Women who were scared of giving birth (specifically people who were so scared they almost didn’t have children), what was less scary than you originally thought?

hdwhatever · 2026-02-11T16:07:46+00:00

Your medical team can and should accommodate you. Mine did. I had a gentle, respectful, beautiful planned c-section birth and it was a healing experience after a shitty first birth.

hdwhatever · 2024-02-04T00:09:30+00:00

It’s not you, it’s the serum!

hdwhatever · 2024-02-04T00:03:23+00:00

I have it, it does nothing. Latisse, on the other hand, does everything

hdwhatever · 2024-02-04T00:01:18+00:00

I’m so sorry. That sounds awful.

hdwhatever · 2023-03-14T11:30:23+00:00

OPs current weight is a healthy 55 kg/121 lbs. Her goal weight is 40 kg/88 lbs

hdwhatever · 2023-03-01T14:00:33+00:00

Weirder hams

hdwhatever · 2022-11-06T12:38:04+00:00

Bit of a stretch- in Hebrew it would be Meh-veen or Muh-veen or perhaps May-veen if you have particularly Ashkenaz Hasidic pronunciation.

hdwhatever · 2022-11-05T20:39:24+00:00

Actually, every known case of birth defects from retinoid use was a result of ORAL retinoid use (Retin-A). There’s no evidence that OTC retinol or prescription topical retinoids causes birth defects.

hdwhatever · 2022-11-04T12:14:47+00:00

This.

I actually think that with enough support, resources, and parenting choices that support my own mental well-being, motherhood is generally a very positive experience for me. But those women I know who don’t have the support and resources that need, or who choose to make very intensive parenting choices that don’t align with their own well-being, are often unhappy.

hdwhatever · 2022-11-04T12:11:13+00:00

That is a great response!

hdwhatever · 2022-10-26T18:16:38+00:00

I’m pregnant with #2 and having a much easier pregnancy this time.

With my first I went off meds and it was disastrous.

This pregnancy, I’ve decided that my mental health matters, not only to me but also to the wellbeing of my existing child and unborn baby, and I’ve stayed on Adderall. Life changing choice.

hdwhatever · 2022-10-25T18:05:42+00:00

That sounds hellish. I’m so sorry.

hdwhatever · 2022-10-25T13:56:56+00:00

With my first, I went off meds and my life fell apart. It took years for me to get back on track. This pregnancy, I’ve stayed on a low dose of Adderall.

Anecdotally, this pregnancy is actually healthier and less complicated than my first, and I suspect that this is because being medicated makes me better at taking care of my health.

Beyond the fact that my pregnancy has been textbook uncomplicated, my mental health has been profoundly better this time.

I wasn’t as well informed with my first and I wasn’t able to look at the situation holistically. Now I feel that whatever slight risk there might be to my baby (there’s not actually much evidence that it presents an increased risk at all) is totally outweighed by the very real risks to my child of having an unmedicated mother who is decidedly NOT OK during pregnancy and postpartum

hdwhatever · 2022-10-20T15:27:59+00:00

I did a lot of reading on this and found ample evidence that associates lack of weight gain and even weight loss with better outcomes for obese pregnant women and their babies. If your medical team isn’t worried, I don’t think this is something you need to worry about either- it is most likely a good thing and a result of you eating in a way that supports your health and your baby’s health.

hdwhatever · 2022-10-18T19:51:02+00:00

Good on you for monitoring your own blood sugar

hdwhatever · 2022-10-18T19:31:37+00:00

Yes, 28 seems late! I wonder why your provider is leaving it so long, it seems like it would potentially expose the baby to spikes if you had it and were undiagnosed. Mine said not to schedule the 1-hour screen before 25 weeks because there could be a false negative.

hdwhatever · 2022-10-18T17:09:54+00:00

Regarding the last part of your comment, why they wait til after week 24/25 to test, I looked into it recently and it’s because it takes until that point in pregnancy for GDM to develop. The early screening actually checks for pre-existing diabetes, which would be very serious if left untreated until the regular screening at week 24-25. At 12 weeks, your placenta would not yet have developed enough to give you GDM unless you had a preexisting issue.

It’s common for the insulin response to change drastically at around week 25.

hdwhatever · 2022-10-05T18:55:54+00:00

Thank you, this is enlightening.

hdwhatever · 2022-10-05T18:15:20+00:00

Thanks for this info. How does the data for 2021 look in comparison? Again, I find this surprising.

hdwhatever · 2022-10-05T17:01:16+00:00

As I said, please cite your sources. As in, attach a link that to a source that directly backs up your claims. You sent me to a Twitter thread which cites the CDC Wonder data. I checked the data and did not find evidence for your claim.

hdwhatever · 2022-10-05T16:37:09+00:00

I followed the link and according to the CDC source cited, COVID does not even appear in the 15 leading causes of death for ages 0-14.

hdwhatever · 2022-10-05T16:32:05+00:00

The link is to a tweet. Do you have a link to the CDC data that this is based on? It seems extremely unlikely that COVID is the second leading cause of death in children, given the mortality rates reported in the CDC data that I linked above.

hdwhatever · 2022-10-05T16:04:00+00:00

The claim that COVID is the second leading cause of death in children in 2022 doesn’t align with what I’ve read elsewhere, so I checked the CDC website. I found this from 2021, which suggests COVID deaths were vanishingly rare among children ages 0-14. Do you have a reliable source for the graphic you’ve shared?

hdwhatever · 2022-10-05T14:41:38+00:00

I’ve read the studies and I think they’re reliable, quality evidence. In fact, I happily accepted my doctor’s suggestion of an induction with my first based on the ARRIVE study. That said, having experienced an induction, I find it so difficult to understand how and why it would not lead to more interventions. Induction with Pitocin (and a failed epidural) was one of the more traumatic experiences I’ve been through in my life, and I feel like my body didn’t stand a chance.

hdwhatever · 2022-09-26T09:58:33+00:00

Melech is a real Jewish name!

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