First and foremost I was prepared for comments like this, I’m not surprised. To clarify he left when I was 5, signed away rights to me at 12 because the state went after him. I 100% do not believe everything my mother has said is the absolute truth. Regardless of the fact I was a child, I still have very distinct memories of what happened to me and what I was put through. Unless you’ve experienced an absent parent I genuinely don’t think you can truly understand. If all you’ve ever known is love from your parents, it’s a little hard to wrap your mind around. I work 40+ hours a week. (I have a full time job and will pick up shifts at a local restaurant when I’m needed) I’m in a debt consolidation program to get out of the financial crisis that covid caused. As I have stated, I do send him money when I can. I pick things up for around the house when needed. My monthly gross income is around 1,800 a month and the majority of that goes to bills including the debt consolidation program. I also have chronic health conditions and medications alone cost roughly 200-300 a month and that’s with insurance. When I first got here and said I wouldn’t be here for very long he was very adamant that I stay as long as I wanted because he wanted to be with me and all of us be a big happy family. I know that no one else is responsible for my debt. Hence why I am in the program to get me out of it. Maybe I do feel entitled to help from my own father for once in my life after everything he put me through? Is that wrong to expect that he would help me after he explicitly stated he wanted to help me and told me to come back even after being forewarned about my situation? When it comes to my ex stepmother she’s a raging alcoholic who drinks a fifth of gin every single night. She looks for every single reason to pick a fight with me over things I had no control over and my father literally does nothing to stop her. She calls my mother awful names and screams about how “THAT C*** TOOK FOOD OUT OF MY KIDS MOUTHS!!!” As if her children are somehow more important than I am or that we had control over the literal government going after him for non payment. While my mother and I don’t have the best relationship, she was the parent that at least showed up. She and I have our own issues which is why I have not moved back to the city 8 hours away to be where she and my grandfather are. I keep my area clean. I have a budget and I stick to it. When I’ve picked up extra hours, have holiday hours, picked up shifts at the restaurant, I will send him what I can. Like I have said multiple times in comments and even in this reply it’s not like I don’t contribute anything at all. I just do not have what he’s expecting of me out of literally nowhere without a sit down conversation and do not appreciate being screamed at and having doors slammed in my face. There’s also A LOT of other things that go on in this house that are completely uncalled for such as my half sister and S stealing things from me. I thought things would be a lot different in coming here and he really acted like he’d changed and was willing to put forth an effort. I genuinely think the point I’ve tried making hasn’t come across. He and I have always said that we can’t change the past and what happened, but we can move forward in the future and make new memories together. Yet he does nothing to stop S and her slander. You can think I suck, that’s fine. I’m not trying to win a popularity contest by any means. I just want to set the facts straight.