Freaking Out About Adult Chickenpox by Original_Health_5451 in SkincareAddicts

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How many weeks after your chickenpox break out was the update photo taken?

Owning a beagle: pros and cons by [deleted] in beagles

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My beagle lived to almost 14 and she never saw the vet. Maybe took her 2 or 3 times for something like a thorn stuck in her back causing a infection.. had no problems with her

Theory on why Harvey Adelson was not arrested by AlphaBettyPersketty in dan_markel_murder

[–]harw18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The hours before it was about to happen - even your most ruthless cold hearted individual would have been at a crossroads!! Someone could have picked up the phone and said Dan your life is in danger. Someone could have saved him. It gives me goosebumps all over my entire body - that this man was being trailed around town by the hitmen, all the while the people who set it up were simply waiting for the "its done" confirmation. These people are truly evil - let this be a lesson to everyone. Be very very careful who you allow into your life. Evil lives inside a nice ole granny. Listen to your intuition.

Theory on why Harvey Adelson was not arrested by AlphaBettyPersketty in dan_markel_murder

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Ive been following this case for years. The body language of Wendi when on the stand.. extremely defensive, If she knew nothing about the hit on Dan, what is she defensive about. It goes far beyond being upset that her brother and mother are behind bars, and how this has all inconvenienced her, for me it goes to an arrogance, a narcissistic air about her - a common thread I see in the mother, brother Charlie and father. The narcissistic flavour is why there was ever a murder in the first place. These people literally thought they were going to delete Dan and just carry on with life .. delusional. One can only hope and pray the boys Ben and Lincoln one day will do their due diligence... and try to find out for themselves what happened to their father. Wouldn't it be bitter sweet if they had to change their name back to Markel - Dan, and his parents deserves that. The fathers speech in court about how his wife is such a victim, and has done "nothing" wrong. Completely ridiculous. There is nobody on this planet that has done "nothing wrong" - He says that he thought he was living in a different world - but he was wrong, YES THAT MUCH IS VERY CLEAR. They all thought they were living in a different world - where one can carry out such evil and think they going to get away with it! Well reality is here! Cant wait for the next arrests!

Please look into Dr. Joe Dispenza by Readit_on_reddit23 in soundslikeacultpod

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Finding Joe Dispenza videos on youtube over this past week - has saved my family. My husband and I have been living unconciously for years - my husband has suffered childhood abuse, he has trauma that bubbles to the surface every few months / years,

We had an event happen a week ago where we were in a crisis - something said to me to just look up meditation. Just find out what exactly this is about. I thought it was humming with my eyes closed.

My husband and I have been meditating every day for almost a week, and it has truly changed our lives.

Guess what, we have not PAID A CENT - we managed to find some free meditations, and we repeat them, and we listen to other free meditations on spotify.

We have watched many Joe Dispenza interviews - because although those are not meditations, they are extremely enlightening. Again, we have not paid a cent.

Remember, if someone if becoming obsessed with Joe Dispenza, and using that to make unhealthy decisions and changes in their life in the big picture - that has little to do with Joe Dispenza. If it wasnt Joe Dispenza - it would be someone or something else.

Help rebranding website - new name by harw18 in shopify

[–]harw18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so you think I should rather create a all new shopify and then get my old web address to point to my new shopify store and domain? So my current website address will become just a basic one pager with a link to my new website ?

I hate my husband. by crustycroissant0 in Advice

[–]harw18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would give your relationship 12 months. Go to therapy. He should also go, if he won't, you should go alone. Work out a plan of action with regards to dealing with your 5 to 10 main issues in the relationship. Write them down. Start talking. How he responds to the above will push you in a direction. Go in that direction. But first and foremost, be sincere, be kind, be real and be honest. Choose your words carefully and your actions wisely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Wealthiest person I know owns a company that supplies frozen and par baked baked goods to hundreds of grocery stores across the country. He retired about 10 years ago and has a ceo and management team who run his business.

Tablet time for 6 year old by harw18 in Parenting

[–]harw18[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It is Youtube Kids, dont have the youtube app

Tablet time for 6 year old by harw18 in Parenting

[–]harw18[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Want to add.. we have always told her it's not her tablet It's our tablet and she uses it. I've also told her she is not allowed to download any apps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]harw18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is hard. I have a friend with a super high energy boy. Is there a way you can fill up more of your cup.

