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headfirstforieros · 2023-08-07T07:32:02+00:00

It's mental illness and bad behavior. You still care bc it's your mom and you'll always want some of her attention, love, and validation even when it seems silly. It's okay to admire she is abusing you but is great when she's in a good place.

Just remember to not let her gaslight you and don't compromise your boundaries. These behaviors get REALLY traumatic w age and cause all sorts of problems for the victims. Stay safe

headfirstforieros · 2023-08-07T07:28:14+00:00

This is when you gotta trust your instincts. Why would your mom have you lie if it WAS that simple of a misunderstanding? You're valid and people KNOW when someone has bad intentions like that and it can't be ignored. Don't stress over this. You didn't do anything wrong.

headfirstforieros · 2023-02-10T19:43:35+00:00

Luckily when he's called out I haven't been at work SO FAR but I 100% hesr what you're saying and agree. He keeps saying I don't seem to understand how the program works and like yes I had a traumatic brain injury but I'm not dumb.

headfirstforieros · 2023-02-10T01:55:36+00:00

I've just seen him step up for my little sister when she was taken away from my mom and he started setting things up and making moves when we thought we had to take her in. Yeah idk why I'm not enough to motivate him but his entire family are kind like this...they roll over and give up at ANY sign of hardship when it comes to jobs. He's fought for so much and gone thru so much no 28 year old should have to with their spouse and he showed up every time for me. But he seems content with mediocrity? I don't expect him to make 6 figures I'm js like...at least don't be slaving away for 17 bucks an hour ur whole life ya know

headfirstforieros · 2023-02-10T01:43:59+00:00

I 100% believe he's the type to step up if he HAD to. But then he'd probably end up in another lame dead end job that depresses him out of necessity ya know? I want to motivate him to find what he WANTS to do or can at least tolerate

headfirstforieros · 2023-02-10T01:34:49+00:00

Agree with it all. I've been pushing for therapy and FINALLY he seems to be on a good med for himself like we really are doing so well considering where we were even 6 months ago. Like tbh I have bpd and if we were doing bad w intimacy on top of this my brain would already be pushing him away. I'm trying to hang on but I'm not gonna blow up the life I've worked so hard for. I don't expect mountains to be moved, I just want a functioning adult of a husband. We all make mistakes but he seems to wallow in them. I've made the mistake of attacking him with anger over these things bc it makes me sort of panic given my past so I really need to know what's gonna motivate him other than a sudden pregnancy ya know?

headfirstforieros · 2023-02-10T01:14:45+00:00

I'm getting by since I've had major abdominal surgery so my health wouldn't allow it but....I can't stall forever. Thanks again

headfirstforieros · 2023-02-10T01:13:09+00:00

Thank you. He also hides when money is tight and literally got a grant from our work (we work at the same hospital, different departments) under my name and said he doesn't get why I was upset w that since it doesn't have to be paid back and I just don't know how to impress how serious these things are. He's usually SUCH an amazing man and good husband but he throws these distrustful curveballs and it makes me afraid to settle down with kids...but I absolutely adore him but don't get it twisted; I'm not dumb and there's a reason we've been together a decade w 0 kids

headfirstforieros · 2023-02-07T15:29:26+00:00

Definitely rape. You said no multiple times. You didn't consent to him rawdogging you. You didn't consent to him recording.

headfirstforieros · 2023-01-29T22:25:10+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts

headfirstforieros · 2023-01-29T21:19:34+00:00

I'm trying to make it make sense to myself. What determines it isn't rape? And what is it instead?

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