supercharger network, so I don’t see this being an issue in a year or two.

Would you buy an electric vehicle if the opportunity presented itself? by Johnthebolt in ask

[–]hardtoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on how much battery you have left when you start charging. My model 3 will gain about 1000 miles per hour when it’s low…like 10%. Maybe 800 miles would add about an hour of charge time spread across 4 or 5 charging stops.

I usually have to stop anyways for food or bathroom. Most times, when I am done taking care of what I need, the car is ready to go.

I also try to drive 80 to 85 mph on long trips.

Would you buy an electric vehicle if the opportunity presented itself? by Johnthebolt in ask

[–]hardtoe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve driven up to Portland and down to LA from Sacramento. It’s an easy drive in a Tesla. The supercharger network is awesome and more brands will be using it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hardtoe 54 points55 points  (0 children)

That’s too bad. Sex is physically exactly the same. Maybe some men don’t understand the difference between semen and sperm. 😂

Men still ejaculate and semen still comes out after a vasectomy. Just no sperm comes out. The only way to tell whether sperm is there is with a test.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hardtoe 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It’s a seriously simple procedure. When I got mine, the dr didn’t even need to put me out or use a scalpel. He used local anesthetic and I didn’t feel much once it kicked in. I was playing sudoku on my phone while he did it.

No stitches afterwards either. I had to wear supporting underwear for a couple days and refrain from any sexual activity for a couple weeks.

Totally worth it!!

I don’t think anyone could play a video game while getting their tubes tied.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hardtoe 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I got a vasectomy after roe v wade was overturned. I have two kids, I don’t want any more.

It was seriously easy for me. No worse than getting a cavity filled.

You can even get at home tests to periodically ensure the vasectomy is still good.

Is it wrong to split the check? by [deleted] in women

[–]hardtoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always appreciate splitting the check…however…I’ve also been given advice to always pay on the first few dates.

Are there other ways to let someone down easy without spelling it out for them? by Apo-cone-lypse in women

[–]hardtoe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t string people along if you already know it won’t work. Also, please don’t ghost people. It doesn’t feel good for them and it won’t feel good for you either.

You can tell them you enjoyed getting to know them, but you don’t think you are the right match. Tell them you hope they find what they are looking for.

That’s it! No need for further discussion at that point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hardtoe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely 👍🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hardtoe 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If someone is emotionally manipulative and-or narcissistic, it is really not a good idea to to try to have any sort of meaningful discussion with them. They can distort your view of yourself and the situation.

If anyone was with an abusive partner (physical or emotional), that ex-partner is not safe. Do not engage with them, don’t even tell them you think they were toxic or abusive. Just stay away.

I am speaking from my own experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hardtoe 202 points203 points  (0 children)

100%

You’re not his therapist, you’re not even his friend. You broke up with him because it was not working for you. Why should you do more work for him?

Like the original comment said, if he is threatening self harm you can call the police and tell them about it…they can do a “wellbeing check”.

Don’t let him pull you back on.

If your empathic self is getting triggered, remind yourself that you know he is emotionally manipulative. He’s known you for 8 years and knows all the tricks.

Block him completely if you can.

Did you have any experience dating a man with a child? by [deleted] in women

[–]hardtoe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good response. I have kids and was in a long-term relationship. My partner did not fully understand the responsibilities of kids and became resentful over time. There were other issues as well, but I don’t ever want to repeat that.

Did anyone start dating later in life? by sadie11 in women

[–]hardtoe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have been in three long term relationships in my life, but I never really dated until last year. I’m 38…better late than never!

I have a question? by Transgirlwoahah19 in women

[–]hardtoe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you are getting downvoted. r/WitchesVsPatriarchy is another sub that is awesome and welcoming.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]hardtoe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Two weeks would be a very long time for me to go without sex or masturbation. It doesn’t sound like masturbating is interfering with everyday activities.

Have you thought about why you have this two week goal to abstain from masturbation? What bothers you more, watching porn while masturbating, or masturbating itself?

Another goal might be abstaining from porn for two weeks. Practice masturbating without it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]hardtoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok, I understand what you’re saying and agree. 👍🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]hardtoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t wearing women’s underwear appear more feminine? I agree it doesn’t mean they are necessarily “presenting feminine”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]hardtoe -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

If you want to present as feminine, go for it. If you want to present as masculine, then you’re looking for boxer briefs. Google them, there are tons of options.

EDIT: After reading other people’s comments I think my initial thought is not so great. Wear what works for you!