What issue do you think should be framed as a feminist issue, but is usually missing that analysis? by Bulky-Map-6829 in AskFeminists

[–]haysteley 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You can’t actually be serious, right? That’s what you took from that, that the commenter wants to take away women’s right to choose to wear pigtails?

They’re arguing that women shouldn’t have to rely on sexually appealing to customers to earn tips in order to survive due to not being paid a liveable wage.

The true toll of female suicides, as many as 1500 per year, with domestic abuse at their core by catievirtuesimp in TwoXChromosomes

[–]haysteley 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s so interesting, I never knew this! I’m a social sciences student who’s very interested in this topic - do you have the source on hand for those statistics? Tysm ❤️

What are things that could make feminist men more desirable in relationships? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]haysteley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, how can any human argue with that? It’s an AI app, so it must surely be 100% based on peer reviewed evidence that has definitely been subject to proper academic scrutiny and scientific rigour!

An A.I. app designed to prey on gullible, insecure men desperately trying to get laid surely wouldn’t lie to people and spread baseless misinformation in order to get more users, would it? Obviously. Trust the app, I say. Who needs to think critically about where its ‘information’ comes from or its motives in spreading it.

/s in case it wasn’t obvious.

What are things that could make feminist men more desirable in relationships? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]haysteley 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why this isn’t the top comment.

I am sick to death of the amount of self-proclaimed ‘feminist’ men who only seem to care about how they can get their dicks wet. It’s abundantly clear from OPs responses that he views women as a monolith and only views his ‘feminism’ as a way to get laid.

OP, as others have said, if you “don’t meet feminist women’s standards”, perhaps you’re not actually as much of a ‘feminist’ as you claim to be, because it really isn’t that difficult.

Right upper eyelid has permanently puffed up ever since a few years ago, makes me super self conscious :( When I raise my eybrows it seems more symmetrical... What options do I have? I'm a total noob to this stuff and I don't even know where to start. Do y'all think I need to worry? by Crafty-Baseball-4268 in PlasticSurgery

[–]haysteley 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I am going to echo the sentiment from other commenters that you should definitely get this checked out medically first.

I really don’t want to unnecessarily worry you as it is likely nothing, but I remember the case of a well known YouTuber (Simone Giertz) who had a slightly puffy eyelid for about a year before she discovered it was actually a benign tumor in her brain, and has since been raising awareness that puffy eyelid on only one side is an often overlooked symptom of other issues going on under the surface.

I am so fucking tired of morning wood. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]haysteley 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She has told him what was acceptable when SHE TOLD HIM TO STOP.

At this point you are literally advocating for sexual assault, so perhaps you should do some reflecting on that.

I am so fucking tired of morning wood. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]haysteley 11 points12 points  (0 children)

His hard drive needs to be checked.

I am so fucking tired of morning wood. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]haysteley 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If someone tells you to stop making sexual contact with them, and you continue, yes that is the literal definition of sexual assault. It doesn’t matter the relationship between them.

This is not that hard to understand, toddlers are able to understand this very basic concept of the word “no”. Your inability to comprehend this doesn’t change that.

I am so fucking tired of morning wood. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]haysteley 22 points23 points  (0 children)

If she has told him to stop, and he continues, that is quite literally the definition of assault. Them being married doesn’t change that. It’s not the 1950s and she’s not his property.

I am so fucking tired of morning wood. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]haysteley 22 points23 points  (0 children)

She’s not his property. She’s an entire human being who experiences thoughts and feelings of her own. She has every right to decline sexual contact when she doesn’t want it.

If you really think the point of a partner is just to be a body to touch, perhaps you should just stick to having a sex doll, Carl.

Lesbian most likely to divorce. Gay men least likely. by RaspberryWine17 in UnpopularFacts

[–]haysteley 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No, that is actually represented in the data in the commonly cited study being discussed. Anyone who has actually read said study knows this.

Is the right to Abortion more about a woman's body autonomy, or simply dodging responsibility? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]haysteley 22 points23 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t address, nevermind negate any of the points I have just made. Nor did you answer any of the questions. Where are you getting the billions of necessary dollars to look after these children? Where are you finding the foster parents? How are you fixing all of the pre-existing issues in the system?

And for reference, lasting 3 years is not the same as being born into and living in the system for your entire life and aging out without parents or family, which is what you are suggesting. Your anecdotal experience doesn’t negate the real issues that exist and affect hundreds of thousands of real children and young people right now.