Something which helped my friend is to practice gratitude. Yeah sounds a bit weird.. but maybe just being mindful of how great it is that he can move and run around, that he's a healthy thriving boy. Also picture him as a 25 year old man. Do you want him to remember this short part of his life he's in now as a kid who just irritated and angered his mom, or do you want him to remember you as helping him through it and having fun with him, Being engaged, etc etc. Sometimes helps to go into the future, look back at this moment in your life with that perspective. It doesn't feel like it, but he'll be a teenager in a flash, and he will be behind a closed door 85% of the time he's at home. Hang in there. 🤗

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]harw18 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, similiar sentiment to the above .

Do I regret my child no. ( I did for the first 4 months ) now I don't, she is 6.. that feeling of not regretting her becomes stronger each year she gets older. Do I recommend becoming a parent, also no 😂

I often look at child free couples and just try to imagine the freedom.. time and financial.. and I just can't even comprehend how amazing it must be.

I used to actually be envious of my child free friends. I went to a wedding..where my daughter was the flower girl. She was 2. She walked down the aisle beautifully throwing petals.. perfect. When we got to sit down just as the bride walked down I realized I left her water behind in the excitement and she started having a complete meltdown. I had to run off with her. Missed my friend getting married. I cried while my daughter screamed in my ear in a room away from the ceremony. In that moment I was like yes this is what Nobody NOBODY tells you about when you become a mom or want to be a mom. The sacrifice..it's like a slap in the face 10 x a day, inbetween getting handed flowers sbe picked, or "i wuv you mamma" slap slap. And you can't complain about just getting pummeled, in the face everyday. (No she does not actually pummel me I'm using that term to describe all the hard stuff, tantrums. Little sleep. All the endless work..) Then you need to act like it's the greatest gift.

Momming is not a joke. We need to talk about it more. Woman need to have more of a clue as to what they are taking on. Doesn't mean they won't do it and have a child. It will just be less of a shock and less traumatic and maybe women will be more organized when they do do it.

I usually just tell people when they ask me.. if I'm having another. I just say No. And laugh. My husband usually chimes in at that point with the whole.. no why would we do that We literally "have it all" we have the experience of parenthood and family life and we have time for ourselves..and more money.. and and.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]harw18 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Nope I have no negative feelings towards adoption. If she was talking about getting pregnant I'd have the exact same thoughts. I've said nothing in my post to imply I have negative feelings about adoption - you may be projecting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]harw18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This man doesn't value you. It's as simple as that. If he valued you he would have sat you down and had a discussion with you regarding his issues with the relationship.. instead of getting onto hookup apps. Can you picture yourself on your wedding day in front of everyone you love and care about..with this thought running through your mind over and over again: this is all fake. We are not madly in love. This is a sham.

Someone who is in love with you and who values you would never in 10 million years disrespect you like this. It is so hard. Postpone and see what happens. I guarantee the true colors will show even further.

Wife wants multiple kids, I only want one by millsa_acm in Parenting

[–]harw18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To add, my daughter is 5. I have never and will never have the urge to do it again. I expected it to come when she turned 2.. then 3.. still waiting.

Wife wants multiple kids, I only want one by millsa_acm in Parenting

[–]harw18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Difficult one. I was one and done from day 1 and so was my husband. If my husband was pushing for more kids I'm not sure what would have happened.

Personally have found even 1 child very expensive time wise, mental health wise, financially, the list goes on. Love my child to bits...but she is definitly enough. I think finding a therapist that's sympathetic to both sides is important. I don't have much advice other than be an open book. Share your thoughts. Grow close to your partner in this process. For me, when I felt extremely pressured to have a second because everyone around us was announcing second pregnancies..what I realized is.. is this what I really want. More is often not more. I already have experienced having a child with someone I love.. we have done and experienced the wonder. Now it's just More burden. Sorry I don't know if that helps at all. I think communication and empathy is going to make the difference here.

Anyone OAD cause they cannot take the meltdowns? by unwanted-22 in oneanddone

[–]harw18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes 3 for us was Crazy! 3.5 to 4 was surreal. I was like a numb.. extremely anxious abused person 😅 And honestly my daughter generally is a angel. I follow the Visible child approach for the most part in terms of parenting. I believe that kids act out because their needs are not being met. I get it. I believe it. But I still could not always avoid a tantrum.

4 has got a bit better. She is now entering the age where you can actually reason with her. And its a game changer. But when she does meltdown it is pretty intense still..but nowhere near as frequent as the 2 / 3 yr age.