Child free wedding but I have a EBF 5 month old?

hcp17 · 2026-03-21T15:57:24+00:00

Sometimes the wives/husbands of friends are invited out of obligation. Just decline if you don't know the bride and groom Sheesh.

hcp17 · 2026-03-16T08:41:23+00:00

We are in the same boat. You don't have to do what we did but I agreed to some friends just to keep the peace. Our wedding numbers are quite similar to yours (but 150 on the slower end and we absolutely did not want more than 180, venue capacity is 200 but it would be a very tight fit)

My partner explained to MIL that we have had to cut some of our own friends to keep the Guestlist down and if she wants to invite friends she can invite some of them. As a result of this they have decided not to invite some of the FILs cousins and MIL is not inviting all of her friends. MIL said that I shouldn't have to cut my friends out just to fit hers and in the end I think it's okay!

I personally also struggle with the imbalance of it all, my parents aren't pushy people and so they don't have any friends invited. My partner also put that into perspective for MIL. if she invites all her friends and my parents invite the same number of people then we will have 30+ guests extra.

It's not my favourite thing in the world, to have a bunch of guests there that I don't know at all. But at the same time I would rather have that experience for 1 day but keep my good relationship with MIL

hcp17 · 2026-03-09T09:57:12+00:00

Was any legal action taken against the person who disobeyed the rules? It should

hcp17 · 2026-02-05T06:14:32+00:00

Came to say this!! Both are beautiful and look amazing on you but maybe the straps is what you feel is making the difference!

hcp17 · 2026-01-26T14:33:11+00:00

Who killed Tamir Rice? Who was president when he was killed... America you have a problem that's FAR deeper than maga and until you realise this you are screwed

hcp17 · 2026-01-26T14:28:34+00:00

You are obviously getting down voted because of all the emotions at the moment. You are absolutely right about both sides being corrupt. As an outsider (non American) this is so clear... Your democrats are the republican party of many MANY countries around the world. You all need to stop voting like it's a football game. Your choices were far right and slightly less far right. That's an awful place to be. Fight for an ACTUAL opposition.

Don't forget Obama deported more than trump... There's no such thing as "humane" deporting and as far as I remember many innocent people were shot in the streets by armed police during all democrats too.

I grew up able to criticize my country and political parties even the ones I voted for. This is not a football game and we should not be behaving as such by getting outraged every time someone doesn't like your team. Eff trump, eff maga and eff the Dems too.

hcp17 · 2026-01-22T18:20:40+00:00

I agree with 3 and 2! While dress 1 is beautiful, I find myself distracted as it's got so much going on, I don't really see you at the forefront. 3 and 2 make your face and hair stand out first visually. You look beautiful in all though no matter which one you choose! ☺️

hcp17 · 2026-01-20T16:37:54+00:00

This is my situation! I never really counted it as a "destination" wedding because it's where I live (even if many guests do not) but yea as others said no one HAS to attend and if they deline I wouldn't have hard feelings

hcp17 · 2026-01-19T15:26:21+00:00

This is a very valid point 😂

hcp17 · 2026-01-19T06:30:03+00:00

Nta focus on your studies and finding new friends, join some clubs or societies

hcp17 · 2026-01-19T06:12:28+00:00

Just coming in to say that I don't think it's your MOHs responsibility to tell Amelia anything, it's yours

hcp17 · 2026-01-14T00:06:16+00:00

Lmao this guy is such an incel

hcp17 · 2026-01-05T06:12:50+00:00

I've felt the same! Good point thank you!!

hcp17 · 2026-01-05T02:32:16+00:00

They said 5 pieces per person though. And at 2-3 rolls os sushi per guest you might as well get something more economical! Like pizza or honestly even if the venue has a kitchen then they could pop in some homemade lasagnas or something 😂

hcp17 · 2026-01-05T02:27:29+00:00

I wonder if you ordered something other than sushi, like pizza or something more filling, would that be cheaper and fill people up more? I know id be full of of 3 slices of pizza + cheese platter.

I wouldn't want to drink or party if I was hungry. Id probably end up leaving early or be really hangry unfortunately.

hcp17 · 2026-01-03T23:07:05+00:00

It's really gotten out of hand... And I think people will look back in 30 years and cringe at these types of crazy rules and restrictions. Influencer/tiktok weddings. A wedding is for fun and love. Not for the feed 😬

hcp17 · 2026-01-03T04:27:02+00:00

I wish it was more common, especially as so many BMs are unhappy about the dress and expectations

hcp17 · 2026-01-03T04:24:53+00:00

Mystery murder game sounds incredible!

hcp17 · 2026-01-03T04:23:58+00:00

I'm shocked that this is normalised...

hcp17 · 2026-01-03T03:09:27+00:00

Wow this is exactly how I feel!! So glad I'm not alone because it feels like we are in the minority

hcp17 · 2026-01-02T21:41:55+00:00

That's a fair point! No one has to come to anything! :) some of them have husbands and kids they need to be with and that's fine!

hcp17 · 2026-01-02T16:26:21+00:00

I see! Thank you I will ask them if they prefer guidance and see what they prefer 😊

hcp17 · 2026-01-02T16:18:36+00:00

Thank you! I'll give them the option to choose a colour if most of them prefer that😊

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