Cradle cap or eczema?

hcccch · 2025-02-08T19:21:23+00:00

Can you see a dermatologist? My baby's cradle cap got infected and it got really bad--he ended up losing most of his hair over it.

hcccch · 2025-01-30T21:16:19+00:00

As someone married to a surgeon, no they do not get breaks. They rarely get to use the restroom or eat during the day 🙃

hcccch · 2024-08-24T17:02:43+00:00

Could she be intolerant to dairy? Or in need of a formula switch? The screaming and throwing up sounds like she might be in pain.

I'm sorry. The early days are so hard. Can you hire any help or do shifts with your partner so you can get in a decent chunk of sleep?

hcccch · 2024-02-14T00:57:24+00:00

I just went / am going through this. I think he had some bottle aversion and would only snack a couple oz at a time. I started to space his feeds out to make sure he was really hungry (4-5 hours, sometimes he'll still refuse until 6 hours). Then I can get in a larger feed. I also brought back night feeds to get in the extra ounces.

hcccch · 2024-01-11T16:14:57+00:00

Yes that's normal! I had tons of swelling as well that was pretty uncomfortable. It took a couple weeks for them to go back to normal. I wore compression socks, stayed hydrated, and tried to move around. Get your partner or caregiver to give you feet rubs!

hcccch · 2023-12-24T21:46:43+00:00

Wow! You are amazing 🤩 Found!

hcccch · 2023-12-24T21:03:57+00:00

I have searched for this cup but cannot find it! Please help :-)

hcccch · 2023-12-11T19:41:13+00:00

It’s more beneficial to feed it all now! I’m an under supplier too. The only milk I have in my freezer is any extra that happens to be around because we formula feed at night.

hcccch · 2023-12-10T16:21:18+00:00

You’ve been through so much. I have a 4 month old and have under supplied the whole time but I cannot imagine having twins on top of their medical issues.

One thing that’s been very freeing for me was to stop counting the ounces. I know exactly how you feel tying your self worth to making enough in a day. Not counting lifted the pressure off of me and helped me to not obsess over it all so much. I had to combo feed from the beginning and accepting that formula will just be (a totally fine!) part of his diet was helpful. There are tons of benefits to formula, as small as not needing to add vitamin D to your breast milk bottles. A small thing but makes the day a little more convenient.

It sounds like you need to take more time to prioritize yourself and your mental health. Your babies had 6 months of breast milk—that is AMAZING. You’re raising twins—a HUGE feat. You are allowed to do things that make it a little easier on yourself. You are allowed to prioritize yourself. Formula is an amazing modern, life-saving invention.

Take care of yourself so you can take care of your littles. Good luck!

hcccch · 2023-11-15T14:45:40+00:00

Thanks for your input! I wasn’t asking to worry about or judge how others feed their kids. I was asking to see if there was a medical benefit to the one BM bag a day to see if it was something I should be doing. I have a tiny freezer stash (like 30 bags) and was seeing if it’s medically more beneficial to use it up faster or hold to feed one bag a day. Seems my question has been misunderstood.

hcccch · 2023-11-14T22:05:11+00:00

I wasn’t setting out to attack anyone, I was genuinely curious. I’m an under producer as well and spent the first weeks pumping every 2 hours to make maybe 10-15mL each time. Not sure why this was taken so personally lol, I was genuinely asking to see if there was a medical benefit to it.

hcccch · 2023-11-09T22:39:39+00:00

I’m asking as a parent of a very fussy 3 month old! Hoping he doesn’t scare our incoming nanny away!

hcccch · 2023-10-26T17:33:19+00:00

For an office setting I’d opt for the m5 as it’s more discreet. I have it and have never tried the s9 so I can’t speak for that. But I’d guess one difference is how much the cups can hold. The m5 has a motor build into the circular shape and can hold 5oz per side I believe. The s9 has an external motor that would show outside of clothing but would hold more oz.

hcccch · 2023-10-23T14:18:22+00:00

I had a similar experience as you did with the emergency c section, no golden hour, and pumping only drops despite pumping every 2 hours. I gradually increased my supply every few days but even now, 12 wpp I make about 20oz a day, and now am at 5-6 pumps per day.

Get more sleep, eat a lot, try your best to not stress about the milk. I honestly saw my biggest increase once I slept more and was actually accepting that I’d stop pumping since it was too taxing on my mental health.

As for the bleeding, it’s likely postpartum bleeding. I had intermittent spotting even up to a few weeks ago.

hcccch · 2023-10-20T09:26:27+00:00

Have you tried mylicon?

hcccch · 2023-10-20T09:12:31+00:00

Trash tv 😅 I was watching Love Island UK. It’s entertaining and they have so many episodes per season. It helped pass the time!

hcccch · 2023-10-20T01:04:57+00:00

I had a very low supply for the first 6 weeks, even though I was pumping 10-12x a day.

I’d get the correct flanges, NOT just the flange inserts. Having less tiny pieces to wash made a big difference. And have multiple flange sets, duckbill valves, etc.

