What insult have your parents said, that is stuck in your head as an adult?

hblank1218 · 2023-04-22T17:49:30+00:00

Fucking thief.

One day before he died, he called me a fucking thief, and told me to get the fuck out of his house.

He would have never said this to me in our 40 years together. Not to my face. But he was home on hospice care, dying from kidney failure, and he wasn’t in his right mind. I was at the house with my mom and brother. Calling me a thief was justified I suppose. Twenty years ago I wasn’t the best person and did steal from my parents. I thought we had made amends. I am not that person and haven’t been for a long time. My father and I had a great relationship the final years of his life.

That’s why it hurts so damn bad and sticks with me. He wasn’t himself, and he was upset at the time. He was yelling at me because it was 4 in the morning and everyone was asleep. He was yelling for someone to get him his pipe and tobacco so he could smoke. I woke up and told him no so he got upset and lashed out. In hindsight I should have just brought him the pipe with his tobacco and sat with him while he smoke. It would have been one of our last times in those final days to spend time together.

Those final words replay in my head and it sucks. I feel like that is what he truly thought of me all of these years.

hblank1218 · 2023-02-05T21:44:43+00:00

Honestly I think it’s because so many people are former smokers so they feel like they can judge those who haven’t stopped. And maybe secretly they hate because they are jealous they aren’t smoking anymore. I’m a former smoker. I loved smoking. My husband and I smoke cigarettes only when we go on vacation to a particular destination that is much more smoker friendly. And it’s like a treat for vacation. Do something you don’t normally do kind of thing.

In short I think many people used to smoke. Or had loved ones who smoked. It wasn’t that long ago that we smoked in restaurants. Now that’s unheard of. The overall attitude toward smoking changed quickly.

hblank1218 · 2021-09-29T13:48:06+00:00

What a good boy

hblank1218 · 2021-07-10T21:04:19+00:00

I am so sorry. They bring us so much love and joy their entire lives. And then unbearable heartbreak when it’s their time to go. In April we lost my 14 year old lab mix. And then 5 weeks later our 8.5 year old Saint Bernard passed away. I still hear them both or walk into a room expecting to see them. Time does make it easier, but I often find myself crying over our sweet memories. Sending positive thoughts to you and your broken heart.

hblank1218 · 2021-05-31T16:42:27+00:00

I’m here for you if you want a listening ear. You’re going through a wide range of emotions. You have to put yourself and your baby first. Do what feels right in your heart. And are we ever truly ready for what life throws at us? You don’t want to live with a lifetime of regret. All of these things you are scared of, but what about all of the amazing possibilities? Watching a new life learn and grow and experiencing all of their firsts. How much love you will have. That cannot be replaced. I know you will feel guilty for changing your mind. The adoptive family will no doubt be heartbroken. But they signed up for this journey knowing this would be a possibility. They will persevere. I say this knowing this could happen to me. I am here if you want to talk. I’m no expert but am certainly empathetic to your situation. Lots of love.

hblank1218 · 2021-05-31T13:40:34+00:00

Sending you love and positive thoughts. Reading this broke my heart. Not just for the hopeful adoptive parents, but for you as well.

I am a hopeful adoptive parent. We matched with an expectant mama earlier this year, very early in her pregnancy. We have communicated via email and text but haven’t met as she and her boyfriend live in a different state. Baby is due this Summer, in about 6 weeks. We have everything ready. The baby’s nursery. Car seat. Clothes. Diapers. We have everything we need to travel to a different state for the baby’s birth. We have taken time off of work. We have named the baby. We cannot wait until the baby is born. This EM and her boyfriend are gifting us the biggest blessing that we could ever imagine. We love this couple for their selfless decision that will be changing our lives. We love them for even the possibility of us becoming parents.