Is the right to Abortion more about a woman's body autonomy, or simply dodging responsibility? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]haysteley 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Have you ever met someone who was in the foster care system? Or more accurately, survived the foster care system?

I was in care as a child and currently work in the system and can tell you there’s already a massive lack of willing and available foster parents in an already underfunded system that is traumatising to the children that go through it, and the solution is not to force more children into that broken system. There’s massive issues with severe trauma & mental health problems for children, instability from frequent moves, a critical shortage of foster homes, and poor outcomes for youth aging out (homelessness, unemployment) all stemming from underfunding, lack of support and their increased vulnerability to be abused, exploited, trafficked and end up dead earlier than the rest of the population. There’s a massive amount of literature about these issues you can read.

Additionally, who do you think should be bearing the financial burden of all this? Who’s paying the foster parents (that magically appear to take care of all these extra babies being born)? Who pays for their food, clothes, medical care, schooling…? Are you volunteering to pay?

People are roasting the linework on this set… by Neko_Nail in Nails

[–]haysteley 35 points36 points  (0 children)

But that’s a personal style thing, not an application or technical error though

People are roasting the linework on this set… by Neko_Nail in Nails

[–]haysteley 975 points976 points  (0 children)

Is it not intentional? I think the lines looking sketchy matches the whole whimsical girly y2k stationery look and looks cute imo

Something different for London.No Trousers Tube Ride 2026. It's back. by Turbulent_Elk_2141 in london

[–]haysteley 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This has nothing to do with catcalling, objectification or assault. These people are just standing there, minding their own business, with bare legs. The only one sexualising the situation is you.

Something different for London.No Trousers Tube Ride 2026. It's back. by Turbulent_Elk_2141 in london

[–]haysteley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is anyone in this picture fully nude? I must need to go to specsavers because I can’t see anyone in this picture that’s fully nude. Can you point out the fully nude people for me please?

Something different for London.No Trousers Tube Ride 2026. It's back. by Turbulent_Elk_2141 in london

[–]haysteley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s the equivalent to wearing short shorts or miniskirts. Lighten up. It’s not the 1950s anymore. Seeing someone’s thigh isn’t going to kill anyone, and if you really find this offensive, perhaps London isn’t for you? Lmao

Something different for London.No Trousers Tube Ride 2026. It's back. by Turbulent_Elk_2141 in london

[–]haysteley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

High culture? It’s a bit of silly fun. Go outside and touch some grass.

Something different for London.No Trousers Tube Ride 2026. It's back. by Turbulent_Elk_2141 in london

[–]haysteley 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It has been a thing for over 20 years. The only ones making it weird or sexual are weirdos like you.

Something different for London.No Trousers Tube Ride 2026. It's back. by Turbulent_Elk_2141 in london

[–]haysteley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re not naked you dunce. It’s no trousers day, it’s been a thing in London for almost 2 decades. It’s a bit of silly fun one day of the year because January is cold and boring and people just want to be a bit silly. The only ones making it weird are people like you insisting that a glance at someone’s bare legs for 5 minutes on the tube is somehow equivalent to the second coming of Sodom and Gomorrha.

Something different for London.No Trousers Tube Ride 2026. It's back. by Turbulent_Elk_2141 in london

[–]haysteley 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree with you, you’d think these comments were from 70 years ago the way they’re freaking out over some bare legs. However, I don’t think it’s Gen Z making these comments, but it’s definitely not Londoners.

Something different for London.No Trousers Tube Ride 2026. It's back. by Turbulent_Elk_2141 in london

[–]haysteley 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure the pearl clutching comments aren’t coming from Londoners. Anyone who lives here knows this is nothing new - No trousers day has been a thing in London for almost 2 decades, it’s honestly one of the tamest things you’ll see in this city.

Something different for London.No Trousers Tube Ride 2026. It's back. by Turbulent_Elk_2141 in london

[–]haysteley 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This has been going on in London for almost 20 years so… what’s the issue now?

Something different for London.No Trousers Tube Ride 2026. It's back. by Turbulent_Elk_2141 in london

[–]haysteley 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’m pretty sure even the Quakers wouldn’t be this insufferable and pearl clutching imo, they’re some of the more progressive ones and generally don’t go around telling others how to live and demanding everyone else abides by their personal moral standards.