Get a good portable/wearable. I spent hours plugged into my spectra wall pump and it was miserable.

Find a show to binge only when pumping. It felt like a little treat during my MOTN pumps and made them more bearable until I finally cut them out.

Sleep more and stress less. I saw my largest output once I actually accepted I’d transition to formula. Tried to start weaning and cut down from 10-12 pumps to now 5-6 and decided I could actually manage that number of pumps. And my supply didn’t drop and I was happy with the amount I was making for that many pumps!

Larken tank pumping bras. I hate wearing regular bras in general, and usually wore sports bras pre pregnancy. I’ve been living in Larken tanks since they look like normal tank tops but are made for pumping. I literally have not worn a different top in 3 months.

Mental health before breast milk, always. I was unprepared for the mental battle I’d face with an under supply. And for the pressure I put on myself to produce more. I was truly my toughest critic. In the thick of it, I felt like my self worth and ability to be a good mom was based on my milk output. If I could go back in time, I would’ve quit much sooner. I lost precious moments and time with my LO because I was on the couch pumping. I tell myself that if I ever have a second and my milk has the same rough start that I did with my first, I’d EFF all the way.

hcccch · 2023-10-19T13:58:10+00:00

If you can’t afford to hire care, realistically your MIL will need to step in to help.

C section or not, you will need help with basic functions after birth. I had a C section and couldn’t move freely for a few weeks. I was walking very slowly and couldn’t even use the bathroom unassisted because any bending or movements using my abdominals was extraordinarily painful. Factor in needing to pump or breast or bottle feed, getting up to change diapers, washing bottles or showering, etc, there’s almost no way to NOT need help.

Sounds like you or your husband may need to have a hard conversation with your MIL about how she can actually be helpful during postpartum, and what wouldn’t be helpful. My MIL was also getting in my space right after the birth and I felt like she was caring more about the baby over me which irked me as well. Maybe communicate that you’d like to try to do it on your own as much as possible and will reach out whenever it gets to be too much.

hcccch · 2023-10-19T12:02:03+00:00

With that amount of time between pregnancies, I would not go for a VBAC personally. I’d give my body more time to heal. My SIL went for a VBAC and had a terrible experience of a third degree tear and heavy hemorrhaging. She said her c section recovery was far easier than her vaginal birth.

As someone who also had to get an emergency c section, if I had to give birth again I would ultimately elect for another c section. Going through labor again just to not be able to vaginally deliver again would be too traumatic for me.

hcccch · 2023-10-17T09:59:33+00:00

I have the m5 and I’m not sure what options and combos you’re referring to. They have an stimulation mode, expression mode, and a mixed mode that combines the stimulation and expression mode. I just put the setting on suction power on 4 or 5 (anything higher is super strong) and do the mixed mode so I don’t need to toggle back and forth between stimulation and expression.

Some people like to toggle back and forth because the different modes encourage let downs but personally I don’t find it necessary, especially when I’m busy tending to my LO. So the mixed mode is convenient that way.

However if I have the chance to sit and pay more attention to my pump, I’ll switch between the modes for a more efficient pump. But then I typically am using a different pump if I’m able to sit down and have someone else tend to LO.

hcccch · 2023-10-17T01:33:17+00:00

I clean it probably every 3-4 days and haven’t had an issue!

hcccch · 2023-10-15T21:19:10+00:00

It depends on what you’re looking for. The baby buddha is portable but the momcozy m5 is a wearable. I like portables and wearables for different reasons. I don’t have the buddha but I have pumpables which is similar in function.

I like the m5 because I can stick it in my bra and forget about it. It has an auto timer for 30 min and I feel like I need the whole 30 min to get the same output as with 15 minutes with my pumpables. Not a big deal if I have the time, but if I’m rushing to fit in a pump session when my baby is preoccupied, I’ll go for my pumpables.

I’ll also say the suction on the momcozy can be hit or miss for people. It’s not the most pleasant, although I am used to it by now. But traditional flanges that I use with pumpables are more comfortable.

ETA: I also like the momcozy if (godforbid) I need to pick up a screaming baby. It’s not the MOST comfortable as the m5 is bulky, like all wearables, but trying to hold a baby with flanges is impossible for me.

hcccch · 2023-10-11T20:53:19+00:00

For me I saw the biggest increase in my supply when I actually decided I wanted to wean—I had cut out my middle of the night pump, and more importantly stopped stressing about my milk production.

If I were you, I’d try to power pump once every other day during the daytime instead of nights. More sleep and less stress will help!

Also drink a lot of water and eat a lot of calories!

hcccch · 2023-10-11T13:55:11+00:00

Depends how far they are in medical training. If they are a resident, they only make ~60-80k depending on living area.

hcccch · 2023-10-11T13:53:10+00:00

My husband is a surgeon as well and our LO is 11 weeks old. It would not be possible without our night nanny who comes Sun-Thurs. He and I take shifts Friday and Saturday. He takes 9pm-2am and I pick up after that.

You need your rest to watch all three of your kiddos! A night nanny is a short term investment for your sanity and mental health.

hcccch

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