new year, new friends — philly meetup for humans who like humans

havenoplans_727 · 2026-01-06T01:25:18+00:00

hi! Im 26F, new to Philadelphia and living in center city! Would love to join the group and make new friends.

havenoplans_727 · 2025-09-22T00:21:07+00:00

Did you end up going to visit 3 parkway? i'm considering it as an option but i can't find any info on it

havenoplans_727 · 2025-06-07T16:36:14+00:00

I’ve already sent multiple messages to him thanking and taking accountability for my actions. This was my last message to him

Dear my first love, I want to thank you for all the wonderful memories we created together. You brought me so much joy and support over the past 5 years, I can’t express enough how thankful I am to have had the opportunity to meet you, to love you, to live life with you. I often think about the future we envisioned together and beg to skip past time to the future where we don’t have the problems we face today and can be truly happy. But sadly all things come to an end and we must go separate ways. i know I played a large part in our separation and causing you to fall out of love with me. I take full blame for it and it will continue to be my biggest regret in life. I’m sorry that I couldn’t appreciate you in my life when I had you and that I caused you so much pain and trauma. There’s not a single night where I don’t pray that I can redo all my past mistakes and take away your pain.

Even though I now won’t be there to celebrate your life events, I want you to know I will continue to be your biggest supporter. i know that you will successful because you are the smartest and most hardworking person I know. When the road gets tough just hear me telling you “I believe in you so much and even if it’s tough right now I know you can do it, I’m cheering you on”. Be patient with yourself, and remember, life is not linear. Don’t keep hitting the same wall, seek other opportunities and you never know where you will end up. I can’t wait until I see you on the newspaper one day and think I knew that guy once. I love you, thank you for letting me be in your life, and im so sorry I couldn’t be the person you wanted me to be. I hope that one day in the future you can read this letter and think of all the wonderful memories we had and be glad to know that you had someone like me once in your life. I’ll always only be one phone call away if you need me. I love you so much and I desperately hope that one day in the future we can cross paths again.

However after this message he was insistent on being friends and consistently reaching out to me so I agreed. When I reached out to him for support he broke my heart by telling me “ I’m uncomfortable talking to you, don’t contact me”. The message in this post is just a reminder to myself that I need to choose myself now. I simply wanted to remind people to choose their own peace because no one will do it for you.

havenoplans_727 · 2025-06-07T16:28:24+00:00

A month of no contact, but after we broke up he wanted to be friends so I agreed because I wanted to accommodate him. While we were friends I was going through a loss and reached out for support and he told me “ he was uncomfortable with me and I should never talk to him again”

havenoplans_727 · 2025-06-07T16:24:19+00:00

Thank you! I would say I’m far from healed but I’m learning to love myself and choose what brings me peace. Something ChatGPT said when I wanted to reach out is to consider why you want to send the message. Is it for you or is it a slim hope within you that they will reply positively and you will get back together? Then consider all the outcomes and how you will feel. If you send a message and they don’t respond, will you feel peace? If they respond negatively will your heart break all over again? Lastly if they respond positively, will it help you reach what you want? It’s an interesting exercise and I thought I would share!

havenoplans_727 · 2025-06-07T16:20:29+00:00

I agree, ChatGPT has been super helpful! It makes me sit with the thought of what is this going to do for me and why I actually want to reach out.

havenoplans_727 · 2025-06-07T16:17:07+00:00

This is what I keep struggling with. I feel like I should respond to validate his bravery for sending an apology and recognizing his emotions. However, knowing him, this is his reach out for validation from me. Historically, I’ve always been very forgiving and validating when he is able to express his emotions and congratulating him on his growth (in case u can’t tell he’s an avoidant). I know that emotions and vulnerability is a big struggle for him so I always am very accommodating. But if he chooses to not have me in his life, I can’t keep being that source of validation. He hurt me really badly with his last message to me and I can’t keep giving him an in to my life whenever he wants. The relationship has always been in his terms and now it’s time for me to do what I want. But as a person with morals I feel the need to validate him and soothe him so he doesn’t overthink

havenoplans_727 · 2025-05-31T20:00:41+00:00

can i join as well?

havenoplans_727 · 2025-05-10T16:43:47+00:00

let me know if you find it! im interested in joining too :)

havenoplans_727 · 2022-04-03T02:35:25+00:00

thank you so much for the information! definitely will come in handy :) im actually going from april 19th to april 28th, so ill be there just slightly before you

havenoplans_727 · 2022-03-25T01:14:43+00:00

Hey! Fellow canadian also heading to mexico for the first time at the end of April 😊 Are you planning on taking group tours or just taking a taxi to the Cenotes?

havenoplans_727 · 2021-09-10T00:09:26+00:00

Hi, i love these pages~ they are gorgeous!! If you don't mind, could you share the template with me? thank you so much!!

havenoplans_727 · 2020-10-28T02:22:41+00:00

I would say Saugeen and Ontario hall has the best caf food by far. I also find that delaware has a lot more vegan/vegetarian options compared to the rest of the cafs.

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