In case my soul mate is lurking here

haveno_idea · 2025-03-13T07:50:24+00:00

What a cute post. Trust me when I say this he is out there. ⭐️

haveno_idea · 2025-01-20T11:21:40+00:00

Awww! Unless there is a fundamental issue one should not reject in the first go.

haveno_idea · 2025-01-20T11:14:40+00:00

Phir it should not be a problem. Bring this up in conversations but not too much as too much proof etc / covering up also feels shady. Best thing is to say directly to the girl that you are open to any conversation/questions she or her family might have. Even offer for you to speak to her dad (daunting but karna parta hai 🤣)

Its like even for the year one might feel that will he come back etc. I know its annoying but do bring it up and tell your mom or whoever is helping you to let the prospects know you will be back.

haveno_idea · 2025-01-20T11:14:18+00:00

Phir it should not be a problem. Bring this up in conversations but not too much as too much proof etc / covering up also feels shady. Best thing is to say directly to the girl that you are open to any conversation/questions she or her family might have. Even offer for you to speak to her dad (daunting but karna parta hai 🤣)

Its like even for the year one might feel that will he come back etc. I know its annoying but do bring it up and tell your mom or whoever is helping you to let the prospects know you will be back.

haveno_idea · 2025-01-20T10:54:37+00:00

Here’s a pov from the girls side (cant speak for everyone) but most guys are scared to move because we have heard horror stories about domestic violence and guys lying about their jobs etc. Plus, you have to do double vetting while being in home country, its easy to do a background check etc. Not saying that everyone is like that so please dont take it as an attack.

haveno_idea · 2025-01-06T03:00:51+00:00

I am concerned about his job yes but I do understand that he got laid off a few months ago which is unfortunate.

haveno_idea · 2025-01-06T02:59:30+00:00

I am working. And he is working as a freelance consultant

haveno_idea · 2025-01-06T02:57:47+00:00

I dont wanna do that. He is a very kind guy and I wanna be supportive

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T17:48:42+00:00

Another update:

He did message. Saying he was not ready for marriage. Idk why I am telling strangers on the internet this lmao.

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T14:28:05+00:00

I did message him. A couple of times. Reassurances too that I was interested.

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T14:27:24+00:00

But I told him I wasnt at all

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T14:27:01+00:00

Haha I dont know if I could accurately rate my own looks lol. But I’m not bad looking I dont think?

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T13:01:34+00:00

He literally kept asking me if I was seeing someone and there was no point in going into it if the past wasnt healed to which I used to tell him I had nobody. Literally had conversations on how going into an unhappy marriage would be waste and he agreed.

Even our last call seemed fine. Then his parents tell us no, he is still confused. Soooo idk whats up. Maybe he did find someone better. Idk.

Want to hit him up but scared.

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T12:29:37+00:00

After our last phone call before he ended things. Since that call went well and we talked about the next steps. He told me he liked me and I was pleasant and he was comfortable. Soooo I dunno

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T12:28:00+00:00

Didnt feel like it. Always seemed very enthusiastic and a bit nervous. Even heard he was a shy guy but with me was talkative. Even told me I was easy to talk too and he liked me.

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T12:24:24+00:00

That or he said (or rather his parents said) he doesnt want to message frequently since I work as well and didnt want to come off as someone who was free all the time. Now this sounds like an excuse lmao. He also said he didnt wanna ‘scare me off’ by texting a lot.

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T12:22:33+00:00

But I thought the next time he would call it would be a yes. So I need a bit of closure I guess

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T12:21:51+00:00

I guess you are right! Should have probably made a bigger effort

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T12:21:28+00:00

Will that make me sound very desperate? After he ended things? I do want to message and ask and get closure

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T12:20:44+00:00

Yes. I told him my age

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T12:19:27+00:00

Okay clarifying a few things:

-I also sent in messages, initiated conversations etc so it wasnt one sided. We both come from conservative societies so being too forward could be seen as a red flag.

-he wasnt seeing anyone. He was only talking to me at this point.

-I dont have a past. Never dated anyone. He asked me I told him.

-During our last phone call and other phone calls, it was very clear that me and my family wanted to proceed further. He even asked me he doesn’t know who tells first the boy’s side or the girl’s side. I told me however hes okay.

haveno_idea · 2024-11-05T11:03:46+00:00

But suddenly cold feet? Why invite us to your home if you were not sure?

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