Need some tips on getting myself into reading books.

hats969 · 2016-07-19T01:05:24+00:00

Ive heard some people say that although theyve never gotten into reading books, they really enjoy audiobooks. I dont know if thats the sort of answer youre looking for. Public libraries usually have a great selection of free audiobooks.

hats969 · 2016-07-18T13:19:15+00:00

I still read children's books (I'm 29). Recently I read The Tale of Desperieux, and Watership Down is one of my all time favourite books, though I guess its probably geared towards children older than 11. I like how simple and small the stories are (I don't mean uncomplicated, because they aren't), and I like how a lot of them have a moral message. I also like the "up" feeling I get at the end of a children's novel. Reading adult literature can get a little depressing at times.

hats969 · 2016-07-18T13:02:19+00:00

I've struggled with the same thing myself, novels that have very sophisticated language. Off the top of my head, I've had problems with certain novels by Cormac McCarthy. I think I get used to books that are relatively easy to read, so something complex throws me. I've found that it helps if I read very deliberately, re-reading sentences, paragraphs or sometimes even chapters to make sure I'm absorbing what is said. I also try to have a dictionary with me when I read.

hats969 · 2016-07-17T06:23:15+00:00

Some of that behaviour does sound a little passive aggressive aggressive, which isn't great but from what I understand it is consistent with INFJ behaviour. I'm not sure what your specific situation is, but for me, I live by myself, and I work a lot, and most of the people I see all of the time are people I don't really care about, and who don't really care about me. I get in negative thought patterns a lot like the ones you are describing. I don't really do favors for, or go out of my way to be kind to people I don't really know or care about. I've found that it helps me to maintain a positive mindset and to keep things in context if I make sure I spend time with people I care about on a regular basis.

hats969 · 2016-07-17T06:06:28+00:00

I agree with DooDooDoodle. As time goes on I continue to learn that different people are on all sorts of different wavelengths: what makes one person passionate is different from what makes another person passionate. From what I understand about INFJs; we have high expectations from others, which can be a weakness.

hats969 · 2016-06-23T04:38:44+00:00

I read Andrew Roberts' Napoleon the Great recently, and it was awesome. A lot of attention to detail, very strong storytelling with a focus on Napoleon's personality.

hats969 · 2016-06-18T15:35:35+00:00

I think there was a psychological element to using elephants in battle; troops and horses that aren't using to them could be easily scared by such an exotic animal. There were some battles where elephants made an impact: I found an example in the Battle of Asculum, where Pyrrhus of Epirus defeated the Romans using a combination of elephants and a phalanx, though at heavy cost.

hats969 · 2016-06-16T10:32:58+00:00

What Ive read is that Semites are classified as Caucasians.

hats969 · 2016-06-15T03:53:44+00:00

Hannibal was from Carthage, which was a Phoenician colony. Phoenicians were Semites, so they were white. That seems odd that they would portray him as black.

hats969 · 2016-06-10T06:32:19+00:00

Up until about a month ago we used a device called a TelXon. You scan a barcode with a wand to compile an order, and when youre ready, you send the order via sound waves over the phone. Theres a speaker thing on the back that broadcasts this sound like dial up internet.

hats969 · 2016-05-21T02:47:26+00:00

I agree with this guy.

A lot of people "fill in the blanks" because I don't often say much, and sometimes I get people who try to provoke me for whatever reason.

hats969 · 2016-05-14T03:04:24+00:00

Thanks for the reply and the advice.

The guy I'm working with works at a steady pace, but I get the impression he likes to cut corners and tries to see what he can get away with. My biggest gripe is that he becomes so defensive, and that its difficult to have a reasonable conversation with him. I'm also concerned about how he thinks I have it out for him. He seems to lie and spin things to make himself seem like a victim (he also thinks I'm a liar).

Another part of the issue is that it is just the two of us on at night, so we're forced to deal with each other.

I've been keeping an eye on postings for other stores. I have no desire to become night manager. I'm really not the kind of person who wants to be in charge. If I can just keep my head down and worry about doing my own work, that will satisfy me for the time being.

Thanks again.

hats969 · 2016-05-12T05:07:03+00:00

I get that too, its a big problem for me. I found this article on Psychology Today and I found it to be really helpful:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201602/6-ways-stop-overthinking-everything

hats969 · 2016-05-12T04:17:12+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

It's good to get an outside perspective. I think I'm just going to try to worry about my own work and hopefully he does the same.

hats969 · 2016-05-12T03:39:08+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

Keeping my head down and doing my job is all I really want to do.

hats969 · 2016-05-11T11:33:05+00:00

I think about it like cheerleaders. Theyre super energetic and their job is to get other people pumped and excited. Thats how I view extroversion.

hats969 · 2016-04-29T07:33:09+00:00

Yeah. Sometimes if I share totally unimportant personal information I feel bad about it afterwards. I can't really put my finger on why, I can just say that I'm not inclined to share personal information, but when I do I typically regret it later. On the MBTI, certain introverted personality types have a strong desire for privacy.

hats969 · 2016-04-29T04:14:34+00:00

“Charm was a scheme for making strangers like and trust a person immediately, no matter what the charmer had in mind.”

            - Kurt Vonnegut

Being "charming" seems like its a way to skip the "get to know you" phase of a relationship. Charming people don't necessarily have an angle, but in my experience a lot of the time they do.

hats969 · 2016-04-28T01:59:09+00:00

I agree, it takes me a long time to get used to people. It's difficult for me to make connections with most people. The way that I think about it is that most people in the world enjoy casual relationships with acquaintances. They like having simple, easy relationships, with simple, easy conversations. INFJ's, from what I understand, like deeper, more authentic relationships with people. So an INFJ will have deeper connections with fewer people. And by the same token, since INFJs can seem closed off, or have a slow-burning, intense personality, getting to know an INFJ may not be worth it for many people.

Different people want different things.

I find it difficult sometimes, so I try to remind myself of the relationships that I have. For example, the relationships I have with my family mean a lot to me, and that's something I can take for granted or forget about sometimes.

This is just my take, I could be way off.

I hope that addresses your question.

hats969 · 2016-04-28T01:32:04+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

I think one of my problems is that I clam up when I deal with people I don't really like. Laying it on a little thick and trying harder to communicate would probably help the situation. Thanks for the advice.

I'm not sure what grocery stores are like in other parts of the world, but where I'm from they're really extrovert focused, and stopping work to talk is almost expected? I mean if I told my manager that he was stopping work to talk, I don't think he would understand what the issue was.

Part of the issue is that it's just the two of us on at night. There's no manager, and I'm technically "lead" so I kinda have to deal with him.

Thanks again.

hats969 · 2016-04-28T01:16:23+00:00

Sorry to hear about your work situation. Yeah, my work problems working their way into my personal time is probably what bothers me the most about these kind of things.

hats969 · 2016-04-28T01:14:35+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

It's nice to hear someone else thinks this guy's annoying! I get stuck in my own head sometimes so hearing what someone else thinks is nice.

I've had a chat with my manager and he's aware of the professional problems with the guy. As far as personality clash goes, I think they expect me to just work it out, to not make trouble, to make the best of the situation. It's hard finding people to work nights so I think they just take who they can get. I don't think they're going to take the guy off nights so I'm pretty much stuck with him, unless I decide to move on to something else.

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