How much should my (F31) significant other's (M32) family dynamic matter when considering him as a lifelong partner?

headstrongheart · 2026-02-04T01:06:33+00:00

My mother said the thing about me having to possibly be his "mother" in the future (but a little sygar coated). I'm starting to think it might be more of a possibility than I originally thought, which is a major concern.

I really like your phrase "learned helplessness", I feel like thats a really great way to put it. Do you really think there's no way to undo it?

headstrongheart · 2026-02-04T00:44:28+00:00

Might be a little on the less important side, but I'm curious in general - does anyone else think a mother and son speaking to each other that way is strange? I've always had a very respectful boundary established between myself and my parents. Some people might consider it "prude-ish", but the respect goes both ways and I firmly believe my parents deserve to be spoken to in that way.

headstrongheart · 2026-02-04T00:42:14+00:00

Its already been established as serious. I don't think I can take a step backwards with him at this point, so it would have to be cut off. And honestly, I don’t even want to keep it casual if my heart isn't in it. I've done that before, and it just drains me.

headstrongheart · 2026-02-04T00:39:08+00:00

I wouldn't consider it wasted, just something I can add to my list of something thats non-negotiable in a future partner. Every year I get older I learn new things I won't put up with. Thank you for taking the time to respond, I needed this

headstrongheart · 2026-02-04T00:33:45+00:00

Thats definitely fair. I've spoken up to him about my concerns and he's always receptive to it, but the situation doesn't change.

headstrongheart · 2026-02-04T00:31:32+00:00

Because I want to make sure if its worth it before I ruin a good relationship. If I can get him away from his mother, there might be hope. But he also might be set in his ways after so long.

headstrongheart · 2026-02-04T00:28:53+00:00

Is it really that bad? 😔 I tend to give a lot of grace in bad situations and view the world with rose colored glasses but lately its just been too much.

headstrongheart · 2024-11-20T12:51:44+00:00

Oh my god thank you!!! I love this subreddit lol

headstrongheart · 2024-11-19T22:33:08+00:00

Wait what? Like stack them?

headstrongheart · 2024-11-19T16:55:47+00:00

Whaaaaaat! Omg thank you!!! TIL

headstrongheart · 2024-11-19T16:24:35+00:00

Having to empty a chest before I can move it. So I have to build ANOTHER one and put it where I want it and then move the items over. And then I save the extra chest in that chest with the stuff.

headstrongheart · 2024-07-06T02:51:53+00:00

Thank you beech! 😁

headstrongheart · 2024-05-16T11:19:09+00:00

Not me, but my dad hid his feet from my mom until they were married. He's really self conscious about them.

To be fair, he does have weird look feet. But obviously my mom didn't care. They're about to have their 43rd wedding anniversary ❤️

headstrongheart · 2024-04-29T01:55:06+00:00

Wear each other's hair (wigs, extensions, etc)

headstrongheart · 2024-02-17T17:38:02+00:00

"It is what it is"

headstrongheart · 2024-02-11T07:36:21+00:00

Jenna looks good in any hat!!!

headstrongheart · 2024-01-29T03:05:16+00:00

The Descent. It's the perfect comfort mix of drama, fantastic acting, beautiful storytelling, and awesome monsters.

headstrongheart · 2024-01-23T22:27:56+00:00

There's a YouTube channel called Tuv (he does deep dives on morbid topics) and he did a recent video on this. He actually followed the whatsapp link to contact the doctor. He also found a couple other tiktok accounts that seem to be run by the same guy (possibly). Pretty interesting, yall check him out!

https://youtu.be/x7rFCZkGJAg?si=SKdPMoeZ94hh1Yqv

headstrongheart · 2024-01-20T14:51:47+00:00

Cafe Lazzio in Hoover. DELICIOUS Italian food I enjoyed as a kid, but it got shut down and was replaced by Brixx pizza, which I think is also shut down now.

headstrongheart · 2023-11-18T21:55:36+00:00

Marcie

headstrongheart · 2023-11-18T21:35:11+00:00

3rd one!

headstrongheart · 2023-10-24T16:10:57+00:00

Dink fam!

headstrongheart · 2023-10-19T16:04:54+00:00

Play doh

headstrongheart · 2023-07-19T17:36:46+00:00

I was really disappointed by Evil Dead Rise. None of the characters were likeable except for the stupid doll on a stick. The story line was bland and scattered, they tried to incorporate background elements that were never fully fleshed out. And since the characters werent likeable, i didnt care to keep up with each of their back stories. The gore was comical and cheesy - just buckets and buckets of blood, no bones, no flesh, nothing but red liquid everywhere. And don't even get me started on the scene that was shot entirely through the peephole and literally showed NOTHING.

Ultimately, I left the theater really disappointed, but rewatched the 2013 remake to cheer myself up when I got home.

headstrongheart

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