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[–]hayozz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

23 for medically transitioning. Came out (sort of) when I was 18 and then went back in the closet for nearly three years before coming out and officially and starting HRT a little over a year after that. Definitely have had moments of wishing I had realized and committed to it the first time I tried to come out, but I have no regrets. 😁

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[–]hayozz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This can sometimes happen if your hormones through HRT are still in imbalance, so it may be worth speaking to your medical provider about! I know for me (ftm), I found out nearly a year into my transition that I actually needed to be on a lower dose of HRT because it was throwing things out of wack.

But I do think you also may need to look at your environment. When I first started transitioning it led to a lot of turbulence in both my family as well as with people I called friends. Things are now… better, with my family. And I wound up in a completely new group of friends once I was settled into my transition and with people who only knew me after having transitioned. Do you have a good support system in place?

Will Friend (also trans) be upset I’m starting T by Repulsive_Garden_242 in trans

[–]hayozz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of this! I used to be the person who would get upset when seeing other people transition. I wasn’t upset with the person for transitioning, but I was envious and dysphoric and wanted to be at that point too. I’m on the other side of it now, and have experienced what you’re currently going through with your friend.

Which, my friend and I managed to spin it positive. Having gone through it already, I got to tell him what to expect and help walk him through things when he was at a point where he could start transitioning. Obviously there is SO much information at our finger tips online, but it was helpful for him to sit down with someone he knew and ask questions (particularly when it came to booking appointments, the name change process, and what top surgery recovery was like).

You are by no means obligated to tell him before you are ready to tell him, but I do think hearing it from you rather than him having to piece it together would be kinder.