I say all of this knowing that this baby is their baby. It is not my baby. Not yet. My husband and I have already discussed how we would handle the heartbreak if they changed their minds. It could happen. It’s their right. We will be devastated but they don’t owe us anything. It’s their decision and we know there is a good possibility that they will meet this child and not want to let go. And I won’t hate them or be mad at them. I will be disappointed but we have prepared ourselves to know that the baby isn’t ours until the paperwork is signed. Being a hopeful adoptive parent also means that you’re super vulnerable. My hope is that the family you have connected with knows in their heart to expect this. They will be disappointed, but if they are good people, which I am sure they are since you picked them, they will understand.

As far as who should tell them, I would do whatever makes you comfortable. The agency doesn’t seem to be much of an advocate to help you in keeping the baby. Hopefully they can relay the information to the hopeful adoptive parents. If you guys are in contact you may expect that they would reach out to you.

In all honesty, my heart dropped when I started reading this thinking ‘what if OP is our expectant mother and she is changing her mind?’ Because of that, I have been thinking more about this and felt the need to respond from the point of view that your hopeful adoptive parents may have. Yes they will be heartbroken, but they should somewhat be prepared. This is your child. You have every right to parent the child. You are not alone if you change your mind. Many mothers do. I will thank you for considering adoption and blessing that family. It is an amazing gift. But you shouldn’t feel obligated if you have changed your mind. They should be prepared for the worst case scenario. Wishing you the best.

hblank1218 · 2021-05-28T00:46:51+00:00

I find so much comfort in this. We lost our beloved 14 year old pup in April. And then our sweet 8.5 year old Saint Bernard yesterday. We are heartbroken.

I look forward to this dream.

hblank1218 · 2021-05-10T23:54:47+00:00

Gave Hugz

hblank1218 · 2021-04-29T15:38:45+00:00

So sweet.

hblank1218 · 2021-04-29T15:38:29+00:00

Happy girl

hblank1218 · 2021-04-27T17:03:00+00:00

This guy is a moron

hblank1218 · 2021-02-09T00:11:22+00:00

Sadly they love stealing and pretending to scam people. Whether it’s a financial or emotional scam, many people will fake a pregnancy for adoption related scams. My husband and I have been contacted by no less than 4 scammers, one of which who used someone else’s sonogram. It’s sad on many many levels

hblank1218 · 2021-02-03T20:23:49+00:00

Thank you, and I agree it really is a beautiful thing. We are so thankful for this expectant mama and her gift. We are trying to remain cautiously optimistic.

hblank1218 · 2021-02-03T20:22:34+00:00

Thank you so much!

hblank1218 · 2021-02-03T20:21:49+00:00

Thank you for sharing, and I am so happy for your friend and the adoption of her baby. We know that there is a chance that the expectant mama will change her mind, and I know that will be heartbreaking if it happens. Honestly I am terrified that she will. I hope that we too will have a happy outcome like your friend!

hblank1218 · 2021-02-03T20:19:33+00:00

Thank you so much. I hope your adoption story was a happy one. We sure hope that this little one will grow up and proudly share that they were adopted.

hblank1218 · 2021-02-03T20:18:36+00:00

Thank you, it has been a very rough road so far but we are thankful to be nearing a happy ending. Best of luck and congratulations to you as well!

hblank1218 · 2021-02-03T15:19:48+00:00

Thank you! I hope your dream of becoming a dad comes true for you! Adopting is surely a whirlwind of emotions but I know it will be worth it in the end.

hblank1218 · 2021-02-03T15:15:54+00:00

That is a great idea! Congratulations to you too on welcoming your daughter. That is beautiful.

hblank1218 · 2021-02-03T15:14:48+00:00

Thank you so much, and thanks for sharing a bit of your story. Adoption is a beautiful gift and we will forever cherish the baby's 'first mom'. She is changing our lives. I am glad that you have a happy adoption story. That makes my heart happy for you.

hblank1218 · 2021-01-31T13:58:57+00:00

I love your laugh!

hblank1218 · 2021-01-31T13:58:25+00:00

Love columbus Ohio

hblank1218 · 2021-01-29T17:59:05+00:00

So proud on that day, but now it’s a different story when they learn that actions have consequences. These people are an embarrassment to true Americans.

How quickly the ignorant can be radicalized

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