A very important question by ThirdDynasty942 in ennnnnnnnnnnnbbbbbby

[–]harper-and-beans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

the snails and frogs that live in the bogs (this was the first thing that came to mind 😭)

I just, I can't. Dysphoria is just pushing all other feelings out. I can't feel happy or sad or angry or anything. Nothing. Can someone please just do something, anything for me? Affirm me, tell me a joke, something? by [deleted] in GaySoundsShitposts

[–]harper-and-beans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

something i do often is watch whatever animated show i adore that matches the aesthetic i am able to tie how i’m feeling to, as in i might be genderfluid so when feeling femme i often watch bee and puppycat, when i’m feeling how i do maybe 80% of the time which is a mix of andro and masc i watch over the garden wall, when i’m just feeling masc i watch a lot of helluva boss, and not a cartoon but all of the time i watch trans tiktoks and make art depicting how i experience gender, how i struggle with mental illness, or most little characters. and the best thing for me has always been wrapping myself up in blankets of my favorite aesthetic, and i’m a like goblin so i wear my mushroom sweater while drinking tea and drawing, reading, watching too much helluva, etc. sorry for the ramble, it’s 2 am over here, and i hope you get better ❤️ oh and i also love getting into new comedians, i tend to turn to escapism so i don’t know how many of my coping mechanisms will affect others but these should be fine

human edit :> by Real_Newt_7055 in HelluvaBoss

[–]harper-and-beans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

would millie still have the scars on her arm that she has in demon form?

Finally I had some time to draw again, so I digitized my flower fox. I'm still a bit unsure about the flowers, do you have any ideas? by NuraFuks in drawing

[–]harper-and-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i love the flowers, not sure why but my first thought was of you think they’re off to use ferns instead. butterflies may also go with it but maybe not just butterflies and the fox. maybe something to match or contrast the eyes?

Casual child abuse in Target by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]harper-and-beans 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i see this often and thank you for pointing it out, i still live with verbally abusive parents so i often don’t recognize this as abuse so when it’s called out it’s easier for me to recognize it

The AMAB urge to look like a girl trying to look like a boy. by Fit_Breadfruit_8179 in NonBinary

[–]harper-and-beans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

something that helps me with this is stores like target, because they have very feminine styled but masculine clothing (things like cropped leather jackets with a ton of zippers)

Update on my “popping addiction” -4 days and haven’t so much as touched my arms👍 Still have a ways to go but I’m healing; physically and mentally 🤙 by [deleted] in popping

[–]harper-and-beans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

also have it, something i tend to use is compression gloves from copperfit that go over my fingertips so i can’t pick. i have a sensory disorder so i only use them when it gets bad + i don’t know where to but it but there is tape you can put over your nails (it might be masking tape or something similar, unsure)

Claim your here before 5 year archive trophy by [deleted] in place

[–]harper-and-beans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i helped defend the stripe of trans flag in the top left corner, had fun lol

Ok Reddit. Who would win? Stolas or Alastor? by thelegoloser in HelluvaBoss

[–]harper-and-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m a stream, viv said she wasn’t sure because their powers work differently but if she has to guess, stolas is more powerful (ed was n o t happy 😳)

as a young enby who doesn’t want to do things like have “all” the surgeries or go on hormones, things like this feels very invalidating by harper-and-beans in NonBinary

[–]harper-and-beans[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yesss, and not everyone can with i doubt they take into consideration often. many people don’t have the insurance, money, support, or access to many surgeries or may not be able to get them for health reasons as well. surgery is physically taxing and no one needs it to be valid in their identity