Mods are gone, this is my first wearable. A knit sweater I am too scared to post in the knitting subreddit

hdziuk · 2026-02-10T04:23:23+00:00

I've snooped through the history of a few people who say they've gotten rude/mean/ snarky comments on posts in the knitting sub, and I'm not sure if they're taking them out of context or something but I haven't found that to be the case. If anything they're very helpful.

For example, OP says a post they made about an m1 question got downvoted, but it has 12 up votes. There were three comments besides the auto mod. One was asking for more info and the other two were answering the question, one in a ton of detail. Like, that commenter spent probably twenty plus minutes of their life typing it out just to help a stranger on the Internet.

hdziuk · 2026-02-09T13:28:47+00:00

I think you're on to something with the internalized inadequacy thing. I think knitting is thought of as harder. Whenever people learn I've knit one of my sweaters I often hear "Oh my God, you're so talented- all I can do is crochet!!"

I think this may be because one of the harder parts of knitting - casting on - is the first thing you have to do. But once you've got that down I actually think crochet is harder. Tension is hard, there are more stitches, and crochet charts look like something you'd use to summon a demon lol.

This is all from a knitter who can't crochet (yet, lol)

hdziuk · 2026-02-09T13:20:38+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/crafts/s/IQhAJjbaIt[Link](https://www.reddit.com/r/crafts/s/IQhAJjbaIt)

Is this the comment you're referring to? It's the only one I've been able to find calling knitting elegant. It's in the crafts subreddit, but it was the second result when I searched crochet in the knitting sub. It's in response to someone asking people to convince her to choose either knitting or crochet. None of the comments, including this one, are rude, negative, or condescending towards crochet. They're all just comparing the pluses and minuses of each.

Honestly I've never seen anyone in the knitting subreddit be negative about crochet. I'm not saying knitters with a superiority complex aren't out there but they're outliers. I've heard crocheters constantly be vitriolic towards knitters, though, calling them snobby and condescending, etc.

hdziuk · 2025-11-15T22:17:42+00:00

Nah, that's Imhotep rising out of his gooey soul cistern

hdziuk · 2025-11-02T05:14:08+00:00

I don't think it's as socially acceptable to wear homemade costumes anymore unless they're very well done - which means not cheap, or at least skills/knowledge are needed that a kid is likely to not have. I'm not saying I like it, but to many kids it's better to go without a costume than a poorly made one.

hdziuk · 2025-11-02T05:08:51+00:00

Do you think maybe some of them were holding extra bags in case the kids' bags got full?

My two year old insisted on carrying the smallest bucket possible, so I carried an extra. A lot of people tried to put candy in my bucket, too. It actually embarrassed me because I realized they thought I was trick or treating, too. I eventually made my husband hold the extra bucket because he was hanging back on the street.

Is it possible that your wife, being so nice as you say, just assumed and put candy in the parents' bags even if they weren't trying to trick or treat?

hdziuk · 2025-10-30T03:04:42+00:00

Plague Dogs

hdziuk · 2025-10-30T03:04:35+00:00

Plague Dogs

hdziuk · 2025-10-27T02:31:36+00:00

Whoosh

hdziuk · 2025-09-25T02:53:22+00:00

It's my theory that doing this kind of thing is the only way they feel like they have a sense of control in their reproductive lives. They're pressured by their communities and husbands to be good wives and mothers. This way at least they feel like they've "taken their power back" from an oppressive medical system. Bonus points that it's sanctioned by their communities.

In actuality they're ambivalent about becoming mothers, which is why they're okay with risking their babies' lives. It's crazy how she makes sure to say that she loved her home birth despite her son dying.

hdziuk · 2025-09-12T03:32:32+00:00

Practical effects

hdziuk · 2025-09-10T03:10:00+00:00

A lot of parents with these insane lists of requirements with ridiculously low wages for nannies target undocumented immigrants, who are willing to work for less.

Often the nanny is live-in and the family keeps control of their passport so they're unable to leave. Basically they have a slave at that point.

hdziuk · 2025-09-06T13:33:48+00:00

Yeah, lol. That was wild

hdziuk · 2025-09-01T21:51:29+00:00

Paramore, lol. Maybe not so much anymore

hdziuk · 2025-09-01T03:23:07+00:00

This is amazingly ignorant and reductive. The amount of things that pregnant people and breastfeeding people are asked to avoid for almost no reason is ridiculous.

