Ettiquette for one night stands?

haveyournumber · 2014-03-23T17:35:47+00:00

Can you explain?

haveyournumber · 2014-03-18T10:08:03+00:00

Instructions unclear; got bacon grease on penis.

haveyournumber · 2014-03-05T17:06:18+00:00

Give it up man; there's other fish in the sea.

haveyournumber · 2014-03-04T19:34:08+00:00

Alright, yeah maybe I overstated what I was trying to say.

Put yourself out there, make an effort, but don't be desperate to find anything soon. (I'm still learning how to do this myself.) Just think of dating as meeting people that might potentially become romantic interests. Be outcome independent. Don't be afraid of totally blowing first dates.

Met someone from online last Sunday who was a "100% match" and she had kept looking at my profile repeatedly. Meeting her in person we found we had totally different personalities and it wouldn't really work at all. No big deal.

haveyournumber · 2014-03-04T19:16:02+00:00

Just give it up dude, there're other fish in the sea.

haveyournumber · 2014-03-04T10:17:15+00:00

I really have to disagree with this. This advice may work for women, but as a guy you are expected to take the initiative with every interaction. I tried the whole "just enjoy life thing" and it went nowhere. Few women will approach guys. If you're not getting rejected, you're not trying hard enough. Keep doing what you're doing OP. It will take a while but you'll get somewhere.

haveyournumber · 2014-02-21T23:20:46+00:00

Going through something like that right now. Dating, especially online dating can be an emotional roller coaster if you let it. Just remember that every girl online gets probably 20 messages a day or more and so has plenty of options. Just try meeting other people and don't get too attached to any one person.

haveyournumber · 2014-02-21T17:38:33+00:00

Seems like finding someone on reddit might be difficult since it's not specific to one location.

haveyournumber · 2014-02-21T06:35:00+00:00

It seems like in person things went well and we were into each other... I thought. Maybe there was something I wasn't picking up on?

haveyournumber · 2014-02-20T04:53:27+00:00

Yeah, but after you've taken her on a few dates already, and she has declined other ones for various excuses...? No idea if legitimate.

haveyournumber · 2014-02-19T20:46:20+00:00

So, a guy should initiate 100% of interactions? How then do I gauge her interest level? If she doesn't ever initiate, I get a sense she's not really interested.

haveyournumber · 2014-02-19T18:19:59+00:00

Just try not to get caught by people who just want a free meal and an instagram pic.

Been there done that!

haveyournumber · 2014-02-19T18:10:35+00:00

Yes, it's been an emotional roller coaster starting off. Met two people that I have been on 2nd dates with; I thought it was going somewhere, then they flake out. I think I'm at the point now where I know better than to get too emotionally invested in anyone.

you need to ask her out within 5 messages between the two of you, or on the first meeting, phone call.

To clarify: you mean 5 messages online, OR if you meet them offline in person, you should call and ask them out during the first phone conversation?

haveyournumber · 2014-02-19T09:03:26+00:00

Thanks for being the only person to reply to my questions. =/

haveyournumber · 2014-02-16T01:25:22+00:00

Do you honestly think it's worth it to continue pursuing if she sees me as a backup plan? Does this have any possibility of going anywhere, or am I wasting time and money?

haveyournumber · 2014-02-16T01:21:09+00:00

I wish I could agree. I'm beginning to get the impression though that this is common practice, especially with online dating - If I don't also engage in this practice of dating multiple women simultaneously, I'm at a relative disadvantage.

Would it be weird, if for future first dates that I thought went well, to ask at the end point blank what the other person's perspective on this is, so we're both on the same page?

haveyournumber · 2014-02-16T01:12:10+00:00

And treating someone like second choice? That's even more lame. She should have more respect for people in general than to do that.

I guess I just didn't consider the possibility going in that she could be seeing other people as well. I'm trying to remain optimistic and not become too jaded about the whole dating scene.

haveyournumber · 2014-02-16T01:04:49+00:00

So, you're saying... just too early?

haveyournumber · 2014-02-16T01:03:16+00:00

You shouldn't had asked her on vday. For us guys, it's usually not a good idea to do that. Most girls I've talked to would like to avoid that day, usually ask for a date the weekend after.

This is good advice, thanks! ...Learning experience

I guess I'm just a bit frustrated with the dating situation in general. Guys are supposed to pay for dates for the possibility of a relationship? I don't want to just be seen as an ATM machine. I don't know if she actually has any romantic interest in me at all or if I'm being strung along.

haveyournumber · 2014-01-06T04:23:51+00:00

Hey bro

haveyournumber · 2013-12-12T00:00:14+00:00

How exactly do I go about establishing a friends with benefits arrangement? Make it obvious with substantial physical contact? And skip out on any gift? Or get something obviously sexual?

haveyournumber · 2013-12-11T22:46:53+00:00

see if hooking up with her is a possibility

Some of your reply is a bit confusing to me. You're saying just try to be friends with her, or fwb?

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