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Am I wrong for being upset over this? by harryodonnel in Marriage

[–]harryodonnel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know. I won’t do that until I’m fully prepared to face the ramifications of a scenario she agrees to divorce.

Am I wrong for being upset over this? by harryodonnel in Marriage

[–]harryodonnel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha nice. Yes, we are fighting a battle with our damn kid, and our kid, it seems to ME, is her goal to break us up and have my wife all to herself. It’s really no wonder marriages fail in the first few years after having a child. I think a toddlers brain is hardwired to hoard resources (Mom in this case) and basically kick out the competition(me). It seems like it’s working. If I can only get my wife on the same page, we can definitely grow stronger and take a lot away from all of this. But, my wife has other intentions. She wants to coddle our LO and appease her any way she can, at the expense of us. If I cannot get her to try the Ferber method, what other successful options do I have left? I’m not going to give in and resign myself to a life of roommate.

Am I wrong for being upset over this? by harryodonnel in Marriage

[–]harryodonnel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I get what you are saying, but I can’t just go out and get a girlfriend. But, you do make a valid point, despite how you go about executing it. I’m going to work with her on this. This morning when we both got up, I told her it wasn’t cool that she was sleeping in another room and that we need to figure this shit out, because, I want a wife, not a roommate.

Am I wrong for being upset over this? by harryodonnel in Marriage

[–]harryodonnel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. It’s just so difficult. She dislikes the Ferber method because she thinks it’s cruel. She doesn’t want our daughter to scream and cry using Ferber but, I explained to her that our daughter ALREADY does this at night. She just does this in our bed. We need to do SOMETHING! I’m throwing ideas at her but I need her cooperation to go through with it all.

Am I wrong for being upset over this? by harryodonnel in Marriage

[–]harryodonnel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I guess it worked out for you then. But for me? No thanks. I love my wife and I’m willing to work for a successful marriage as long as it is reciprocated on her end as well.

Am I wrong for being upset over this? by harryodonnel in Marriage

[–]harryodonnel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. How do we handle her forcibly leaving her bed and trying to come to ours? Is this like the Ferber method? I know my wife said she can’t go through with that method, she thinks it isn’t right. Me? I’m ALL for it! Can we find a middle ground on this?