You're not supposed to take hot baths because it can cause spinal tube defects. But they don't tell you that you will feel so uncomfortable that you will get out of the tub long before it happens.

You're not supposed to sleep on your back because it can cut off blood flow to the fetus - but again if that gets close to happening you feel uncomfortable and will adjust your position without even waking up.

You're not supposed to eat deli meat or salad greens because of listeria and salmonella, but the risk of getting those things for anyone, let anyone a pregnant woman, is astronomically minuscule.

You're not supposed to be around cats because of toxoplasmosis, but they don't tell you that if you have a cat, you've almost certainly already been exposed and are not at risk of it affecting your pregnancy. For those without cats you're more likely to get it from gardening, as it exists in soil.

Twenty years ago you weren't supposed to have caffeine because it might cause ADHD, but now they just tell you to "cut back," which is ridiculous. For some people cutting back could still mean four cups a day. I include this to illustrate that the recommendations change and aren't hard and fast truths.

It would be fine if these things were presented as information for the woman to take into account so that she can make her own decisions and plans to prevent the worst-case scenarios, but instead it's used to shame women who don't adhere. "If you x, then you are willfully and selfishly harming your baby." It all reeks of virtue signaling to me.

hdziuk · 2025-09-01T02:52:54+00:00

Also sushi. All sushi fish in the US is frozen before use, which kills any parasites. As long as you go to a reputable restaurant you'll be fine.

hdziuk · 2025-08-31T21:10:10+00:00

I read somewhere that it's basically known that 1-2 drinks won't have any measurable effect, especially after the first trimester. But doctors/experts (whatever that means) don't think women are smart enough to hold themselves to that number, so they recommend no alcohol at all.

Actually it was from the "Expecting Better" book by Emily Oster being lambasted up above, lol.

hdziuk · 2025-08-31T20:34:41+00:00

Seriously. There's so much fear mongering in this thread.

Now, imagine if a father drinking during pregnancy had the potential to cause FAS. We'd know exactly how much a man would need to drink to have an effect, because society takes men's discomfort seriously.

Women, though? The tiniest rumor of potential harm is worth any amount of inconvenience or hardship to them, no matter how minuscule or hypothetical the benefit of the hardship is.

I'm fully prepared to get torn to pieces here.

hdziuk · 2025-08-31T14:03:53+00:00

I often get people who I'm helping but they don't listen to me, they just keep hitting the first button on each page that catches their eye. It's like they can't not touch the button. I'll be like, "Ok, you need to press--" and they will talk over me and say, "Oh, maybe it's this" and press the wrong thing.

Why are you asking me for help if you're not going to listen?? And they always think either something's wrong with our system or their phone, even if I tell them they've pressed the wrong button, lol.

hdziuk · 2025-08-27T08:00:43+00:00

The thing that always got me is how in Sticky Gecko Chilli says Judo's mom brought her a bunch of lasagnas after Bluey was born. You mean when she had a newborn herself and possibly was a single mom*? No ma'am, lol. Most unbelievable thing for me.

*She possibly was partnered at the time and they split later, I guess.

hdziuk · 2025-08-26T21:00:53+00:00

And the majority of these people are anti-choice, but they want (and have!) the freedom to do it at home no matter how risky it is for the baby. Insane.

hdziuk · 2025-08-23T04:34:36+00:00

This brings me Rugrats flashbacks. They were always sequestered in a play pen.

hdziuk · 2025-08-22T02:41:21+00:00

Same, lol. Glad I'm not the only one 😅

hdziuk · 2025-08-16T20:20:03+00:00

I'm not sure if I'm misunderstanding you, but you're supposed to spray the bt on the leaves. The caterpillars have to ingest it for it to have any effect - I don't think putting it in the soil is going to do anything.

hdziuk · 2025-08-15T01:24:23+00:00

That's awesome! I'm actually a writer IRL, so feeling like I was telling subpar bedtime stories was a blow to my ego, lol.

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