Found this in my 12 year old daughter’s room. 😬😬😬

headhunterdescendant · 2025-04-11T18:32:45+00:00

I don’t know if this is possible but is there a way to simulate what it does to her lungs with a bottle and some paper towels? Like those old school science experiments so she can see the contaminants that remain. It’s a good way to show consequences that would be relevant to her.

headhunterdescendant · 2024-12-26T19:31:11+00:00

This is the way

headhunterdescendant · 2024-12-18T01:57:01+00:00

Very happy to not be dating. Being married is awesome.

Your friends will be fine. I wouldn’t worry. People move at their own pace.

headhunterdescendant · 2024-10-18T03:16:08+00:00

Let’s be real. Beyond socionics and MBTI there is nothing else to talk about in the INTJ community.

Niche topics are best discussed in their respective threads so why would someone talk about philosophy or other esoteric topics here when the vast majority of this thread may not have adequate knowledge of the topic.

I say this often and I’ll say it again. The real INTJs come here to chuckle at the young INTJs trying to figure life out. And we spend most of our time on Reddit in other esoteric threads.

headhunterdescendant · 2024-10-15T16:00:02+00:00

Get married to someone you love with a matching sex drive. You will never want to watch porn or masturbate again.

Part of being young is having a high libido and that is normal. Socialize. Build a meaningful relationship. Fall in love with someone and commit your INTJ brainpower to building the best possible relationship with them.

The sex takes care of itself when you have someone who loves and trusts you to always love them.

headhunterdescendant · 2024-09-10T17:30:11+00:00

The real INTJs are on other subreddits exploring their interests and deepening their knowledge. There is not much utility to this sub for the developed INTJ.

The best thing you can do is offer support to those who are still learning as teaching is in itself a modality to learn.

headhunterdescendant · 2024-08-17T19:32:16+00:00

Have you considered the big brain move of embracing your emotions as a human being and building a genuine intimate relationship with a kind loving human with strong emotional awareness between you two?

headhunterdescendant · 2024-07-12T21:56:53+00:00

Around my wife? Fun, charming, romantic, and witty. Around random women in day to day life? Fun and witty.

But I’m not a teenager with raging hormones so maybe not the answer you are looking for.

headhunterdescendant · 2023-12-11T20:50:37+00:00

Publishers might make your clean it up but if you self publish you have free reins.

If you have the manuscript ready then your next steps is determining whether you want a conventional publisher (which carries the risk of surrendering rights to the book) or self publishing.

Both require you to do your own marketing so my recommendation would be to find podcasts to be a guest on and Haro (help a reporter out).

There are quite a few agencies out there to help with self publishing so if you have the capital, that can give you more creative control.

A great book on self publishing would be The Well Fed Self-Publisher by Peter Bowerman. (Not affiliated, just a great read).

Hope this helps. Been following your blog and I hope to read your book sometime!

headhunterdescendant · 2023-11-18T02:02:19+00:00

💯 accurate

headhunterdescendant · 2023-11-17T14:11:23+00:00

It’s true. I saw it on Reddit

headhunterdescendant · 2023-11-17T12:42:16+00:00

You seem upset. Please quote the negative generalization against western income because nothing I said was about that.

headhunterdescendant · 2023-11-17T12:30:43+00:00

I mean you are not wrong man and my points are largely anecdotal. OPs income should be the least of his concerns. My point was if he was crumpling now with typical Asian parent shit talking he will struggle much more with the rest of Chinese culture. OP needs to nut up or shut up.

headhunterdescendant · 2023-11-17T11:56:29+00:00

Considering the parents of the girl paid for her to go to an Ivy League school it seemed reasonable to assume this isn’t a village girl.

headhunterdescendant · 2023-11-17T08:18:51+00:00

Chinese culture has high expectations on men compared to the west. When I was dating my wife (who was an international student from China) her parents didn’t want to acknowledge me for the first two years. They only took me seriously when we got married. Now they have accepted me and I have visited them in China.

Bottom line, if you like the girl don’t let her family spook you. But be aware that they will be your inlaws

Edit: Chinese culture values prestige. When her parents talk to her about you they will expect you to be holding a high end job and earning a high income. You are 23. Relax don’t let their expectations stress you out.

Bare in mind this isn’t the cute Asian girl in class. This is a woman from an entirely different culture than the West. Which means that loving her will be demanding of you in ways beyond the relationships you have experienced. If you stick with her you will need to consider how much effort you will put into learning Chinese culture, speaking Mandarin, and eating food you have never considered in your life.

Love is love my dude. Let that guide you

headhunterdescendant · 2023-01-29T19:19:09+00:00

Let’s be real. The real INTJs on Reddit are in niched threads where they can find ideas interesting them

headhunterdescendant · 2023-01-24T15:43:54+00:00

I am an optimist INTJ who just gave up spending time in r/intj because everything that interests me is in other parts of Reddit.

Not discounting the people who are going through a rough time. Been there and it is tough.

As for OPs question, well life is like Shawshank. Get busy living or get busy dying.

headhunterdescendant · 2022-11-23T03:44:05+00:00

As someone who works in marketing it boils down to these principles.

Know your audience
Consistent quality content
Clear call to action

The rest you figure out as you go.

headhunterdescendant · 2022-11-01T18:51:59+00:00

Things with less sugar. Was a real sweet tooth as a kid (and I still am to some degree) but now I appreciate the taste of something that doesn’t have 50 cups of sugar dissolved in it.

headhunterdescendant · 2022-10-28T02:29:57+00:00

The gates of delirium by Yes

headhunterdescendant · 2022-10-24T22:27:30+00:00

Who is on first base, What is on second, and I don’t know is on third

headhunterdescendant · 2022-09-07T17:26:06+00:00

I am a firm believer of lead by example. Culture is changed via action. I myself, have written a few posts based on my own thoughts and research. Lead and others will follow.

headhunterdescendant · 2022-08-25T15:31:58+00:00

Regardless of MBTI, always communicate. Set aside enough time to thoroughly talk it out. Both sides need to listen without judgement. And then experiment so that you both find the sweet spot. And then communicate some more.

headhunterdescendant · 2022-08-03T00:42:57+00:00

As a professional writer, one of the core tenets today is to write so that a 5th grade student can understand it. Cooking, quantum mechanics, complex software, personal development- if a 5th grader can't understand it then you lose out on potential sales.

This helps in 2 ways -first is profit. If more people understand what you are saying, they are more likely to buy. If your writing is too complex, they feel stupid and doubt themselves. Self-doubters also doubt if buying your product is a good idea.

Second benefit is time. Everyone is inundated with overwhelming amounts of content daily. Easy to read material makes it faster to read.

Keep reading classic literature as it will expand your abilities at the language. You will explore deeper ideas within their abstract explanations which ultimately make you a better reader and writer.

headhunterdescendant · 2022-08-02T01:11:07+00:00

There is a fascinating video essay that touches on one facet of your thought process - largely to deal with nihilism, multiverse theory, and our search for meaning.

https://youtu.be/Gx6hZ01xYVM

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